Date #2 tomorrow, he called, but I never gave him my number!


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inn is offline inn Post #1  July 3,2009, 8:24pm
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I met someone on-line a few weeks ago, we corresponded a few times and then met at a restaurant. We had a pleasant 4 hours and dinner was great.
I've been traveling a bit, so I've been in and out of the country a couple of times. He's emailed now and then. Before my last businesss trip he had asked for date #2. So, we're having date #2 on the 4th of July. It's all been set prior to me leaving, dinner at his place.
My question is, is that I've just returned back to the US yesterday, and today he called and left a message. The thing is, I never gave him my number.
Is this something I should be concerned about? I've checked him out and know people that used to work with him. So, from that point of view he's ok.
Need your advice please. Thanks!
 
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #2  July 3,2009, 8:28pm
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would very much appreciate it if the rain would stop, now! Thanks!

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Does he know your first and last name? Or did he get your last name from a mutual friend (you mentioned you know people who used to work with him)? It's as easy as looking it up in the phone book....
 
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yes, he knows my first and last name from my personal email.
I thought he could have asked. right? or was I supposed to offer it?? The guy seems like a gentleman. I don't know all these new dating rules anymore... thanks.
 
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Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #4  July 3,2009, 8:33pm

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Talk about making a mountain out of a molehill. The White pages or reverse look up, reverse e mail look up or an old friend or co worker or possibly 411 information. You can ask him tonight? What message did he leave for you? Silly Girl?

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inn wrote :
yes, he knows my first and last name from my personal email.
I thought he could have asked. right? or was I supposed to offer it?? The guy seems like a gentleman. I don't know all these new dating rules anymore... thanks.
I can understand how it would be frustrating to receive a phone call from someone who was never given the number. I had that happen once, but the difference was the guy made my skin crawl because he was just so creepy, so it wasn't a welcome phone call.

There's no hard and fast rule, but I think that etiquette dictates actually asking for the number and not just acquiring it. However, I wouldn't hold it against him if everything else is okay. If I was in your shoes, I would go on the date and enjoy myself. However, you must make the decision with which you feel most comfortable, because that is what is most important!
 
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Harvey7, it was a welcome home message .... perhaps your right.. thanks.

brneyedangel, thanks. the guy doesn't give me the creepy feeling. Just someone who is looking forward to seeing me again. I didn't return his call either, still fighting time zone differences.
 
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Knowing full name and location allowed me to find a friend, with whom I lost touch for a while, and that was even before the full bloom of internet technology.

You know people who can testify to his character, and you don't get the creepy vibe from him. This is more than most of us get when dating complete strangers.

If I were you, I'd move full steam ahead.

Good luck!
 
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Remember back in the olden days (i.e., pre-internet)? That's what people normally did when they wanted to reach someone - they just checked the phonebook for their number and called them...lol. I would simply call that moderately resourceful...

You've already met and had a date and are planning another one, so contacting you by phone to connect with you seems pretty grown-up, actually...lol.
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It seems very odd to me that you would have one date with the guy, be planning the next one... and NOT have given him your phone number. Why is that?

If you're comfortable enough to go to his place for dinner, you should be comfortable enough to give him your phone number for goodness sake!

Besides, since you've been traveling quite a bit it only makes sense that he would want to confirm, in a more personal way than sporadic e-mails, that you are still on for dinner. After all, he has to do some advance planning for that date such as buying food, etc.
 
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neardc wrote :
Remember back in the olden days (i.e., pre-internet)? That's what people normally did when they wanted to reach someone - they just checked the phonebook for their number and called them...lol. I would simply call that moderately resourceful...

You've already met and had a date and are planning another one, so contacting you by phone to connect with you seems pretty grown-up, actually...lol.
I almost get a feeling of disappointment when you and I agree so easily
 
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