Are we ever going to meet?


Reply
  • Page 3 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
 
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Icouldwriteabook is offline Icouldwriteabook Post #21  July 6,2009, 6:25am
Icouldwriteab…'s Avatar

Enthusiast

Joined: Jan 2009

Denver, Colorado

Posts: 540

See profile

This is a sticky situation for some. I have read posts and profiles from men complaining about women being the ones to move too slow and being tired of endless emails.
And women being put off by men "moving too fast (for them)" and wanting to go out after just a few emails.
So therefore, I have run across a few guys who sometimes try to be "too nice" and wait until the woman initiates the request to get together.

So that is what is hard, is when to ask to get together?

I like it when a guy is up front and says, "I don't like to do endless emails" and would prefer to meet quickly.

I actually prefer that too because that way both our time is not wasted, because you don't know how things will go chemistry wise.

I don't know if I personally understand the need of many, many emails before meeting. Think about in the days before online dating, a guy meets a gal in a bar or at a party, they chat for a while, he asks for her number, chat once or twice on the phone and they go out on a date. Back in the day, did the woman demand endless phone calls before meeting a guy, no, so why do some women demand that now?

But back to the original question, simply tell him that while you are enjoying your emails, you were wondering if you would be able to meet sometime soon?
 
  Reply With Quote
Icouldwriteabook is offline Icouldwriteabook Post #22  July 6,2009, 6:31am
Icouldwriteab…'s Avatar

Enthusiast

Joined: Jan 2009

Denver, Colorado

Posts: 540

See profile

thoom45 wrote :
I always ask the woman out for coffee (generally) by the third message to her, sometimes even the 2nd. (not on eharmony) Never the first, since that scares some women.
A simple meet and greet for coffee is low pressure enough that 3 emails is generally enough.

I don't have time for endless online pen-palling, that's not what i am here for. Some guys just don't get it.
I agree with you. This is just about the right time frame for me. I prefer to meet soon too because you can't tell physical chemistry by email.
 
  Reply With Quote
Reply
  • Page 3 of 3
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3


« **10PM, TUESDAY 7/7: LOGIN ISSUE SHOULD BE FIXED** | Dating | We're in open communication, but match won't use regular email »
Topic Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new topics
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is On
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

Similar Topics
Topic Topic Starter Board Replies Last Post
Matched wanted to meet after starting Open Communication MMingE Using eHarmony 24 October 7,2009 6:28pm
First Match Meeting traveling 4 hrs to meet her advice anyone? AMFC3030 Dating 11 August 4,2009 11:25am
should I meet him if I'm not that excited about his profile? treeye Dating 33 August 3,2009 10:42am
but I really want to meet other women cp30 About You 24 July 1,2009 8:22pm
First Meet...after 10 months of communication... radiogirl953 Ask a Dating Expert 8 June 25,2009 2:18pm

Looking for a Great Relationship?

Get started now. Fill out this form and take the questionnaire to receive your matches.

First Name:

I'm a:
seeking

Postal Code:

Country:

Email:

Confirm Email:

Password:


How did you hear about us?


Latest on our Dating Advice Discussion Boards

“It's important to understand the way a site works. Rigidly assuming / insisting that eH works likes all the others you're used to isn't utilizing the site functions to your best advantage. No.... ... ” –  Wiseman2

Join the “First contact on eHarmony, smile, questions, email?” discussion

“ If you have yet to meet, you don't know him or whether you two will form a connection. Connections formed over e-mail tend to be fantasies. You will see this echoed over and over by experienced ... ” –  shapeShifter79

Join the “How do i recoonect with him again?” discussion

“ Then it's a bit premature to worry about being friend-zoned. The first step is to go out on dates! What specific steps did you try? How many women did you ask out in person? Did you buy a ... ” –  shapeShifter79

Join the “For women to answer: How to avoid the friend zone” discussion

“ This is an old thread. She asked this in 2010. By now they are likely very exclusive or very over. ” –  shapeShifter79

Join the “is there a reason to ask if we're exclusive?” discussion

“ I'm sure he wouldn't get that. And I can't be sure that was the actual message. But it sems kind of likely to me.” –  boomer_gal

Join the “Why am I not successful?” discussion

“Hi eccemuliere and welcome to eHA.On an internet forum like eHA, you're going to get a wide variety of responses; some you'll like and some you won't. It's best to focus on the ones that speak to ... ” –  Sassafras54

Join the “Being blown off, or something else?” discussion

“ Although I have ignored my gut at times, in hindsight it's always been right, in terms of recognizing bad choices. QUOTE] But once we realize our past mistakes, we can use our reason to clue us ... ” –  eccemuliere

Join the “Is Your Gut Leading - or Misleading You?” discussion



All times are GMT -8. The time now is 4:41am.

Discussion Boards Archive

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2012, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Friendly URLs by vBSEO 3.6.0