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This is a sticky situation for some. I have read posts and profiles from men complaining about women being the ones to move too slow and being tired of endless emails.
And women being put off by men "moving too fast (for them)" and wanting to go out after just a few emails.
So therefore, I have run across a few guys who sometimes try to be "too nice" and wait until the woman initiates the request to get together.

So that is what is hard, is when to ask to get together?

I like it when a guy is up front and says, "I don't like to do endless emails" and would prefer to meet quickly.

I actually prefer that too because that way both our time is not wasted, because you don't know how things will go chemistry wise.

I don't know if I personally understand the need of many, many emails before meeting. Think about in the days before online dating, a guy meets a gal in a bar or at a party, they chat for a while, he asks for her number, chat once or twice on the phone and they go out on a date. Back in the day, did the woman demand endless phone calls before meeting a guy, no, so why do some women demand that now?

But back to the original question, simply tell him that while you are enjoying your emails, you were wondering if you would be able to meet sometime soon?
- July 6th, 2009, 07:25 am
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thoom45 wrote :
I always ask the woman out for coffee (generally) by the third message to her, sometimes even the 2nd. (not on eharmony) Never the first, since that scares some women.
A simple meet and greet for coffee is low pressure enough that 3 emails is generally enough.

I don't have time for endless online pen-palling, that's not what i am here for. Some guys just don't get it.
I agree with you. This is just about the right time frame for me. I prefer to meet soon too because you can't tell physical chemistry by email.
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