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DDjr is offline DDjr Post #21  July 6,2009, 11:39am
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As alluded to above, EH is just a numbers game. It takes extreme patience! (And will be a sport at next years X games!)

Look at all your match settings. Set them one level beyond what you really want. If you really want 150 miles, then set it to 250 miles.

Find a reason to send questions to all/most of your matches.

Decide if you really answered the personality profile questions honestly. It's very easy to answer the question as you think you are expected to then what is really true for you.

One other factor is that you are pretty close to the bottom end of the age range for EH.
 
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chawks64 is offline chawks64 Post #22  July 6,2009, 9:54pm
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If you're using the same pic on eH that you are using on these boards, it's a good one. You look friendly but still intelligent. Never EVER post a shirtless picture unless it's incidental to the picture, like if you're having a BBQ poolside or surfing. Turns women off quicker than almost anything else.

I agree with having a female friend look over your profile. I did the same thing, using my friend's husband. Women just have different words and phrases that get our radar going, and you want to avoid any red flags.

Most of all, be patient and thick-skinned. No matter who you are, you will have a lot of rejection. Like the guys are saying, it's a numbers game. The more you put yourself out there, the more you get rejected, but the up side is more dates as well. It is hard at first, but you get a little used to it.

By the way, a lot of women think smart is sexy!
 
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I've had over 350 matches closed in 5 months and no dates from Eha. At first it was troubling, now it just rolls off my sleeve.
Good luck! and don't take it too seriously.
 
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can't imagine. your profile looks like hot stuff to me. i think it's eHarmony. at least, i found eH kinda spirit draining.
 
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chawks64 wrote :
I agree with having a female friend look over your profile. I did the same thing, using my friend's husband. Women just have different words and phrases that get our radar going, and you want to avoid any red flags.
I had a professional cheerleader for a NFL team friend of mine look at my profile, and she helped me out a great deal back when I started online dating.

With her help, I was able to write a awesome profile.
 
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