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As alluded to above, EH is just a numbers game. It takes extreme patience! (And will be a sport at next years X games!)

Look at all your match settings. Set them one level beyond what you really want. If you really want 150 miles, then set it to 250 miles.

Find a reason to send questions to all/most of your matches.

Decide if you really answered the personality profile questions honestly. It's very easy to answer the question as you think you are expected to then what is really true for you.

One other factor is that you are pretty close to the bottom end of the age range for EH.
- July 6th, 2009, 12:39 pm
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If you're using the same pic on eH that you are using on these boards, it's a good one. You look friendly but still intelligent. Never EVER post a shirtless picture unless it's incidental to the picture, like if you're having a BBQ poolside or surfing. Turns women off quicker than almost anything else.

I agree with having a female friend look over your profile. I did the same thing, using my friend's husband. Women just have different words and phrases that get our radar going, and you want to avoid any red flags.

Most of all, be patient and thick-skinned. No matter who you are, you will have a lot of rejection. Like the guys are saying, it's a numbers game. The more you put yourself out there, the more you get rejected, but the up side is more dates as well. It is hard at first, but you get a little used to it.

By the way, a lot of women think smart is sexy!
- July 6th, 2009, 10:54 pm
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I've had over 350 matches closed in 5 months and no dates from Eha. At first it was troubling, now it just rolls off my sleeve.
Good luck! and don't take it too seriously.
- July 6th, 2009, 11:14 pm
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can't imagine. your profile looks like hot stuff to me. i think it's eHarmony. at least, i found eH kinda spirit draining.
- July 6th, 2009, 11:44 pm
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chawks64 wrote :
I agree with having a female friend look over your profile. I did the same thing, using my friend's husband. Women just have different words and phrases that get our radar going, and you want to avoid any red flags.
I had a professional cheerleader for a NFL team friend of mine look at my profile, and she helped me out a great deal back when I started online dating.

With her help, I was able to write a awesome profile.
- July 7th, 2009, 05:09 am
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Josh_81 wrote :
28 years old
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178 lbs
Spanish Professor/Tutor


I decided I'd rewrite my post since it was way too long, and no one was responding must have been a bad sign.

I'm new to this forum and group, and I just wanted to say "hi" to everyone first.

I've joined eHarmony off and on with no success at all. Most of my matches close me, or at at most go as far as stage 2. I guess my biggest question is...how long do I have to wait or is there a point where I should just give up and accept that among the hundreds of matches, there is no one out there.

I have my faults, as I clearly wrote last time. I consider myself shy, introverted, and overly professor like when I'm working. I have been running to keep myself in shape, but not enough to post a shirtless photo.

I don't consider myself as low self-esteem, but I feel as though a myriad of signals could be turning women off to me.

I have no idea what my competition looks like on the other end. Still, I rarely get matches to respond, to even view me, and they close with "other."

Josh.

Hey Josh:
As a professor myself, I think many people are scared away by the job title. Don't worry about the length of your post. You want a literate girl, so present that side of yourself. She'll eventually show up!
Best wishes,
Laurissa
- July 7th, 2009, 02:12 pm
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