Do men just want women who need to be rescued?


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55Production is offline 55Production Post #41  July 16,2009, 3:00pm
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You got it right. They (men) are hard-wired to 'rescue'. I'm amazed at the numbers that will TELL you they don't like it, but peek into their past and they are filled with women they 'rescued'. They complain, but they find another one just like her! Successful, independent scares them. Here's an easy way to put them at ease. I discovered it by accident. I twisted my ankle and could barely walk. I was in the middle of grass with no where to sit. All of a sudden I was 'helpless' and he was 'rescuing' and he was at ease and happy as a clam. I'll be twisting my ankle on purpose in the future! I couldn't believe how any type of 'rescue' seems to turn them on. So, yeah, I'm suggesting feign injury or something of that nature so that you appear to 'need' him which is what seems to turn them on!
 
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Asking a man for help you legitimately need is reasonable, and probably a good idea in most cases (provided you do not appear to be taking advantage – i.e., make sure you reciprocate.)
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jayjay wrote :
Continuing along this line of thought.....maybe the appeal of 'rescuing' a woman is for a man to feel appreciated. It may very well not be the actual act of 'rescuing' the woman...but the feeling of being appreciated and even needed. A man can be made to feel appreciated without rescuing a woman....but that is one way in which he's likely to get these feelings. It's hard to know what women mean when they say they are 'independent'....but if this includes a man not feeling appreciated and of great value in a relationship he may look for these feelings elsewhere.
Good point!

Though I am highly independent and financially secure, I tend to need rescuing all the time because I am also extremely absent-minded. I lock myself out of my house and/or car at least several times a year...always forgetting things, need constant reminders and sticky notes.

When I am at work, or happily examining/evaluating data, or writing research papers, I am very focused. But I am the original nutty professor, and would forget my head if it wasn't attached to my neck!

Thus, men always see me as someone that needs rescuing...from myself! I hate that, and try as hard as I can to stay focused on everyday activities and not move so fast... so that I can remember things.

So....I have come to the conclusion that independent women can make a man feel appreciated if we are klutzes..or as one poster stated, sprain an ankle every so often! (lol)
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To me, an independant woman that works a lot tends to be very stressed.

I do have stress but I am very good at dealing with my own stress. I am in a very good mood 90 percent of the time.

Life is way too fun for there to be a whole lot of stress. Many people put that on themselves.

If I have a choice, then I'd pick the less stressed person to be with any day of the week.
 
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