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verylibra wrote :
I volunteer to be rescued!
Oh drat. I just confessed I'm not a fireman. Not an EMT either.


The 411: Call 911. lolz
Last edited by 6dle899; July 4th, 2009 at 03:07 pm. Reason: actually I'm more of a "Farenheit 451" fireman. (refer to my avatar !)
- July 4th, 2009, 03:05 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
What sort of distress are you in ... this time?
feeling very unlovable today...
- July 4th, 2009, 03:19 pm
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6dle899 wrote :
Oh drat. I just confessed I'm not a fireman. Not an EMT either.


The 411: Call 911. lolz
I bet you could be trained...
- July 4th, 2009, 03:20 pm
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verylibra wrote :
I bet you could be trained...




To sit up, roll over, shake hands, play dead?
- July 4th, 2009, 03:27 pm
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6dle899 wrote :



To sit up, roll over, shake hands, play dead?
YEP!
- July 4th, 2009, 03:50 pm
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kimberlynicole27 wrote :
I think it just depends on the guy. Yes, in general, men are fixers. They need tasks. They need to be needed. But, to what extent... depends on who he is. I would think a majority of men want a women with their s**t together. Independent like you said. And good for you for being that kind of girl. Someone's who's strong, focused, and well-rounded. Maybe it's the kind of guys you're naturally (subconsciously) attracted to.. the fixers? And if it is that way, then that's when we do the soul-searching lol. 'What is it about me that I'm attracting these particular guys....?' If that answers your question And the kids thing... I think it's the same... depends on the guy.
True, we will attempt to find a solution if something needs fixing. However, we do NOT need tasks. Trust me...we don't wait with baited breath every weekend for our "Honey Do" list. We'd rather go fishing or to a football game. And I might add we'd love it if you DID have your s**t together so that you may join us fishing or at the football game. Don't women want men who have their s**t together? Why make this a gender issue because I don't think it is.

I don't know a single guy who goes out of his way looking for women with children. 99.99% of the time guys do not seek women with children living at home. I believe there is a fair percentage of men who will accommodate women with children IF that's what it takes to be with the woman who meets their requirements in a SO.
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Dont get upset..but possible your saying you dont want to be rescued but your body language, or your personality/attitude may say you kinda do. I could see you are independant and dont have kids and yes I know a couple men who say "woman who dont have something is wrong with them" ...but thats another story about those men lol.. Really you probably just want affection etc. but men see it as a rescue. maybe you been single for a long time and the man see that as desperate so he feels like rescue? but then everyone right now in life man and woman are on a "how can i help" motive and it can drive you nuts.lllolol
- July 11th, 2009, 10:32 am
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D_Lion wrote :
I don’t think you should view working hard as detrimental to dating.

...[edit for brevity]

One thing to keep in mind, the longer one works (or combination of work and school, which is a lot of my experience), the more important it becomes to not also have other reasons not to see your partner.
Also learned later than I ought to have.

Corollary: when I found myself being okay with working too many hours, took me a bit to see that "independence" was my personal excuse to not deal with a relationship that had gone south long before. Definitely not proud of that one, but dealt with it once I realized what I was doing.

Thanks, D. You're a prince among frogs.
- July 11th, 2009, 01:39 pm
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Not really I think many guys out there would appreciate a women who is a good influence, and inspires success and the pursuit of perfection.
- July 14th, 2009, 01:56 pm
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lil_lamb wrote :
men, like women, want to feel good. they want to feel they're enough as they are. that's really the bottom line.
Continuing along this line of thought.....maybe the appeal of 'rescuing' a woman is for a man to feel appreciated. It may very well not be the actual act of 'rescuing' the woman...but the feeling of being appreciated and even needed. A man can be made to feel appreciated without rescuing a woman....but that is one way in which he's likely to get these feelings. It's hard to know what women mean when they say they are 'independent'....but if this includes a man not feeling appreciated and of great value in a relationship he may look for these feelings elsewhere.
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