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roguewolf1 wrote :
But first I need my tinfoil hat for protection.
Hahaha, as you are aware - in CSC the wimmenz use their tinfoil hats when performing nekkid dance
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roguewolf1 wrote :
PS: the most important thing is not if we accept you. It's you accepting yourself. Be the woman you were meant to be.

You will attract us because that is nature. I can't tell you how many BBW I've seen that were so gorgeous!@
I agree with that. A friend of mine runs a regular party event for BBWs which i used to go to every month before my ex finally started letting me have my son for the weekend. There were all shades of big women there and they were gorgeous, not because they were big but because they had fantastic attitudes and personalities that wouldn't quit, if a guy had a problem with their size then it was the guys problem, not the womans.
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Nanette wrote :
this word always makes me think of Mary Poppins.
The first person to do that godawful Dick Van Dyke "Cockney" accent gets shot!!
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wordwoman wrote :
Some men do; some men don't. Just as some men like red-haired girls, while other men prefer brown-haired ones; and others have a thing about tattoos and others could care less. It's a matter of personal preference, instead of a generalization of fact.

If a guy digs you, he's going to dig you and will want to get to know you, regardless of the fullness of your figure. As for the men who say your figure isn't for them, so what; their figure might not be to your liking either, cause that's your preference.

I second that emotion. I think it is a preference for both sexes. Some men are just as vain as some women, and vice a versa. And lady you are just absolutely stunning. As everyone has mentioned, you just have to be patient. Mr. Right for you is out there.

what type of art do you work in? Artists are awesome!
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oops! sent it through twice. :/
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I think we need to consider whether full figured is used as a synonym for fat by many women and men. My biggest concern about getting involved with a fat guy would be the negative health implications.
- September 5th, 2009, 12:22 pm
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Wow, I have been missing something here ! ! !

Seems we all have ways of creating road blocks to keep anyone from really getting to know just "WHO" may be the person hiding "IN" what we all are so busy judging on the outside ! !

Just my humble observation as to some other reasons so many of us may be here instead of where we wish we were.
- September 5th, 2009, 01:07 pm
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Laughingdaily wrote :
Just my humble observation as to some other reasons so many of us may be here instead of where we wish we were.
And where exactly might that place we wish we were be? Because I know I don't wish that I was in a relationship with someone I'm not attracted to.
- September 5th, 2009, 02:23 pm
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gothustartus wrote :
A friend of mine runs a regular party event for BBWs which i used to go to every month. There were all shades of big women there and they were gorgeous, not because they were big but because they had fantastic attitudes and personalities that wouldn't quit
I'm sure that is your experience, but c'mon, you're talking about parties. Really, how many people go to a party with grumbly, crabby, bad attittudes? Perhaps a few, but not many. Socializing with people at parties doesn't give you a view into how they behave in day-to-day life.

I saw an earlier comment, in this thread, stating that larger women are generally better people than thinner or fit women. Kinder, more caring, loving, etc.
What the heck??

You can't assign personality traits, values, dispositions, character, behaviors to a whole genre' of people. Well... you can... but it would be a gross generalization and quite innacurate.

Some of the most selfless, loving, giving, caring women I've ever known (toward their children, spouses, families, friends and even strangers) in my looooooooong life... also just happen to be amazingly fit women with very fitness-oriented lifestyles. Is that to say that all fit people are this way? Of course not. That would be a gross generalization, wouldn't it?


  • There are kind, caring, loving people and there are selfish, thoughtless people among any given group... including those who are heavy and those who are not.
  • There are sour dispositions and there are pleasant dispositions among any given group... including those who are heavy and those who are not.
  • There are happy people and there are unhappy people among any given group... including those who are heavy and those who are not.
  • There are laid back, even keeled temperaments and there are cranky, edgy, easily agitated, impatient people among any given group... including those who are heavy and those who are not.


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the most important thing is not if we accept you. It's you accepting yourself. Be the woman you were meant to be.
Exactly! Be what you want to be. Be the way that you want to be.

For those who truly are happy heavier... who do feel like Big Beautiful Women... great! More power to you!

For those who are not happy as-is... those who tuly feel you would be happier being smaller, more fit, or more whatever... then you have the power to make the changes that you want to make.

Either way, I think its very important to be what we want to be, for ourselves, first and foremost. For it is only then that we can be with someone who likes us the same way that we like ourselves.
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It took me a long time - a very long time - to stop caring what someone thought of my weight and whether they thought I was attractive or not. Ultimately, I'd be obsessing over the opinion of someone who hasn't given me another thought past the fact that they're not attracted to me. People who write me off, for whatever reason, don't deserve to take up space in my mind.

Even as I continue to lose weight (I am committed to being the healthiest I can be and love working out in the gym - and I do not play around when I'm in there), I know there are some men for whom I will still be unattractively heavy. I have no feelings either way for these folks - everyone has their opinions, and everyone's entitled to them. I am simply not everyone's cup of tea, just like everyone else isn't mine. I don't waste time arguing with people who insist that men don't like heavy women. If you don't, you don't. Now, when you start making nasty or condescending comments, then I'm taking issue, otherwise, if you don't think I'm attractive because I'm too heavy for you, I don't care. Just leave me alone and get out of the way of the men who think I am. And there are plenty of them.

I have gotten a lot, a LOT of interest on other dating sites (some on eH, but not as much as on others; eH is a strange, strange experience...), and have not communicated with many men because they weren't Christians (required), because they weren't looking for LTRs (what is a "casual relationship"? Is that what I think it is....eeewww), because they lived in another state or country, etc. If you like you, take care of yourself, present yourself well (hey, a lady NEEDS to look good, whatever "looking good" is for you; do it to feel good about how you look and others WILL notice) there ARE men out there who will find you attractive, OP, I promise. But just becasue EVERYONE doesn't find you attractive, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you, regardless of what the folks who don't find you attractive say. Honestly, their opinion of you simply does not count.

Don't give folks who have already written you off any kind of power or authority in your life. I know, easier said than done, but keep working at and you will be much happier.
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