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jimmycann wrote :
Hey there!

I'm so glad you have a positive attitude. That is beautiful in itself. Also YES, you are beautiful.

Men DO have that aversion to heavy set women though. I know it sux. Many times you feel like they don't even give you a chance to show you are a nice person. How do you ever win that way right?

I feel the same way for analogous reasons. I have facial hair and I've been told that its a turn off.

I'm a scinetist, and I've been told that that's a turn-off due to the way I speak. I guess my speech can be too overwhelming? What's the right word? Too articulate? Something like that? Intimidating maybe? Cold? Too calculated instead of funny and empathetic?

I have a toned athletic stature, I THINK I have a decent looking bust (Face/head.)? Yet I've been on these dating sites for about 5 months w/ NOTHING but a few responses that were from women who were WAY not my type...and that's it. Not one girl who would be considered by the materialistic/superficial population as attractive. Or above a 5 ot of 10 on the infanous "scale".

I'd a thought I'd get at least a mix of responses, but not even close. I think I've gotten maybe 5 responses (Winks/hello's.) in 5 months. I try and spark comunications with as many women as possibe too. They just NEVER respond?

So, anyway, hang in there. I'm trying to. It will eventually happen for you.

Some guys PREFER full figured women I've heard. It's becoming more and more popular.
Personally I like a guy with a brain lol

And sadly this is how our society is today, superficial on all accounts they could be ugly on the inside but normally people only care that the person is hot on the outside :P

I'm with you I myself am a full figured gal
- July 20th, 2009, 04:04 pm
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waltercl wrote :
I've posted the below in other threads dealing with weight:

At some point someone is going to introduce Marilyn Monroe into the discussion so I've taken it upon myself to start posting this in all weight threads to debunk the Marilyn Monroe overweight Urban Myth.

Here are her official measurments and size:

Height: 5 feet, 5½ inches
Weight: 118-140 pounds
Bust: 35-37 inches
Waist: 22-23 inches
Hips: 35-36 inches
Bra size: 36D


Consider that 140 pounds is what she was at her heaviest. Also consider some of that weight can be attributed to her 36D bra size.

For argument sake let's just say Marilyn Monroe was on average around 130 (not a mathematical average but what she may have been most of her adult life). At 5'5 1/2 that would not be considered overweight by any standards.
I think it is great you remember her measurements....her size because of the measurements was a size 12 to 14. The point I like to make is that it is important for every woman to realize that you must be comfortable with the skin your in. In the reverse, realize some of the men who are particular about your weight, looks or etc. aren't exactly prizes themselves and tend not to be the most fit or attractive either.

I believe that no matter what self-confidence, charisma, Bud Light and a little sports knowledge can win any man...any time. Preferences are there for us to gauge what we will or will not take. There is nothing wrong with a man saying he doesn't like overweight women just like there is nothing wrong with me saying I don't want men with long hair or etc. The preference is fine..however, the way some people either men or women who are overweight get treated is not!!! (and that's what's up! or in better terms that may be the key issue. When does the preference cross over to prejudice?)
- July 20th, 2009, 05:14 pm
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Walter and Sheera - a match made in heaven. I think I have a talent for matchmaking!


-- goes to google Godwin's law. Glen Stewart Godwin? He's slim and fit too.


Well, so much for making broad assumptions and sweeping generalizations about people based on their body types.

But I think I WILL ride my bike for one hour today, because it makes me feel better and is a good stress reliever. And then a cold shower might help me too.
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There is a difference between full figured and over weight. I am full figured, with fat, but the thing is I am very active, I'm on a swim team and water polo team, and I do outdoor activties. But then again it depends on the man himself, because there is never one general like that all men have for women. Each man has his opinion on what is attractive. But it is always good for both men and women to be active, its okay to sit around, but you must balance it out with physical activites. Not to mention eating well, there still can be enjoyment of junk food, but eat it in moderation. Yet there are still women and men who eat well and are active, but are still full figured, in this case than it is the genetic makeup. All I am trying to say is that you can not beat yourself up because of your appearance, there is someone out there for everyone. Just as long as your healthy, your beautiful.
- July 23rd, 2009, 08:57 am
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There are plenty of men out there who like a fuller figure on a woman, i used to see quite a few of them at a regular BBW party i went to with friends, unfortunately there are also lots of sheep who are more concerned with a media driven image of who they "should" look for.

There is a nasty habit among lots of men of being hung up on image, their girlfriends aren't people they're accessories, arm candy, and so if you're not a six foot blonde with boobs like zeppelins or an anorexic supermodel then you are effectively invisible, not someone he wants to be seen with though he may still try to sleep with you.

Ok, some of the guys who do go for larger women are going to be chancers, guys who figure that BBWs are more desperate and will be grateful for any attention, worse still sometimes they'll be right, but not all guys are like that. There is gold in them thar hills, you just have to dig through half the mountain to find it.

For myself size doesn't automatically make someone attractive or unnatractive unless it's very extreme, if someone is so big that they can't even walk then that would put me off but not so much because of the size itself, that's just a cosmetic detail, but because getting to that size and staying there is usually due to personal problems that i might not want to live with. And that's as true for the anorexics as it is for the larger ladies.

For me what makes someone attractive is attitude, a personality that draws me in and makes me want to dig deeper. I know plenty of larger women who are as bouncy and bubbly as hell and they get plenty of interest from guys who see a fun woman, not a dress size.
- July 25th, 2009, 01:00 am
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WildWolf wrote :
There is a difference between full figured and over weight. I am full figured, with fat, but the thing is I am very active, I'm on a swim team and water polo team, and I do outdoor activties. But then again it depends on the man himself, because there is never one general like that all men have for women. Each man has his opinion on what is attractive. But it is always good for both men and women to be active, its okay to sit around, but you must balance it out with physical activites. Not to mention eating well, there still can be enjoyment of junk food, but eat it in moderation. Yet there are still women and men who eat well and are active, but are still full figured, in this case than it is the genetic makeup. All I am trying to say is that you can not beat yourself up because of your appearance, there is someone out there for everyone. Just as long as your healthy, your beautiful.
That's right....such as the sister of a champion bodybuilder who weighs 180 lbs with hardly any fat on her. As long as the weight isn't fat...a woman can be big but not overweight.
- July 25th, 2009, 07:03 am
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Personally, I feel that there is no one who matches the "ideal" person. We all have drawbacks and flaws. I am a woman, but to me a woman who is full-figured can be just a beautiful as the woman who is smaller figured. The trick is to look your best and be the best person you are. If someone can't see you for who you are, and just the pounds you are carrying (that we all want off anyway), then they aren't worth it. A person can have perfect physique and nothing behind it. I would rather have a man who is plump with an incredible personality and sense of humor.
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Here is a tale of two brothers.

My brother prefers women that are slender with small breast.

I on the other hand prefer women that are curvy and buxom. The more buxom the better. If a woman is a little over weight it doesnt bother me and if its in the right place it adds to my attraction.

But where I draw the line is obesity where the woman doesnt have a figure.
- July 25th, 2009, 08:29 am
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I think it is an individual preference. Your question makes me wonder... Do most woman like skinny guys?
- July 25th, 2009, 09:03 am
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bluskies4ever wrote :
Walter and Sheera - a match made in heaven. I think I have a talent for matchmaking!


-- goes to google Godwin's law. Glen Stewart Godwin? He's slim and fit too.


Well, so much for making broad assumptions and sweeping generalizations about people based on their body types.

But I think I WILL ride my bike for one hour today, because it makes me feel better and is a good stress reliever. And then a cold shower might help me too.
How about a cookie?
- July 25th, 2009, 05:37 pm
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