would you continue to date a guy who wants you to argue with him?


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Yes, but ask him why he wants you to do that. 0 0%
No, its one step towards him being emotionally abusive towards you. 6 75.00%
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EMTZ is offline EMTZ Post #11  July 3,2009, 11:39am
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Is this guy in some sort of training to be patient, cool as cucumber, and/or thick skinned or something?

It might be nice to have someone like that once a while. Imagine you have just had a bad day and feel that if only you could take it out on somebody. You would actually make him so happy by taking it out on him.
 
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SpyderAlice wrote :
OK, I'm currently kinda sorta dating a guy i met on a different site(and yes i have a eharmony account i just don't rally us it). anyway, we only had on date which was a few weeks ago, and have had to reschedule our second date (which is next friday) however we keep in contact by phone. and from some reason as of late, he's trying to gt me to argue with him, by making him mad on pourpose. However i'm constantly tryinig to tell him thats NOT who i am, i dont like arguing with people, and i dont want to become one of those girls who ends up being a b**** and wants to insult the person their with just for the heck of it.

basically what im asking is should i cancel my 2nd date with him, and cut off contact with him? or stick it out, and just argue with him as wishes.
You have tried, repeatedly it seems, to tell him that this isn't who you are, nor is it who you wish to become.

It seems that you are looking for the answer that you already know somewhere inside of you to be true, so ask yourself, are you going to allow yourself to be changed based on one date with a man who is trying to change you? Do you want to allow this influence in your life?

Arguing is not something that is pleasant for most people, yet from your post, he seems to want this. If you pursue this relationship, is this going to be a happy relationship for you? Or, instead, will it become something that you dread being a part of? Only you can truly answer these questions, and I believe you already have in your post.

I wish you the best of luck.
 
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personally, I would cut him off.
I think there is some underlying factor, such as abusive or he gets a kick at it.
Which ever it is, I don't think I would want to stick around to know. If you feel comfortable enough, ask why but you may be cut off guard by his answer. Just my humble opinion.
 
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hazmat is offline hazmat Post #14  July 3,2009, 11:55am
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Next, he'll be handing you some diapers and a riding crop to spank him with. (no, I don't speak from experience)
 
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EMTZ is offline EMTZ Post #15  July 3,2009, 12:09pm
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hazmat wrote :
Next, he'll be handing you some diapers ... to spank him with.
What about Depends?
 
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Quendy is offline Quendy Post #16  July 3,2009, 12:43pm
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Why would any grown up want to date a drama queen? Better to be alone in peace than to share a house with a contentious badger.
 
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SpyderAlice is offline SpyderAlice Post #17  July 16,2009, 4:11pm
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Thank You, everyone for your advice on what i should do. i broke it off with him, and opted to try and stay friends (obviously he wasnt intrested so i havent talked to him since). But again thank you for the advice.
 
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