Blind Date scenario

In this type of circumstance, am I better off just assuming she can take the hint or would it have been better off to just be direct and explain that I wasn't attracted because of her size and appearance?

I agreed to meet someone for a blind date and I chose a late night movie.

I came across her on another dating site and this was our first meeting.

We talked on the phone a few times so I had a firm grasp of who she was but as always you never really know someone until you see them in the flesh.

I recognized her face right off when she walked up, but I wasn't prepared for her size, not in my wildest dreams.

She was what you'd characterize as BBW and must have been 250-300lbs easily at a height of 5'8".

It's hard to look someone in the eyes and feign interest when you're absolutely turned off physically.

I was friendly and amicable, but I found myself avoiding her eye contact most of the night even when we were talking.

To say I was surprised by her appearance was an understatement.

By the end of the movie, I was more relaxed and able to take things more in stride, but I simply couldn't understand why she didn't mention anything about her size to me.

Her pics didn't really reveal her bodytype, and while she listed herself as "Ample", I wasn't prepared for it.

Women, if you know you are obese to this degree, do you really think by hiding it you're going to get any farther with a guy?

When we left the theater, I explained to her that I needed to get up early for my workout and I think she understood that I wasn't attracted.

This was the most shocking dating experience I've ever had.

It's not so much that I didn't find her attractive, but I found myself wondering exactly WHO would.

In this type of circumstance, am I better off just assuming she can take the hint or would it have been better off to just be direct and explain that I wasn't attracted because of her size and appearance?

Telling her you aren't attracted to her because she is significantly overweight would be completely pointless and needlessly hurtful. What would you or her gain by this? The only effect it would have would be to make her feel horrible. So don't do it.

I agreed to meet someone for a blind date and I chose a late night movie.

I came across her on another dating site and this was our first meeting.

We talked on the phone a few times so I had a firm grasp of who she was but as always you never really know someone until you see them in the flesh.

I recognized her face right off when she walked up, but I wasn't prepared for her size, not in my wildest dreams.

She was what you'd characterize as BBW and must have been 250-300lbs easily at a height of 5'8".

It's hard to look someone in the eyes and feign interest when you're absolutely turned off physically.

I was friendly and amicable, but I found myself avoiding her eye contact most of the night even when we were talking.

To say I was surprised by her appearance was an understatement.

By the end of the movie, I was more relaxed and able to take things more in stride, but I simply couldn't understand why she didn't mention anything about her size to me.

Her pics didn't really reveal her bodytype, and while she listed herself as "Ample", I wasn't prepared for it.

Women, if you know you are obese to this degree, do you really think by hiding it you're going to get any farther with a guy?

When we left the theater, I explained to her that I needed to get up early for my workout and I think she understood that I wasn't attracted.

This was the most shocking dating experience I've ever had.

It's not so much that I didn't find her attractive, but I found myself wondering exactly WHO would.

In this type of circumstance, am I better off just assuming she can take the hint or would it have been better off to just be direct and explain that I wasn't attracted because of her size and appearance?

It's not so much that I didn't find her attractive, but I found myself wondering exactly WHO would.

That comment makes you sound like a jerk, at least imo. I understand everyone has their preferences, but to assume no one would find her attractive is mean.

I'm a curvy gal and plenty of guys have found me attractive and I get a lot of compliments.

I'm glad for her that you left early. I wouldn't want to hang out with someone so judgmental.

Look, I don't mean to sound like an asshole, but she looked nothing like the pics and I had no idea she was that obese.

I tried to make the best of it!

She wasn't curvy........whatever that means.......she was morbidly obese!

There's a difference between overweight and obese to the point where it's unhealthy.

Am I being judgemental because she doesn't meet my standards?

So be it.......