What We Can Learn From Toxic Women

What We Can Learn From Toxic Women

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Co6aka is offline Co6aka Post #61  July 16,2009, 4:17pm
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HonestGal wrote :
What is toxic? And is it the same for men?
Well, from my experience with my ex-wife: Counterdependent, devalues and invalidates things and people, caustically sarcastic, spiteful, demanding, manipulative and controlling, arrogant and vengeful, entitled and superior to all, has illogical irrational perceptions, plays the victim and continually seeks validation and support from third parties, things and people always viewed as either all good or all bad, volatile moods, inappropriate uncontrolled anger, threatening, slapping, hitting, kicking, biting, throwing stuff, cheating.

That just about sums it up.

Oh it was fun... living with a psychopath. I should have let the cops take her away. A mistake that cost me a bundle. Shrink simply said "She's incapable of maintaining a relationship with anyone." A husband who behaved that way toward his wife would probably be locked up in a psycho ward, but for a woman it's just "hormonal."

Now what I'd like to know is, where can I find the/any NON-toxic women?
 
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Co6aka wrote :
Well, from my experience with my ex-wife: Counterdependent, devalues and invalidates things and people, caustically sarcastic, spiteful, demanding, manipulative and controlling, arrogant and vengeful, entitled and superior to all, has illogical irrational perceptions, plays the victim and continually seeks validation and support from third parties, things and people always viewed as either all good or all bad, volatile moods, inappropriate uncontrolled anger, threatening, slapping, hitting, kicking, biting, throwing stuff, cheating.

That just about sums it up.

Oh it was fun... living with a psychopath. I should have let the cops take her away. A mistake that cost me a bundle. Shrink simply said "She's incapable of maintaining a relationship with anyone." A husband who behaved that way toward his wife would probably be locked up in a psycho ward, but for a woman it's just "hormonal."

Now what I'd like to know is, where can I find the/any NON-toxic women?
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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #63  July 16,2009, 4:41pm
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sabete2002 wrote :
We're here!!
+1 000 000 000....

The only problem with the Canines is that they sometimes forget to follow that poweful sense of smell of theirs, and choose to follow completely ridiculous self-help nonsense, when they are actually in great need of Real Loving help from the Moon, full of Sweet and Soulful flavor of Ice Cream! And this kind of Ice Cream is Good for everyone because there are No Calories and No Toxicity of any kind hidden inside!

PS. Is it just a coincidence that the Pathetique is currently resounding from my CD Player?

But I also committed the forgivable crime of justified cheating and know what's coming up next... And all I can say is WOOF! (yes, I'm desperately channeling the eternal optimism of my adopted and dearly beloved VeryLibra)

And can I also scream to the powers that be WOOOTZ!!!! Can I make this any LOUDER or CLEARER?
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HonestGal wrote :
What is toxic? And is it the same for men?

Lunar Dictionary Definition of "Toxic" reads "Openly Concealed Lies". And this is a rare exception where even intent is irrelevant for lies can only lead to distruction of love and trust in the end. What else can be more "toxic"?

Enough seiousness though, let's Live La Vida Loca and have some Crazy Loving Fun!!!
 
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cwhite1028 is offline cwhite1028 Post #65  July 24,2009, 5:36am
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If that lady is toxic, then I'm like a moth to a candle... I smell incongruency...

Funny how the post on Toxic Men featured a photo portraying a negative mood than this one.*
And how that article garnered the ole "I hate men" responses and "this male did this to me" posts.

While this one garners nuttin but wide eyed males {lurkers} steering cleer of a certain online "trap." While others carefully treading internet waters, waiting...

*having looked at over 50,000 photos and negatives, I'm qualified to say this.
I have that Moth to Flame issue, howeverI am getting better at spotting it.

PS: Moon tans are so nice....
 
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waltercl is offline waltercl Post #66  July 24,2009, 5:48am
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Co6aka wrote :
Well, from my experience with my ex-wife: Counterdependent, devalues and invalidates things and people, caustically sarcastic, spiteful, demanding, manipulative and controlling, arrogant and vengeful, entitled and superior to all, has illogical irrational perceptions, plays the victim and continually seeks validation and support from third parties, things and people always viewed as either all good or all bad, volatile moods, inappropriate uncontrolled anger, threatening, slapping, hitting, kicking, biting, throwing stuff, cheating.

That just about sums it up.

Oh it was fun... living with a psychopath. I should have let the cops take her away. A mistake that cost me a bundle. Shrink simply said "She's incapable of maintaining a relationship with anyone." A husband who behaved that way toward his wife would probably be locked up in a psycho ward, but for a woman it's just "hormonal."

Now what I'd like to know is, where can I find the/any NON-toxic women?
Let me just say that I can completely identify with some of this. However....just as we tell women that they are responsible for not getting caught up in subsequent relationships with the same type of guys, the same things goes for us men.

It took me a couple of years after the divorce to fully realize what it was in me that was attracted to this kind of person to begin with. It then took some years to work on it. I'm so glad I did not get into any relationships during that time. I would have either chosen another toxic person, or I would have self-sabotaged a relationship with a healthy person. Of course if I were still in that co-dependent mindset I would have come to these boards and bashed women as being the problem
 
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Lots of "Katies" out there, unfortunately -- I know, I've dated a few! A narcissistic woman is the most toxic of all women. She will show brief "flashes" of empathy and kindness, leading you to believe she's in with both feet and you're a true team, but make no mistake, fellas: she's in it for herself, and what she can get out of your "relationship." What do you have that she can exploit? That's the first question she asks.
 
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Mickey275 is offline Mickey275 Post #68  December 14,2009, 8:18pm
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I also want to say that I agree 100% with Donquixote and mightyj. Lots of women -- particularly beautiful, self-described "successful" women -- come with an outrageous sense of entitlement. Some are almost sociopathic in their belief that they don't have to play by the same rules that the rest of us must abide by. They lie, manipulate, and jerk people around to get whatever they need with no concern about the negative, sometimes hurtful impact of their words and actions. Kudos to Mr. Quixote for ending it w/ his Toxic Lady. I bet she threw a fit, didn't she? ("Who does this guy think he is? Nobody talks to me like that?" ) There's only one thing to do when you've hooked up with an "entitled" woman: exit, stage left!!
 
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 10 years in a marriage, I now see a totaly selfish and controlling woman.One that could not remain  commited and/or  satisfied.  A woman who dates a guy, marries him  becomes unhappy, tells lies, makes up stuff, finds a boyfriend then divorces the husband then marries the boyfriend then starts this process all over again, what can be said about this type of woman?  I'm going to a better place and will take it very slow!
 
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bookhead is offline bookhead Post #70  January 4,2010, 6:19pm
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I have been with a toxic woman for over eight years and although I left her over two years ago, I only filed for divorce recently as I kept trying, kept hoping, kept praying that things would work out.  There is such a sad and distracted quality to the thoughts and feelings I have been experiencing for years and I suppose it is because she infected my mind with such a toxic point of view that I am still recovering and will be for some time.  The more I tried to give, the more she castigated me for not doing enough.  The harder I worked at making things right and honoring my vows, the more she inundated me with poisonous invectives and devious devices to make me doubt myself.  I want so much to hate her for wasting my time like that, for taking everything I did and making me feel like I was nothing, and yet I love her still, and mores the shame of it, I probably always will.  I feel about myself as those reading this probably feel, disgusted and contemptuous.  How could I let this happen to me?  I'm better than this and yet here I am!!!
 
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