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Axmac is offline Axmac Post #1  June 30,2009, 5:58pm
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Goodday!
I am very new to online dating and I thought I'd get some advice....
Recently, in the last year my relationships have been "too good to be true". Usually I'm "too busy" or I "make too much money" and the man feels like he's not able to be the man financially.
But is it really that awful, that I am successful? I love what I do, and tend to be criticized for it.

I am ready for a long term love..but I am having trouble. Any advice on how to deal with my career and men at the same time?
 
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any real man is going to be grateful that you're not a loser trying to fleece him for everything.
 
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Uh, everyone has trouble. That you do is not necessarily having anything to do with your success.

If you’re meeting a kind of man who favors a woman with more free time / different goals, I’d start by looking for other men – those who are more accomplished, for instance.
 
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You would think. Gracious!
 
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meanminicooper wrote :
any real man is going to be grateful that you're not a loser trying to fleece him for everything.

We have a winner of the "fastest post" prize.

"Best post" is still up for grabs.
 
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What's funny D_Lion: I work for myself, so I make my own schedule, I have all the time I want to, can pick up and go on a whim. Its not a matter of time, its a matter of money. and frankly, I think thats dumb.
 
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You are fortunate to be doing what you love & getting paid well for it. So don't make excuses or apologize for it!

You shouldn't be dating men that don't appreciate your success. Not unless you want to marry someone & always be afraid your money, your career bother him.

Raise your standards a bit. There are plenty of men out there successful & sure enough of themselves to accept you as you are.

Develop the confidence to attract men deserving of you. You'll be happier for it in the long run...
 
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The fact that you are working hard and successful is great! Perhaps some guys are intimidated by that. I'm not, I love it. However, being too busy or unavailable is a problem. As a guy I would have to say that any lady I date must be reasonably available for a relationship. If you aren't available then there isn't the opportunity to get traction in the relationship. If you expect the guy to sit around every night and most weekends because you are out of town on work assignment you should expect him to go out on dates with other woman. Personally, I don't like the feeling that I'm in a lady's life at times just when she's got some time to kill in her otherwise busy schedule.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
We have a winner of the "fastest post" prize.

"Best post" is still up for grabs.
Less is more. Nothing more needs to be said. Take a stroll around the board and a majority of women say that their ultimate goal is to find a man that they feel safe with who would make a good provider.

Its refreshing to meet a woman who can provide for herself and doens't need to cling to a man. The OP wont have to wait long for a quality dude
 
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meanminicooper.....why dont you just move to Oklahoma? hehe.
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But really. I have more time then anyone realizes. Even me. If i'm ever busy for work, its during the weekends, and only for one day of it. (I'm a wedding photographer) and during the week, I make my own schedule. I would love a man to spend all my time with, when i'm not working. Still, we are our own people, and I dont want to change a man at all, but i love to spend time with my love.
 
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