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treeye is offline treeye Post #1  June 29,2009, 6:37pm
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do you ask your match this question early on?

I mean, it's none of his business
 
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PoliticalChick01 is offline PoliticalChick01 Post #2  June 29,2009, 6:47pm
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I normally ask this question within the first couple times we have talked over the phone or by email -- part curiousity and part to find out if he is truly a momma's boy that still lives at home with his parents and his momma waits on him hand and foot which in my case I would run the other way!! hahaha

From a girls point of view we ask this question to see what are potential competition is -- best friends that live with you, other girls that are "just friends with you", family members who live with you, your best guy buddy, etc to see where we would fit into your life.

Guys ask the same question too for the same reasons we do
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I never thought to ask it.... I assume everyone lives alone in an apartment or house, maybe with roommates.

Now, I have one match who I suspect could be living with his parents.....
 
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Never thought to ask it until I was matched with a middle-aged man who was still living at home with his dad. It's not why it didn't work out, but it was symptomatic of the problems that I saw coming.
 
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I don't ask but it usually comes up somewhere along in the conversation. I don't see it as being some sort of secret information though.
 
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I don't care if she asks, I live with a roommate, he owns the house. I live an hour outside of town anyhow, so we likely won't be coming back to my place anyhow. I want to move back to the city (or even to Austin or Dallas) at some point and if she was the right person and we dated for awhile I would make more an effort to do that so we could see more of each other.
 
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So if he asks you where you work I guess that isn't his business either?

Seriously, shouldn't we be asking the basic questions? Why do we need to assume anything? I think the reason why the divorce rate is as high as it is is because there are too many people not asking the hard questions. Sure, you could ask him what his favorite color is but don't you think asking him where he lives is more important. I've never thought of "favorite color" as a deal breaker but if a lady told me she was living at a halfway house I would know to move on.

Isn't the point of "open communication" to be open. Why play games? Lets be tactful but lets learn the basics sooner than later. I don't find asking one's "living situation" to be out of line early in the communication process. You don't need to give him your address. When a 35 year old lady tells me she owns her own home it gives me a very different impression than one that lives in an apartment with two roommates and three cats.
 
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AustinShaguar wrote :
When a 35 year old lady tells me she owns her own home it gives me a very different impression than one that lives in an apartment with two roommates and three cats.
Are they female roommates and is she and the roommates interested in a Ménage à quatre?
 
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It always just seems to come up. At my age it would be to crazy if a match was living with parents. I think these things are important. Where do you live? What type of work do you do? Are your kid's living at home? I am a I want to know it all kind of girl.
 
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I think it depends on when I am asked and how detailed an answer a person wants, especially if I'm just getting to know the person. I'm not sure I'd want to give out a lot of specific information about exactly how many people, who they are etc. very early in getting to know a guy. It might creep me out, or turn out to be dangerous. But I am trying to be cautious rather than secretive.
But once I have a bit of a comfort level, I would expect a reasonable exchange of this information in both directions. Both people need this sort of info to continue assessing the more in-depth match possibilities.
 
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