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ataru is offline ataru Post #1  June 29,2009, 6:23pm
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I've been on EH more than a year now, and while I'm not canceling (I should, but I can afford $20 a month for a possible winning lottery ticket) I'm done holding my breath on this nonsense. I've heard about a couple of bars in my area that are supposedly ok for meeting people, but I've never been the sort to meet people anywhere, least of all a bar. So I'm going to jump in here, but I need some pointers. I know the wingman approach seems to be favored, but I'm not going to ask a friend to waste their time while I waste mine, and anyway no wingman is going to make me any taller. So how do I tell who is even looking to be chatted up? I figure I can manage a conversation once I find someone willing to talk to me - but I have *no* ability to discern who those women might be. Help?
 
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I have often wondered this before, apparently some guys have the skills to pull it off. However, I am sure there are a lot of women who would rather just be left alone. Who knows, maybe one of these days I will figure it out.
 
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'How does the bar scene work?'

Not very well!
 
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Well.....first go to the bar with the idea of having some fun with your guy friend/wingman and not with the idea of picking up women. There is simply nothing more creepy than a lone guy lurking around trying to approach every woman in sight. Also he looks very very desperate. There is a reason why the wingman thing is a favored thing, well...more than one reason.

Also, if you are having fun with your friend, you look interesting and approachable and it makes it easier for women to notice you and to catch your eye. Meaning, an interested woman will look you in the eye and smile at you. That's your green light to say hello to her.
 
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pfffft great if you want to find an alcoholic.
may I suggest that you go online to meetup dot com and sign up to do your favorite activities with people in your area.
unless being an alcoholic is what you are into.
 
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timeless2 wrote :
pfffft great if you want to find an alcoholic.
may I suggest that you go online to meetup dot com and sign up to do your favorite activities with people in your area.
unless being an alcoholic is what you are into.
all people who go to bars are alcoholics? i never knew.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
all people who go to bars are alcoholics? i never knew.
Perhaps timeless2 overstated, but the point sought to be made was that if you use this approach to meet people, the only thing you both would have in common, is that you both drink.

Just what is it about that concept that eludes you
 
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timeless2 wrote :
pfffft great if you want to find an alcoholic.
may I suggest that you go online to meetup dot com and sign up to do your favorite activities with people in your area.
unless being an alcoholic is what you are into.
wow.....just....wow....really? Guess everyone who has ever set foot in a bar go sign up for AA meetings because clearly the only reason to go to a bar is to get drunk and show off what an alcoholic you are.....
 
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Funny thing is a lot of people say they are "sick of the bar scene".

Dancing Fool is right. Go to the bar with the mindset of having fun, not with idea of picking up women. Also, approach women with something interesting to say. Don't bother with something trite like "Hi, how ya doing?" because every other guy has probably started off with something lame like that.
 
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ataru wrote :
I've been on EH more than a year now, and while I'm not canceling (I should, but I can afford $20 a month for a possible winning lottery ticket) I'm done holding my breath on this nonsense.
$20 won't get you far at a bar either :P
 
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