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A real man to me is someone who knows who he is and is comfortable in his own skin; is self-confident; who does what he says hes going to do 90% of the time and who says what he means and means what he says. A real man is emotionally mature and honest and has the ability to communicate his vulnerabilities and insecurities and who is aware of his strengths and his limitations. A real man has integrity and stands firm in his beliefs and his values and doesn't sway like a leaf in the wind and faces life challenges. A real man has the ability to be intimate and fully present and available. A real man wants a real relationship where he too is responsible and accountable and who is equally respondent, attendant, and nurturant to my needs and feelings as I am to his. A real man is GENUINE.
Right on!!! I love your response. Very well put.
- July 14th, 2009, 03:28 pm
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I am not sure I can put into words what my ideal "REAL MAN" is. But when I recognize him he will know it - I will drag his butt back to my cave!
- July 14th, 2009, 03:41 pm
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I will drag his butt back to my cave!

Do you prefer to tug from the head end or the feet end?
- July 14th, 2009, 03:56 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Do you prefer to tug from the head end or the feet end?
As I am so not a controlling sort of girl, I'll let him choose.
- July 14th, 2009, 07:33 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
No sooner do the women find this man, than they say “you have the armor up; why won’t you talk to me.”
Then I have the find the all and spray him.
Last edited by clearlyoblique; July 15th, 2009 at 06:48 am. Reason: I find squeekiness in a man, a turn off. Just sayin.
- July 15th, 2009, 06:48 am
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simpletonHeart70 wrote :
I guess the thing that upsets me the most about society's expectations for men with these hideous gender roles is how badly it affects men.

This idea that men have to be strong hurts men and boys.

For some reason society thinks is if you have a member that you can function without assistance. And you look at young boys paying the price with high rates of suicide compared to girls.

Sure, when people complain that girls are harassed and are struggling in school, we jump to their needs. Meanwhile, fewer boys are going to college and many struggle far worse than girls.

And then you have grown men who were raised not to accept help. As one poster prior to this one "women don't like whimps" and "I like manly men". So what man doesn't want to be liked or loved? Unfortunately men end up killing themselves before asking for help.

It's even worse for men in the armed forces. How many of them return to the states to commit suicide because soldiers don't ask for help?

So if I seem a bit angry about all of this "be a man" stuff. That's the reason behind it.

Why should any man sacrifice just to make a woman happy? .
I feel lucky that I learned as a teen that I don't have to follow society's expectations.

This, coming from a man who saw "Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants 2" on opening day, by himself, on the third row. :P
- July 15th, 2009, 12:57 pm
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<--- Real men have big guns
- July 15th, 2009, 08:10 pm
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<--- Real men have big guns
There ya go!
- July 16th, 2009, 06:58 am
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Mayne wrote :
For those of you put in your profile that you're looking for a "REAL MAN", what do you mean?

If you want a "REAL MAN", does this mean I get to kick back and drink beer, belch, and scratch my private parts, while watching a football game and while you're in the kitchen cooking my dinner?

How does a "REAL MAN" contrast with one who is not real? Are you really just saying that cross-dressers need not apply?

...or when they write "looking for a man's man"...are they looking for a gay man?
- July 16th, 2009, 09:43 am
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If a woman has to list that she wants a real man then she's obviously never had one so how would she recognize one if he came along?
- September 8th, 2009, 09:24 pm
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