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rRACINGRANDY wrote :
This particular woman....I just wasted 3-4 weeks of my time, energy and yes, thinking this has "potential"...for a "poof"!

Until it happens to you.....you don't understand the hurt.
You didn't "waste" those 3-4 weeks... you enjoyed it and you probably refined what it is you're looking for in a match. It just didn't end up the way you wanted, like many other things in life.

Remember this feeling next time and don't ever "poof" on another woman yourself!

At least your "poof" occurred after ONLY 3-4 weeks. I had one do that to me after 18 MONTHS. Imagine how that hurt!
- June 28th, 2009, 11:13 am
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I agree with wonderwomen, you must have enjoyed the time getting to know her and looking forward to that first date. Maybe that is part of your problem having in the back of your mind if this is going to be a waste of time or not. I have learned something from most of the women I have dated and especially the women I had a relationship with. Also, you hopefully learn not to make the same mistakes twice in a relationship. I tell ya, I told myself many times I will not make the same mistakes twice and with each relationship I become a better person, really I do. Why not do the same, it works. Then when you finally meet "the one", you are the best you can be and she sure will adore that.
- June 28th, 2009, 12:16 pm
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alas... and people on here still seem to think its ok to date multiple people at once...
- June 28th, 2009, 02:48 pm
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I wrote something about this to someone on e-harmony being that e-harmony pushes so many people at you at once. I for one do not think that it is right nor moral to date more then one person at a time. On e-harmony you end up getting to know multiple people but once you set a date, you should not set up another one until you go on that date to see how things work out with this person. After all you found enough interest to set up a date so you should give it a chance and NOT set up multi dates. What happens if your date goes really well, what happens then, huh. I for one don't do that, never have, never will. If after the date you find no interest, then sure, continue the search, after all when you get back your probably going to have a dozen more matches knowing e-harmony. Not saying e-harmony does not work, it does, just a different way to find that person your interested enough in setting a date with. At first I had a problem with it but I was honest about who I am talking with and found the other person was honest back. E-harmony and honesty works.
- June 28th, 2009, 04:55 pm
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rRACINGRANDY wrote :
This particular woman....I just wasted 3-4 weeks of my time, energy and yes, thinking this has "potential"...for a "poof"! Until it happens to you.....you don't understand the hurt.
Dating relationships will end at some point in time, until you find someone to marry. Thus, any amount of time you spend with all of the women you don't marry, could be considered a waste of time, right?

Thinking that the time you spend dating someone is a waste, just isn't logical to me. You got something from the experience of dating that person, right? You probably even learned something about yourself during the process, thus something valuable was exchanged. It wasn't a waste.

BTW, are you a reformed poofer now, having enduring the indignity yourself?
- June 28th, 2009, 04:59 pm
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A simple "Thanks but I just didnt feel the chemisty." is always polite to do but some people dont have the courage to do that. You just have to let it go.
- June 28th, 2009, 05:39 pm
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tommyboy047 wrote :
I wrote something about this to someone on e-harmony being that e-harmony pushes so many people at you at once. I for one do not think that it is right nor moral to date more then one person at a time. On e-harmony you end up getting to know multiple people but once you set a date, you should not set up another one until you go on that date to see how things work out with this person. After all you found enough interest to set up a date so you should give it a chance and NOT set up multi dates. What happens if your date goes really well, what happens then, huh. I for one don't do that, never have, never will. If after the date you find no interest, then sure, continue the search, after all when you get back your probably going to have a dozen more matches knowing e-harmony. Not saying e-harmony does not work, it does, just a different way to find that person your interested enough in setting a date with. At first I had a problem with it but I was honest about who I am talking with and found the other person was honest back. E-harmony and honesty works.
I think this stance sort of violates the whole point of online dating, which is to meet multiple people. Just my opinion.
- June 28th, 2009, 06:56 pm
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rRACINGRANDY wrote :
I am meeting a lot of women that seem to be confused with what they really want.
sounds like regular women to me
- June 28th, 2009, 07:01 pm
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Look what we have here ladies, an admitted Poofer. Grab your pitchforks and torches and hunt him down!
Apparently he got a taste of his own medicine.

This is why I don't poof because I would hate it if anyone did that to me.
- June 28th, 2009, 07:13 pm
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She returned tonight.

And I politely ended the dating process. No "poof", no dramatics, I just thanked her for a wonderful past 3 weeks of exchanging e-mails! It was really fun!!

Thanks everyone on this site that responded!!

I will never "poof" anyone ever again!
- June 28th, 2009, 07:22 pm
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