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KungFuFtr is offline KungFuFtr Post #1  June 26,2009, 11:40pm
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So I went and saw a movie with someone. The movie was "The Hangover" and it was a tip top flick. The woman I went with is someone I slightly knew who was a fellow intern last summer. We recently did lunch and 1 week later saw a movie/grabbed a drink afterwards. So, on the drive home we were talking about people who are not in touch with reality (I work in an ER and I have some interesting stories).

So this lady mentions that she went on 2 dates with a crazy guy. Apparently, she was at his house drunk, puking in his toilet and the guy was trying to spoon with her on the bathroom floor... She freaked out and left.

My ambiguous response...
"Now that's a surprise! I'm really at a loss for words and I don't even know what to say..."

Weather or not I was immediately placed in the "friend's zone" where I was mistaken for one of her female friends or my date is purely socially inept (probably both)...it does not matter.

Why would any woman/man talk about bad/scary/creepy encounters; poor judgment or past dates while on a date?
Is it just me or is it a total turnoff to hear about people being wasted?

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Having not seen the movie...did her account relate to something in it?

Could just be making conversation...comfortable talking with you...nervous etc. I know I "ramble" more talking with someone new on either asking questions or replies.

The part that would concern me...she went on 2 dates with the guy. So either he was perfect the first date...or they didn't drink much or at all.

No I wouldn't want to hear those types of stories from a date. Friends would chat more about those experiences than dates.
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Who knows what she was thinking. Some people just talk to hear themselves talk. They cannot handle silence. In any event, it sounds like it is a problem with her...I would not take it personally. Just move on.
 
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Probably the socially inept one. Back when I was dating there were multiple dates where a woman would talk about her other dates.... yep, they didn't get a second date at all.
 
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KungFuFtr wrote :
So this lady mentions that she went on 2 dates with a crazy guy. Apparently, she was at his house drunk, puking in his toilet and the guy was trying to spoon with her on the bathroom floor... She freaked out and left.
Well, here is another definition of attractive!
Sorry, can't help you there. I can understand a teenager doing this, not a grown woman, or a man for that matter. So, my question is how old is he? And if she is a mature adult, why would she behave like that in the first place? let alone brag about it on a date...
 
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If I were her, I can't say I'd be telling "that funny story were I'm driving the porcelain bus" to illustrate how OTHER people are a mess!

I went on a date this last New Years Eve where the guy told me within the first 5 minutes that he had a DUI and would be losing his license within the next week or two. Um... yeah. Way to make a great first impression. I told him I had nothing against drinking, but heavy drinking was an issue for me, given that my ex had a temper when he got drunk, so if this was part of his life, please be honest. Oh no, he rarely drank and not that much when he did.

He proceeded to get completely blitzed, singing and dancing for me in a very nice nightclub and the night ended when I drove him home. For obvious reasons, I decided this was not going to work. But all of my friends and even my teenage son said to cut him some slack since it was New Years Eve (a drinking holiday) and he had planned on taking a cab home, so he was acting more responsibly.

Fine, we went out again, and it was a nice, normal date. Maybe they were right.

Third date, is going well until he tells me the "hilarious" story of his trip to the brothel where he didn't bring enough money to get even a handshake.

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KungFuFtr wrote :
So this lady mentions that she went on 2 dates with a crazy guy. Apparently, she was at his house drunk, puking in his toilet and the guy was trying to spoon with her on the bathroom floor... She freaked out and left.


Is it just me or is it a total turnoff to hear about people being wasted?
That's gross. Any mention of puking, toilets, bathroom floors or drunkenness while on a date totally kills it for me.

I once went out with a guy who insisted on telling me about his hangovers and his stomach problems, despite my efforts to change the subject. He said he wanted to be loved "warts and all" so volunteering unpleasant info about himself was his M.O. during dates.

In this girl's case, who knows why she said that. Maybe she was nervous, rambling, or it was a strange way to let you know that the date with you was great - as opposed to the drunken date with that other guy.
 
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Not sure which question you are asking.

I think that her story was in poor taste to be discussing on a date or with a date.

However, on second thought I think that I would like to hear her stories of drunkenness and other bad behavior and poor choices. It would be very revealing of her values and that she and I don't share the same values and it is time for me to put on my track shoes.

As to discussing past matches / dates. Nearly all of my matches /dates have inquired into my past dating experience. I guess they are trying to figure out just how inept and inexperienced I am.
 
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well...it is kind of funny....unfortuantley she had to reveal something about herself to get to the punchline.

Spooning on the floor in the bathroom? wow that guy REALLY liked her, I'm sure that did freak her out!

I think it is a little judgemental, she might have had a bad reaction to some drinks, maybe crazy guy drugged her up or poured too much of this or that, maybe she just had a little too much fun ....who knows.

She was probably nervous (or too comfortable) and was probably still a little freaked out by crazy spooning guy and just wanted to tell someone because she was still suprised by it.

Not attractive, she probably kicked herself later, but I wouldn't assume all kinds of bad things about her. It sounds like she just wanted to tell someone about what happened since it was recent and she hadnt fully processed it yet.

Apparently she also thought you were better, and normal and safe to talk to.

But, your just another guy that got easily freaked and judgemental.

I would not assume it's her character to act that way....more, that she felt comfortable enough to talk to you after having worked with you and gone on two dates......

not the best story, no, but if everything else was okay, geez cut her some slack.

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well...it is kind of funny....unfortuantley she had to reveal something about herself to get to the punchline.

Spooning on the floor in the bathroom? wow that guy REALLY liked her, I'm sure that did freak her out!

I think it is a little judgemental, she might have had a bad reaction to some drinks, maybe crazy guy drugged her up or poured too much of this or that, maybe she just had a little too much fun ....who knows.

She was probably nervous (or too comfortable) and was probably still a little freaked out by crazy spooning guy and just wanted to tell someone because she was still suprised by it.

Not attractive, she probably kicked herself later, but I wouldn't assume all kinds of bad things about her. It sounds like she just wanted to tell someone about what happened since it was recent and she hadnt fully processed it yet.

Apparently she also thought you were better, and normal and safe to talk to.

But, your just another guy that got easily freaked and judgemental.

I would not assume it's her character to act that way....more, that she felt comfortable enough to talk to you after having worked with you and gone on two dates......

not the best story, no, but if everything else was okay, geez cut her some slack.

Yes, girls puke too.
Easily freaked? Maybe...
I wouldn't really say I'm judgmental, I'm just making an assessment. There's nothing wrong with getting a phone number from someone at a bar; however, the next encounter seemed odd to me. Getting inebriated and ending up at some stranger's bathroom floor paints a negative picture that I'm not going to hang on my dating wall.
 
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