should I meet him if I'm not that excited about his profile?


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treeye is offline treeye Post #1  June 26,2009, 6:05pm
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we've been communicating openly for two weeks and the guy is asking to meet over coffee.

to be honest, I'm not excited at all about him, I don't feel I like his look, his emails, his schedules, his background. I just persuaded to communicate with him more to find out more about him and hope I could discover something exciting. but no...

should I even bother to meet him? or find an excuse to close? thanks.

ps. I feel he doesn't meet my standards, (not sure why I was matched with him), also I don't like the way he communicate in email, like "how are ya?", "great, Yo hoo!!!"
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brneyedangel is offline brneyedangel Post #2  June 26,2009, 6:09pm
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If you aren't interested in him, then meeting him isn't going to be doing either of you a favor. Making excuses to close him isn't, either. I'd find a way to graciously decline the date and be honest about it. After that, then, yes, I'd close.
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #3  June 26,2009, 6:15pm
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I have found that profiles, e-mails and calls are not that good a guide, when you’re talking about vague issues. (Measurable things, like whether a match wants a family, are a different story.)

Personally, I favor meeting.
 
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D_Lion is right, read all the first date disaster stories where the man or woman looked perfect on paper. You have to think outside the box with online dating.
 
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I'd meet.

I would say the majority of written communication I receive from men is full of 'ya', 'nah', 'yep or yeah', 'cheers' and other slang-type words or phrases ... which none of them use in person.
 
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landstar59 is offline landstar59 Post #6  June 26,2009, 6:42pm
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From my one date experience as of late, I'll say...don't go there. All those little things you find irritating are keys to what the big picture is like. For instance, a guy pursued me to meet me here on EHa and at first it was subtle "let's exchange e-mails to let's talk on the phone." These were all his suggestions. Then a couple of things happened that gave me reason for alert. One in particular was when I couldn't talk for a couple of days due to a busy work schedule. He sent me a message saying, "don't worry I'm as patient as a snake." Well that just creeped me out and I told him so. He ignored it completely. I am the type person that if someone told me I said something to creep them out, then I'd explain or apologize, but not ignore. A few more things happened similar to the one recanted. Stupidly I agreeded to meet him. Honey let me tell you, when I opened the door, I wanted to shut it just as fast. I say quit conversing with this guy and move on as quickly as possible. We have antennae for a reason.
 
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From my one date experience as of late, I'll say...don't go there. All those little things you find irritating are keys to what the big picture is like. For instance, a guy pursued me to meet me here on EHa and at first it was subtle "let's exchange e-mails to let's talk on the phone." These were all his suggestions. Then a couple of things happened that gave me reason for alert. One in particular was when I couldn't talk for a couple of days due to a busy work schedule. He sent me a message saying, "don't worry I'm as patient as a snake." Well that just creeped me out and I told him so. He ignored it completely. I am the type person that if someone told me I said something to creep them out, then I'd explain or apologize, but not ignore. A few more things happened similar to the one recanted. Stupidly I agreeded to meet him. Honey let me tell you, when I opened the door, I wanted to shut it just as fast. I say quit conversing with this guy and move on as quickly as possible. We have antennae for a reason.
Landstar - Do you mean an eH match became a poster and befriended you through eHa?? And he knew you were his match but he never let on and pretended to just be a random poster?? That would creep me out too!!!
 
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I just have to say to landstar that is the funniest thing I've heard..."dont worry I am as patient as a snake." What a creep!
 
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For the poster, I get the feeling her experience is not like Landstar's, I think it is just the normal - I am not really into him - thing.

When I joined eH, I told myself that I would communicate with everyone that initiated with me. But I didn't. Sometimes, there just is no interest.

Now, if I was slightly interested in a guy - then I would meet with him.
 
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landstar59 wrote :
He sent me a message saying, "don't worry I'm as patient as a snake."

Yes! Stay away from those creepy snakes and instead seek only the finest Frogs.

Pucker up!
 
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