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Let's say we are not having any luck on eharmony and are not interested in any other online dating service. What are good places for the young single girl to find or look for dates? (Besides a bar)
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I know a lot of people may disagree with me but I think work can be a good place. Yes, there is a small risk dating co-workers but you spend a lot of time there and it's likely you will meet someone who may just be your soulmate...so why not!
 
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k374 wrote :
I know a lot of people may disagree with me but I think work can be a good place. Yes, there is a small risk dating co-workers but you spend a lot of time there and it's likely you will meet someone who may just be your soulmate...so why not!
I've been witness to a few instances of character assassination happening within a work place because employees decided to date each other. My advice DON'T DO IT. Business and pleasure should not mix.

That being said, why don't you find a hobby that you enjoy and try to enroll in a class, tour, or workshop in connection with it. Gives you a leg up on finding someone that shares your interests, or at least wouldn't mind being in the same place that your interest is in.

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k374 wrote :
I know a lot of people may disagree with me but I think work can be a good place. Yes, there is a small risk dating co-workers but you spend a lot of time there and it's likely you will meet someone who may just be your soulmate...so why not!
Isn't it something like 30% of all relationships have started at work? I remember reading that somewhere. That's a pretty high number.
 
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I'm not going to answer your question since I live in a different country. But I will say this - If you are suffering in your single life, you are much less likely to attract a quality partner. You are likely to attract someone who will play on your insecurities and take advantage of you. Even if you do get lucky and attract quality, you will be unlikely to keep it for long - quality is rarely attracted to personal insecurity or suffering. Love is not about pity or rescuing.

Relationships do not (or should not) change who we are, they are supposed to enrich it. If you define yourself in terms of being single or part of a couple, you are doing yourself a great disservice. You are a good person, who deserves to be happy either way, first and foremost. Find what it is that is causing your suffering now and try to overcome it in some way. It can only help you, both personally and in search of a partner.

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Work and school are the big ones. In this day and age it's simply too risky and otherwise presume from the get-go that you care more about dating co-workers than the job itself.

Have a goal to do something social at least once a week; volunteer, organize an event, etc. I just saw Yes Man, and though it's extreme, it does have a good underlying message.
 
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Join meetup groups in your area. (google "meetup groups") They are free, varied and fun. You will meet a lot of different people from all age groups.
 
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Colleges are full of young single people.
 
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i would suggest that you try hanging out around military bases - lots of lonely guys there lol
 
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