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Not much to argue with in this article. I've never dated the, "you know what, I'm good" that REALLY was okay, but I've dated a lot of flakes and fakes. I've also been married to two. Of course, God only knows what they would say about me. But back to the article. The one thing I wanted to comment on was the observation that men are not as good as women at detecting "crazy." I have found this to be true, but I have also found it is a skill we can learn. We have a radar grid around the world that is called an "early warning detection system" to detect the launch of missiles against us. Men can deploy the same system and it just takes a little effort and training. First of all, you have to ignore the hormones and try to observe your date objectively. Is she on time for dates, does she change her mind about what to wear, how does she treat people like waiters, valets and even grocery store clerks. Does she fit the pattern of women you have dated before who turned out to be quite different 3 months into the relationship than they were the first 3 weeks. I could write an article, but men have to learn not to commit their heart (or their lust) until we hear that, "you know what, I'm good." (Note again that I said learn. For the most part we do not know it innately. We think we can "romance" a woman out of a funk when in fact the funk is a sign of trouble.)

- June 25th, 2009, 05:02 am
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I wish I understood what you said in your post
- June 25th, 2009, 07:18 pm
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Out of the list from the article, numbers 4 and 5 hit it really close for me. Without respect there isn't any true love (IMO) and if keeping your woman happy means emptying your checking account... Houston, we have a problem.
- June 25th, 2009, 10:07 pm
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Contention belongs to men as much as it ever has women. I have met many men who are the way this article describes women.  They prefer to be abusive and rude to good women and it sets the women back from good men.  Chaos belongs to several men I have met too. 

- June 27th, 2009, 06:37 am
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nice comment thats hit it on the nail. So true good luck on your on it.

- June 28th, 2009, 01:33 pm
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I recently dated a woman who fell under three of these categories. Of course, it didn't show up until a month after we started dating.
- June 28th, 2009, 07:13 pm
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#6. She'll start to let herself go the day after the wedding.
- June 28th, 2009, 07:58 pm
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An interesting read.


One thing left off is "Will you be the same person as you are now after you say I do?".  With my ex, after we said I do, she did a 180 degree turn (well, some men can do this too).


But back to the articel, it did a pretty good job of trying to address men's fears.  We need to remember if a fear is real or if it is perceived, it is still a fear that needs to be dealt with.

- June 28th, 2009, 09:57 pm
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Being friends and not rushing into things is best. You have to have the mindset of,"Friendship,"and think like a friend right off the bat, and if there is something more then there is...just that simple I think.

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lol....number 3 - all of my past GF have turned out to be a great big bagful of crazy...I am now famous for it amongst my mates
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