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rking101 is offline rking101 Post #1  June 24,2009, 1:32pm
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Well Im a 22 year old male I work on a oil rig and travel around for work and I love my job but some times I feel It stops me from meeting normal people...I cant really quit im use to the money i make and cant really this kinda money any were else.



Does any one have this problem? Or any thoughts?
 
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Light_J is offline Light_J Post #2  June 24,2009, 1:42pm
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I'd say work interferes to a certain extent. I personally am a sophomore at a state university, and work 30-40 hrs a week at a local McDonald's during a summer. (I know McDonald's seems like a joke, but I love the people I work with.) And I only get one or two nights off a week if I am lucky.

There is a lass I have been trying to woo recently who lives maybe 40 minutes away, which is somewhat tricky when I only get one or two days off a week and it seems as if I continue to get blown off.

But yeh, work interferes to a certain extent. Its a little different for me though. Hang in there, guy.

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pamcam is offline pamcam Post #3  June 24,2009, 1:47pm
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Seldom do I pass on an opportunity to tell my students that my job interferes w/ my real life, which is why I strongly encourage them to ditch. [Un]fortunately, they are under the impression that I enjoy them, so they come to my class anyway. Recently, I instituted a pratice of charging cover if they dare deign to show up for finals.

I imagine that in your line of work it would be difficult as you're away much and work really long hours. Just remain open to what life presents you. Your opportunities are limitless.
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lil_lamb is offline lil_lamb Post #4  June 24,2009, 1:52pm
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yes. my work life has eaten my private life alive. i have never had time and still have no time. i used to commute to another state, saturday being my only full day home. now i have a "little job" - no longer a "professional" - and i'm gone 12-14 hours a day, work weekends. if i move closer to it, my boyfriend will be no more. i will just never see him again. his work, the locale of his industry, is an hour away in the opposite direction. we're down to crossing paths for just a couple hours a week now - a couple of hours carved out with a chainsaw.

i probably will have to move too, the hour commute is too expensive, as is my current rent.
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I would love to be your age again. Instead of worrying about dating which is next to impossible to do with your schedule I would be saving my money up for the car of my dreams, then purchase it and start saving up for a house and furnishings.
 
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Yes, it can do at times. Things are currently quiet - only needing to work around 9-10 hours on weekdays, no weekends. When it gets busy, it becomes 12-14 hours weekdays and in most weekends.

I manage six portfolios. I find work generally gets in the way due to the responsibilities I have in my largest portfolio - I look after the Business, Technology, Operations (day-to-day BAU & Contact Centres) & represent my Company at Industry meetings.

It becomes crazy when we have a major project to deploy, because each of these 'roles' have differing responsibilities and different stakeholders who need to be informed; plus I have to review and approve all stages of project documentation before the project can move to the next step. I love my job!
 
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My job gets in the way all the time. I work long hours and I have an obligation to my pets, so I have to come home when work is done. I could go back out, but I'm usually exhausted. It doesn't stop me from trying though. I'm stubborn to the point of stupidity and won't give up. I'm sure working on an oil rig you see all kinds of challenges everyday that most people wouldn't even know how to approach. Why should this be any different? Sure it's hard, but you can do it if you stay focused and you really want it.
 
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Plenty of men (and women) in the military manage to find a partner, so I’m sure you will too.
 
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hey rking101 i know exactly where you're coming from. i work on the railroad and pretty much am on call 24/7/365. my family life suffered and now that im single trying to do anything is impossiable. i cant get anyone to understand that i can go to work anytime day or night. i dont have a schedual or even a regular day off. taking a day off could mean paying the bills or not. i'll be honest with you on this though. i had a friend who i always put last behind my ex, my kid, my work. she died last year and i realised how crappy i was to her. i have a very new friendship that i am trying to not let that happen with. i carve out as much time as possiable to work on it. its very tiring but in the end my life is better knowing i have someone there. it may not be a boyfriend but im learning to enjoy life and not let work control me. doing this is very hard i wont lie to you on that. but my advice is find someone even a penpal and be their friend. at 22 you have lots to do, id hate to think of you 10 years from now alone.
 
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My job does get in my way in the sense that people don't always realize how much work I must bring home with me. They have a tendency to think, well, she's home, she should have time. Yeah, I may be home, but my entire day has been spent teaching and more than likely, in meetings. They give us a 40 minute prep, but that's what it is, a prep--time to copy handouts and prepare for the next day, and it's just not enough time to get everything done. I usually come home and grade papers, call parents, and plan lessons until at least 10 every night. Weekends are used this way, as well.

I know it sounds like I'm complaining, but I really do love my job, and I wouldn't change it. However, I think you will find that a job interfering is a part of life. Sooner or later you find a way to balance things and work other things into your schedule when you can. The right person for you will understand the restraints your job places upon you and will be able to work within the confines of the situation. I know it sounds canned, but patience and time are what it takes.

Good luck to you!
 
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