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Is the duration of a date directly proportional to the quality of the date? Have you ever been on a REALLY great but really short date? Conversely, have you ever been subjected to a very long, very bad date?
 
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Yes, I've been on brief but fantastic dates and on long ones that were not so great.
The length of the date most definitely does not indicate quality.

I think that's really where most confusion happens and why we see so many posts where the OP will say how their date lasted all day or 6 hours or whatever and then they never heard from the person again. Well.....it simply does not mean that the fun was all that mutual. In the alternative, the person learned so much about you in those 6 hours that they also saw some dealbreakers.

This has actually happened to me several times - first impression great, after several hours not so great. Sometimes I wonder if the dates were kept shorter and new information absorbed more over time if the outcomes would have been different........
 
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No... length of date has no bearing on quality... I prefer to keep them short and sweet.

Very long, very bad dates... had these too...



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I was seriously dating one young woman when I was 30. We were going to attend a performance by a famous magician but my date did not know he had come down sick and the performance was cancelled. Everything was going fine until we got to the door at the performance hall then things went south. I suggested we stop by one of the local ice cream parlors for a malt and head to the pedestrian bridge which has good seating and offers a good view of the night sky. We sat there for hours talking about everything. This could have been a real diaster date but ended up great. Sometimes it is not about how much a date costs or how long the date is but what you walk away from the date with such as learning more about your date and what they think and feel.
 
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Why would you WANT to be on a bad date thats long? I think thats why they say you shouldn't plan out huge events for first dates like amusement parks and such. It traps them into an obligation that they can't get out of.

Personally, I think this statement is true IF the length of the date is coupled with unlimited options to end. In other words, the date can end at any time, but both parties wish it to continue. THAT is a good date.

I don't think i've ever had a "bad" date. Some were better than others, but none of them have been the gnaw my arm off to get away kind of date.
 
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I can’t recall a short date that went well. Many longer ones didn’t either, but for me the odds have been better.
 
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eH_Advice_Admin_Lori wrote :
Is the duration of a date directly proportional to the quality of the date? Have you ever been on a REALLY great but really short date?
No, I don't think so. I had some pretty good short dates as well as some longer ones. The thing about a short date, is not how long it actually lasted, but whether I wanted it to last longer. Busy lifestyles can interfere sometimes, so we may only be able to spare an hour or two. But if I leave wishing I could stay, that's a great date indicator to me.

Having said that, my favorite date of all times lasted about 30 hours


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Conversely, have you ever been subjected to a very long, very bad date?
For sure! Sometimes beeing too nice for my own good is not nice at all...
 
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My worst bad date lasted an entire weekend. We'd gone out a couple of times and decided to take a road trip. What a mistake! Live and learn.
 
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Details, yeoww, details?
 
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I have always found that if the first date ends early then there is not likely to be a second date.

But that is just me.
 
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