ready4him is offline ready4him Post #1  June 23,2009, 8:05am
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I am just a little confused about something. So I meet a nice man on here and we have been talking and texting for about 2 weeks, and I am talking about all day conversations over text. So then he just up and disappears. My question is why and the world would he just not say something like, don't want to do this or something. Am I just expecting too much?
 
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I am just a little confused about something. So I meet a nice man on here and we have been talking and texting for about 2 weeks, and I am talking about all day conversations over text. So then he just up and disappears. My question is why and the world would he just not say something like, don't want to do this or something. Am I just expecting too much?
No, you are not expecting too much! The best advice, although it may hurt, is: "Forgive, Forget, and Move On" In other words... as MTV would put it " NEXT!!!!!!!!!"


You deserve better. If he does such a thing now... what's to stop him from doing it later in the relationship? Better sooner than later.

Hope you're doing alright.
 
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Not too much invested here, you never met him or had a relationship, it will be quite easy to move on. As for why they don't say something, here's a good article:http://advice.eharmony.com/article/4-good-reasons-why-guys-go-poof.html
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I am just a little confused about something. So I meet a nice man on here and we have been talking and texting for about 2 weeks, and I am talking about all day conversations over text. So then he just up and disappears. My question is why and the world would he just not say something like, don't want to do this or something. Am I just expecting too much?
 
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You had never met so it is not like you had a relationship going. One of his other matches became more interesting.

BTW I have many matches that do this. And all my matches are female.
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #5  June 23,2009, 10:04am
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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It amazes me how many posts there are on here telling how two people met via the internet and communicated for hours and hours every day. They generally end the way you described.
 
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stevex is offline stevex Post #6  June 23,2009, 12:37pm
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I have numerous women poof after a few days of talking. I can blame this on many many different things but the bottom line is that they just were not interested after getting to know me. And there have been a couple of women that I have met online since my ex and I broke up that I have talked to for a few days and then just lost interest. One of the girls I told I wasn't interested in and she got very emotional, first wanted to know why I told her there wasn't chemistry, she started trying to guess and when I ignored her she started insulting me. Because of this, the other woman that I became dis-interested in after a few days of talking I just stopped talking to. She messages me from time to time and reply with what I am doing but I have no intention of seeing her or telling her that I am not interested in her (and since she hasn't made any indication she interested in me I figure it is better that way.)
 
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I have numerous women poof after a few days of talking. I can blame this on many many different things but the bottom line is that they just were not interested after getting to know me. And there have been a couple of women that I have met online since my ex and I broke up that I have talked to for a few days and then just lost interest. One of the girls I told I wasn't interested in and she got very emotional, first wanted to know why I told her there wasn't chemistry, she started trying to guess and when I ignored her she started insulting me. Because of this, the other woman that I became dis-interested in after a few days of talking I just stopped talking to. She messages me from time to time and reply with what I am doing but I have no intention of seeing her or telling her that I am not interested in her (and since she hasn't made any indication she interested in me I figure it is better that way.)
Even if she does get emotional etc.... I don't think that's the way to deal with the problem. You are creating undo stress for both the woman and yourself (though you probably don't notice it). Make the break clean, like breaking a bone, it is better than a bunch of tiny fractures and heals much faster and easier.
 
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stevex wrote :
I have numerous women poof after a few days of talking. I can blame this on many many different things but the bottom line is that they just were not interested after getting to know me. And there have been a couple of women that I have met online since my ex and I broke up that I have talked to for a few days and then just lost interest. One of the girls I told I wasn't interested in and she got very emotional, first wanted to know why I told her there wasn't chemistry, she started trying to guess and when I ignored her she started insulting me. Because of this, the other woman that I became dis-interested in after a few days of talking I just stopped talking to. She messages me from time to time and reply with what I am doing but I have no intention of seeing her or telling her that I am not interested in her (and since she hasn't made any indication she interested in me I figure it is better that way.)
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Even if she does get emotional etc.... I don't think that's the way to deal with the problem. You are creating undo stress for both the woman and yourself (though you probably don't notice it). Make the break clean, like breaking a bone, it is better than a bunch of tiny fractures and heals much faster and easier.
In order to have a break you need to have a relationship. Exchanging a few e-mails simply does not qualify.
 
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In order to have a break you need to have a relationship. Exchanging a few e-mails simply does not qualify.
I am sorry...

I thought he was describing an email/phone/text relationship ... there is a sort of emotional bond some people develop (this is not always the case) when "just" exchanging emails. It is still better to close off completely for the other person's state of mind than just "poofing". If you're not interested say so... don't be a wuss and stand on the fence, choose a side (this goes for girls too). You like the girl (or boy) or you don't. It's realitively simple. Otherwise s/he'll be waiting for your response for maybe the next few days (to weeks depending on how it was left and her level of interest in you) for your answer.



(by no way am I speaking about myself here in reference to this answer)
 
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SnowyDew wrote :
I am sorry...

I thought he was describing an email/phone/text relationship ... there is a sort of emotional bond some people develop (this is not always the case) when "just" exchanging emails. It is still better to close off completely for the other person's state of mind than just "poofing". If you're not interested say so... don't be a wuss and stand on the fence, choose a side (this goes for girls too). You like the girl (or boy) or you don't. It's realitively simple. Otherwise s/he'll be waiting for your response for maybe the next few days (to weeks depending on how it was left and her level of interest in you) for your answer.



(by no way am I speaking about myself here in reference to this answer)
No need to be sorry. The beauty of these boards is that different people bring different perspectives and opinions and they are all valid and good in their own way.
 
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