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GreatGuy38 is offline GreatGuy38 Post #1  June 21,2009, 11:13am

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Dating on Planet Utah-A Planet Devoid?

Hi fellow bloggers. I’ve generated this blog in an attempt to generate conversation about people’s experiences dating in Utah (Or, any other state where someone thinks that their location is an abnormal factor). Is it just me, or is the scene tough here?

I would like to say the challenges are geographically based, but that seems too simplistic. Disappointingly, of few matches that I receive on eH the overwhelming majority of them are located out of state. I’ve been careful in selection of “my settings,” to keep them broad, but any changes I’ve made have had little effect.
 
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its common on eharmony matches will be out out of state. However, don't beat yourself up. I bet in Utah that dating is unique and more difficult. Even in Salt Lake City or closer to Vegas.

Strong Mormon culture, people get married younger, less likely to internet date, fewer people in general....yah. The odds are stacked against you...
 
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Though, if you want marriage, and especially a more traditional family life, I should think things would be easier.

Dating in the big northeast cities is predatory … and the price of entry astronomical.

I guess we all see the problems we face with greater clarity than the advantages.
 
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cp30 wrote :
its common on eharmony matches will be out out of state. However, don't beat yourself up. I bet in Utah that dating is unique and more difficult. Even in Salt Lake City or closer to Vegas.

Strong Mormon culture, people get married younger, less likely to internet date, fewer people in general....yah. The odds are stacked against you...
Yeah, GreatGuy - I with cp on this. Utah is an interesting state. If you do live in a predominantly Mormon area and if you are not Mormon, then I can see dating being really difficult for your area.

But then again, Utah is incredible so I would think there are a lot of groups that you could become involved with that would put you in touch with a wider range of people to up the odds.
 
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Though, if you want marriage, and especially a more traditional family life, I should think things would be easier.

Dating in the big northeast cities is predatory … and the price of entry astronomical.

I guess we all see the problems we face with greater clarity than the advantages.
I doubt it. It depends on his age and where he lives. The marriage age in Utah is very low (lowest in the country I believe but I will have to check on that). Plus the strong Mormon culture and plenty of women have their husbands picked out for them by the time they are 15 (sad but...true...of course not all of Utah but it's there).

If you are past college age in Salt Lake City I bet you will have a difficult time dating as a male or female, and especially if you are not Mormon.

If you live closer to Las Vegas, I would bet you would have an easier time if you are willing to travel and so is she.

I know a girl currenly in St. George who is single.....a little down and out living with her parents, but very pretty...though a bit crazy!
 
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okay, I just looked it up. The AVERAGE age of first marriage for women in Utah, is 21. For contrast, in D.C its 29, Massachusettes, 27. Based on Census 2000.
 
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I doubt it. It depends on his age and where he lives. The marriage age in Utah is very low (lowest in the country I believe but I will have to check on that). Plus the strong Mormon culture and plenty of women have their husbands picked out for them by the time they are 15 (sad but...true...of course not all of Utah but it's there).

If you are past college age in Salt Lake City I bet you will have a difficult time dating as a male or female, and especially if you are not Mormon.

If you live closer to Las Vegas, I would bet you would have an easier time if you are willing to travel and so is she.

I know a girl currenly in St. George who is single.....a little down and out living with her parents, but very pretty...though a bit crazy!
Utah is a great place. I like to describe it as a land of extremes. What’s good about Utah is really good, and what’s bad is, well, just that. I am a member of a few activity groups, but honestly while I have met some great friends though them, but that’s about it.
Hum, crazy chick in St. George, as eager as I am to meet someone, I’m going to politely decline.
 
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Are you 38? Do you like the outdoors? I would bet...if you are in Utah.

I've considered making moves to places like that myself....the thought of being near the wilderness and just starting over....and I've had job opportunities in places like that. It's really tempting, except for the fears of having to really "make" a social life. It's hard enough here where I am inbetween two major cities in Texas. Though sometimes I wonder if its better to just say What the heck...and go for it...(notice I am watching westerns...).

I'm sure there are other single, somewhat not so crazy ladies (but a little bit to have done it) out there who are in similiar situation who actually made the move. You just have to find them.

My advice? Match.com or some other dating site, eharmony tends to place a lot less weight on distance settings.
 
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My advice? Match.com or some other dating site, eharmony tends to place a lot less weight on distance settings.
I think I only got one match that was out of state on eharmony. I just assumed he had that he would date out of state. I assumed he would be doing the traveling, not me.

I never tried anything other than eharmony but I do get the impression that with match and pof, you can be more specific on things like area.

Maybe try some cooking classes or something less outdoorsy and maybe a little more artsy. Do you have any artsy tastes, Great Guy?
 
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I never thought the day would come...but I have let my eharmony expire because of the distance issue....and I'm near two major cities. Most of my matches are from everywhere. I'm going to try again in a few months (if I have to and start over and set my distance settings to be much stricter....

Match, you can just search a general area.
 
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