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Great advice from John Gray who understands the communication process between men and women.  Kudos to him for also presenting it in an easy and fun way to understand. 

- June 21st, 2009, 01:12 pm
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I just read the article and don't see why it has to be a gendered article. Most of those tips can be applied to women, just as easily as men. I think it is good advice in general to not dominate conversations, listen to someone who is speaking, and be complimentary.
- June 21st, 2009, 03:33 pm
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I do like to be looked at and spoken to on dates, and get acquainted with my date also, as Dr. John says.  I am really proud of myself that I stopped accepting movie only dates 10 years ago.  It is pointless for me to wash and dress and contact lenses, takes me 6 hours including tweezing my beautiful Jennifer Connelly eyebrows to primp, if he will not be looking at and speaking to me.  Movie onlys are a cop out guys, so are dancing onlys and bars onlys.  I stopped going to places where I'm likely to meet the callow emotionally stunted, and whoa, what a relief and a difference.


Direct TV is giving me a free Showtime and Encore sneak preview this weekend, and while I like flicks, that's not good dating territory.  Granted, I don't look like Nicole Kidman, but you don't look like Patrick Wilson.


I checked Mars/Venus out of library about 2 years ago and learned a lot.  Although it was published a few years ago, the advice and details are timeless.


What I don't understand is why men buy big fat dinners for airheads/bimbos/bubbleheads, who have absolutely nothing to talk about other than their most recent shopping spree, or repetitious anecdotes about their kids or job.  Take the bubblehead to a movie, and take the brainy sensitive woman out for a meal and conversation.

- June 21st, 2009, 11:30 pm
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bluskies4ever wrote :

What I don't understand is why men buy big fat dinners for airheads/bimbos/bubbleheads, who have absolutely nothing to talk about other than their most recent shopping spree, or repetitious anecdotes about their kids or job. Take the bubblehead to a movie, and take the brainy sensitive woman out for a meal and conversation.
It's because they are going solely based on physical attraction, and don't know what they want in a mate, so they're just basing everything off of that.

Plus they haven't realized that you shouldn't go overboard on first dates.

You might be underestimating the role of physical attraction in that first meeting. You gotta have it, and it's a powerful force on both sides.

And not all physically attractive women are airheads too.
- June 22nd, 2009, 04:45 am
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Can somebody pease tell me that this is joke?

I stalwardly got to number 3 before I started laughing.
If you are going to stare me in the eyes and pretend to care about everything I'm saying, I'm not going to bond with you and open up, I'm going to freak.

And God forbid you are going to forget one of the rules, what on earth are you going to do then?

Seriously guys, just be yourselves and pay attention to your date. Listen, talk, ask questions, build a conversation, and laugh - the more, the better. And be a gentleman about it. Women are not aliens after all. They just want to feel like you give a damn.

Creating a persona, and pretending to be someone you are not, by following rules is only going to hurt you in the long run. Women are not idiots for the most part, they'll eventually see through the facade.

Good luck to you all.
And even more luck to those, who choose to follow this highly qualified advice, you'll need it!
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Can somebody pease tell me that this is joke?

I stalwardly got to number 3 before I started laughing.
If you are going to stare me in the eyes and pretend to care about everything I'm saying, I'm not going to bond with you and open up, I'm going to freak.

And God forbid you are going to forget one of the rules, what on earth are you going to do then?

Seriously guys, just be yourselves and pay attention to your date. Listen, talk, ask questions, build a conversation, and laugh - the more, the better. And be a gentleman about it. Women are not aliens after all. They just want to feel like you give a damn.

Creating a persona, and pretending to be someone you are not, by following rules is only going to hurt you in the long run. Women are not idiots for the most part, they'll eventually see through the facade.

Good luck to you all.
And even more luck to those, who choose to follow this highly qualified advice, you'll need it!
I am not sure why you think this is a joke. Basically what is in the article is the same thing that you have just said in your post.
- June 22nd, 2009, 07:37 am
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Can somebody pease tell me that this is joke?

I stalwardly got to number 3 before I started laughing.
If you are going to stare me in the eyes and pretend to care about everything I'm saying, I'm not going to bond with you and open up, I'm going to freak.

And God forbid you are going to forget one of the rules, what on earth are you going to do then?

Seriously guys, just be yourselves and pay attention to your date. Listen, talk, ask questions, build a conversation, and laugh - the more, the better. And be a gentleman about it. Women are not aliens after all. They just want to feel like you give a damn.

Creating a persona, and pretending to be someone you are not, by following rules is only going to hurt you in the long run. Women are not idiots for the most part, they'll eventually see through the facade.

Good luck to you all.
And even more luck to those, who choose to follow this highly qualified advice, you'll need it!
Sheesh! You got that right! The article is kinda stating the obvious. Why do we need more rules when all we need to do is be polite, decent, respectful human beings. Do we really not know this stuff already or is it just that we need to be constantly reminded?
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Basically what is in the article is the same thing that you have just said in your post.
Exactly!
And I didn't need to invent "rules", publish articles or write a book about it. It's just common sense. But some people will actually buy his book. And it galls me when I see people wasting their hard-earned money on books of this rubbish, out of desperation, so that this "expert", who claims that we are from different planets, can put it in his pocket.

Sorry, Gr8Guyn2008. It's just one of those touchy subjects on planet Moon.
- June 22nd, 2009, 04:23 pm
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
stalwardly
Is this a kind of endocronology?
- June 22nd, 2009, 04:34 pm
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D_Lion wrote :
Is this a kind of endocronology?
Yeah...
Happens when I get overtaken by a wave of emotion... I just lose all control.
- June 22nd, 2009, 05:03 pm
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