Do Men Really Want a Successful & Educated Woman?


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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #81  June 22,2009, 1:45pm
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All I know is it's the one about diabetes and thyroid stuff.
Somehow, I think that, combined with correct spelling, is all you really need
 
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Wootz is offline Wootz Post #82  June 22,2009, 2:18pm
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meri75 wrote :
~ What does success look like to you?


A contented smile, a relaxed, confident posture, bright, interested eyes with the look of delighted curiosity.

meri75 wrote :
~ What does an educated (edit- intelligent -wootz) woman/man look like to you?


Unruffled and often amused by ignorance rather than threatened by it, clear comprehension when she listens- and she *does* listen, unafraid of being judged "less intelligent" by her questions when she wants to know something.

Also, a degree means little but attendance and a modicum of diligence in an atmosphere of learning- even an honors degree. Especially if you choose, as I have, to pursue other paths. I don’t believe in limiting my curiosity to what is safe, lucrative, or what other people would consider worthwhile. *grin* My job is just what keeps the wolves from the door and food on my plate… but different folk have different views (and a darn good thing, too! ).

Thanks for the good question, meri!
 
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meri75 is offline meri75 Post #83  June 22,2009, 2:47pm
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Oops! I forgot to answer my own questions!

What does success look like to you?
~ Someone who sets a goal and achieves it. Whether it be to get that Uni Degree, create a new job, land that Executive position, learn to fly, to cook, to sew, lose weight, swim the English Channel and raise money for children with cancer etc.
~ Someone who recognises his/her character and the strength within it. And actively nurtures said strengths and uses them to help others. This can include (for me) going to Uni to learn more. I mean if you have a gift for floor plans and you feel strongly about the disabled and elderly, then you may decide to get an Degree in Architecture and specialise in creating safe homes for the disabled/elderly.
~ Someone who recognises his/her areas of improvement; realises there will only be improvement via self application and gets busy with the improvement.
~ Someone who is proud of his/her achievements and will not brag; but will neither shy away and mumble things like 'it was no big deal'. Many times, you can be a role model to someone who really, really needed to see that in you at that specific time. It is possible for one person to make a difference in someone's life.
~ Someone who is happy, knows how and when to be serious and when to relax and have fun.
~ Someone who values the people in his/her life and recognises the input these people have had in shaping he/she into the now adult.
~ Someone who has the ability to apologise when applicable.

What does an educated man/woman look like to you?
To me, 'educated' is a term used to describe the level of schooling attained.
 
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neardc wrote :
(Good catch, Mr. Right; way to go! Of course, she already sounded wonderful before we knew of any of her accomplishments. Ditto on ICM's comment, though. )
Did I forget to mention that she's her class's salutatorian, editor of her school newspaper, did many years of dance, plays the piano, was the lead in several plays (including Romeo and Juliet), does yoga (woo!), 4.0 GPA, has taken several trips to South America to doctor those in poor villages, traveled all over the world, been published for her medical research, she's on several medical and charity boards, and she's the kindest, most caring person I know.

And she's a absolutely fantastic kisser too!
 
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Hey, I'm in love, I'm allowed to be a little goofy.
 
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neardc is offline neardc Post #86  June 22,2009, 5:28pm
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Toodles, sayonara, and happy trails! Wishing everyone luck and love...

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Mr_Right wrote :
Did I forget to mention that she's her class's salutatorian, editor of her school newspaper, did many years of dance, plays the piano, was the lead in several plays (including Romeo and Juliet), does yoga (woo!), 4.0 GPA, has taken several trips to South America to doctor those in poor villages, traveled all over the world, been published for her medical research, she's on several medical and charity boards, and she's the kindest, most caring person I know.

And she's a absolutely fantastic kisser too!
Realistically, I don't think she even has the opportunity to brag; how could she ever get a word in edgewise!

(It really has been fun watching your romance develop and seeing how goofy you are over her... Next time someone complains here about how truly nice guys never get the girl, I'm going to point to you. )
 
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neardc wrote :
seeing how goofy you are
I can be goofy too, I promise!
 
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I can be goofy too, I promise!
Promises...promises!
 
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To the OP, I do, and I have. I dated one person who was a former peace officer, and taught firearms training, pursuit driving, and fighting technics at the police academy. She quit the force to go into private investigation, and ran her own business. She was confident and smart enough to have a conversation in any subject we wanted to discuss, and owned a large home. She's probably intimidation city for a lot of men out there, but not me. I admired and respected her, and she thought I was in incredible. Even though we're not still together we still have those feeling for the other.

I dated someone else who owned two businesses, and a large house. She was very smart, and creative, in fact her former career was out in Hollywood as a graphic artist. She was also very funny, and fun to be with.

So yeah, I'll take the smart and successful ones!
 
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Ok, I'm coming into this one way late, but whatever.

I don't think having a degree is really indicative of educational level/intellect. For the obvious reason that it's NOT for a lot of people.

I'm about a semester and a half away from a degree I can no longer feasibly obtain due to financial matters (thank you unregulated banking activities crashing my student lending).

...ok, did you see that? I just made a reference to a current issue, knowing a bit about the origins of it, how they affected my life, and I used vocabulary words, spelled correctly no less.

Right now, I'm in open communication with a chef, which, while a very technical job that requires a lot of skill sets, has no real bearing on intellect in the way that education in poli-sci or history or medicine does.

Now, I'm a man. And, I'll say right out, I PREFER a woman who is educated. Not necessarily "went to college", but learned about issues, read about them, studied them out of her own interest. I read history books, I read newspapers (online, but still). During the last election, I looked through articles and transcripts of previous votes and discussions from both candidates. But, I am not a college graduate. Does this make my current work situation harder? Hell yes, it does. But, such is life. Due to my current low pay, I can't really afford to change that. It sucks, yes, but that doesn't mean I give up on my brain either. It just means during work, I have to keep my thoughts inside, because being in a service related industry, it's all about keeping a customer happy, and I can't do that by telling them their views on gay rights are bigoted.

Hell, if ANYTHING, but current job makes me more likely to talk about it outside of work!

All this said, I'd say I'm a little atypical too in that I have no interests in any kind of "gender roles". If I get into a relationship with this chef lady... she'll probably do the cooking because she could do it SO much better than I could, hehe. But, I have no issues with the idea of being a stay-at-home dad.

It's really a matter of preference. Some guys want that idealic 50s wife at home who only cares about his needs and doesn't talk about much else outside of that.

Me? I couldn't stand that. I'd be disappointed if me and a significant other couldn't sit at home, watch the news, and then talk about how ridiculous it is.
 
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