Hmmm... when I was looking, I said to myself, try to find someone with a college education, has a job, is doing all right, and who you can have a good conversation with. Those were some of the standards.

My girlfriend now, she's a doctor. She has her B.S. in chemistry, a M.D. in internal medicine, 2 years of residency under her belt, and she just got accepted to a top medical school to specialize in endocronology (it's extremely impressive... maybe 200 applicants apply, only 15 are interviewed, and there are only 2 spots available, and she got one!). And to answer your topic question, yes, I really want a woman who is successful and educated. She's not pushy or flaunts the fact that she's a doctor, no, she's caring, supportive, lets me treat her (most of the time ), and she's just a wonderful person to be with.

On a side note, she was telling me about one of her doctor friends at work who I met one time who went on a blind date recently. This girl went on a blind date with a guy she met at a cocktail party, and on paper this guy was top notch. Advanced degree, millionare, owns his own company, is heavily involved with helping the poor in India, I mean, really a catch on paper. But she was saying that she wasn't attracted to him, and there wasn't a spark. She was talking to my girlfriend and saying "When I look at you and how you're so happy with Mr_Right, that's what I want." (and rest assured, I'm definitely not a millionare ). My girlfriend convinced her that this guy was definitely second-dateworthy (the rationale was how many times will you get to meet someone this good on paper), so we'll see how it goes. So sometimes the women who are successful and educated, when they go after the successful and educated men, they're not attracted/happy with them. A interesting point.

And to answer your question at the end, having all the qualities that you list on paper in a mate doesn't mean that there's going to be attraction or a spark or chemistry.

And if those guys are intimidated by a woman with a college degree and a house, that's their issue that they have to deal with. Find someone who can accept that. Seriously, wouldn't you WANT to find someone who had a college degree and a house, expecially in these troubled times? Though people who flaunt their education and house and job won't get far in the dating market. And successful women who have the attitude "I don't need a man." won't get far either.