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I don't know what kind of experiences the OP is having, but I just don't buy that most men or any significant number of men are going to disqualify someone for being educated and successful if they have all the other qualities they are looking for. I know I wouldn't.
- June 21st, 2009, 03:37 pm
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waltercl wrote :
I don't know what kind of experiences the OP is having, but I just don't buy that most men or any significant number of men are going to disqualify someone for being educated and successful if they have all the other qualities they are looking for. I know I wouldn't.
+1 Well stated, man!
- June 21st, 2009, 03:52 pm
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waltercl wrote :
I don't know what kind of experiences the OP is having, but I just don't buy that most men or any significant number of men are going to disqualify someone for being educated and successful if they have all the other qualities they are looking for. I know I wouldn't.
That's pretty much what I said in the "Why can't successful women find a great man?" thread, it's something the OP is doing or not doing. Misinterpretation is plausible. I don't feel it has anything to do with with men being afraid of smart successful women.
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I understand- I'm in the intimidating woman's club! But going back and reading the OP- you state 'they said they were unsure of dating you at first,' but obviously they did move past it and ask you out! Don't you think we're all a little intimidated when being faced with the people we're most attracted to? Maybe they said that meaning it to be a compliment! If they weren't somewhat intimidated, they probably wouldn't like you! Think of it that way, and give them a second date! I understand your question, but I think you're being too quick to judge, and you're only shooting yourself in the foot by cutting it off so soon!
- June 21st, 2009, 04:35 pm
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DanielJr82 wrote :
I wish I had a source to back this up, but from what I read in college from my Sociology classes... statistically speaking men tend to marry (or are attracted to) women who are below their socioeconomic status. Call it a protective mindset, men like to feel like they're in control.

I generally don't pay attention to that. I just want someone I can click with, e.g. physical attraction and chemistry.
You must of had one of the sociology books wrote by a woman because they pretty much had it backwards. Men don't necessarily "want" to date down it's that women want to marry up.
- June 21st, 2009, 04:36 pm
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Benevolence32 wrote :
You must of had one of the sociology books wrote by a woman because they pretty much had it backwards. Men don't necessarily "want" to date down it's that women want to marry up.


Taking that reasoning, does that mean that we should similarly discount findings presented in books by male academics as being hopelessly biased? Or, is it just women who have this problem?
- June 21st, 2009, 06:05 pm
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Taking that reasoning, does that mean that we should similarly discount findings presented in books by male academics as being hopelessly biased? Or, is it just women who have this problem?
lol I knew I'd get it for that one, I was just being facetious mostly with that first sentence.
- June 21st, 2009, 06:31 pm
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Benevolence32 wrote :
lol I knew I'd get it for that one, I was just being facetious mostly with that first sentence.
Smilies; use your smilies! There are plenty of people here who would make that statement in complete seriousness so it's easily misunderstood if you don't indicate that you're joking...
- June 21st, 2009, 06:43 pm
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neardc wrote :
Smilies; use your smilies! There are plenty of people here who would make that statement in complete seriousness so it's easily misunderstood if you don't indicate that you're joking...
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Or you can always tack on a *biiiiig grin* or *laugh* about it. Sarcasm and poking fun are great! But online you've got to make it clear. There was a book I read once where this fellow almost got his vocal chords cut... sounded like he was being "ironic" and deadpan all the time. He had to raise his hand every time he was really being sarcastic. Same difference here- if you don't show, we don't know! *grin*
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