Do Men Really Want a Successful & Educated Woman?


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Drexel09 is offline Drexel09 Post #211  July 21,2009, 3:59pm
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I dated a college educated teacher for 2 years. However, we never really had what one would call an "intellectual" conversation. In the evening when I wanted to watch Jeopardy, she was feeding her Facebook addiction while watching TLC's "What Not to Wear" In fact, she had never voted prior to the 2008 election even though she was 28....just my 2 cents...
 
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I'm extremely attracted to successful and well educated women. The only problems that I've encountered are when there's a huge disparity one way or the other. I will also comment that I have seen friends with more traditional ideas regarding gender roles have issues with well educated and successful women. I personally welcome the intelligent conversation and feel that both people benefit when there's a high level of similarity in success and education.
 
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avinash wrote :
technically at warp factor 10 they exist at every point in the universe at once.

yes i'm a nerd
Star Trek is da Bomb.

Captain Janeway of Voyager is a strong, intelligent and succesful woman. I'd date her, if she was a subserviant and knew her place.

Flame on.
 
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NiceGuysFinishFirst is offline NiceGuysFinishFirst Post #214  July 22,2009, 5:20pm

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I don't mean to come off as arrogant or a snob when I say this, but I like smart women. I prefer women who are cultured and have a multitude of interests. Women who know who "Yo Yo Ma" is and that he's not a rapper. Women who I can have conversations with for hours and hours on any subject and never get bored talking to her. I have very high standards on women I date and I personally prefer women who are educated, have a career, are ambitious, intelligent, and confident over women who lack self-esteem, are dependent and lack ambition or are indifferent. I've dated women like that in the past and quite frankly it drained me. I can't do it anymore.

I own my own house, have a full-time job, I'm going to school, paid off my car and yet I can't seem to find anybody while other guys have no problem. That's frustrating. Does that mean that women are intimidated by me, too?
 
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I don't mean to come off as arrogant or a snob when I say this, but I like smart women. I prefer women who are cultured and have a multitude of interests. Women who know who "Yo Yo Ma" is and that he's not a rapper. Women who I can have conversations with for hours and hours on any subject and never get bored talking to her. I have very high standards on women I date and I personally prefer women who are educated, have a career, are ambitious, intelligent, and confident over women who lack self-esteem, are dependent and lack ambition or are indifferent. I've dated women like that in the past and quite frankly it drained me. I can't do it anymore.

I own my own house, have a full-time job, I'm going to school, paid off my car and yet I can't seem to find anybody while other guys have no problem. That's frustrating. Does that mean that women are intimidated by me, too?
I am attracted to the same type of women. I have found many women to be educated, but not very ambitious. Lacking self-esteem, dependency and little to no ambition are big turnoffs. Agreed it is very draining.

Not sure if you intimidate women. Some women have an issue with men going to school even as a part-time thing. Won't have enough time for them maybe? Monetary issues with paying for school and/or not a good career lead you to go back to school?

Are you not meeting anyone who'd like to date you or just not meeting anyone where there is a two-way connection? If it's the latter, these things can take time depending on how specific you are in what you are looking for.

Didn't you start a thread about asking out a waitress? She sounded like an attractive woman that you like. Was she educated and ambitious? Do the qualities you are looking for play a significant role in your process?
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PoliticalChick01 wrote :
As someone who has been back in the dating world for the past few months, my question is for the guys. Do you really want to date someone who is sucessful and educated as you claim, or in reality is that something that intimidates you?

I wondering this as the past 2 guys that I have gone out with has mentioned to me during our 1st date that they were unsure of going out with me at first as I intimidated them..... what???

I asked them for further clarification and they said that they were intimated by the fact that, in their words, " I'm attractive, I am a college graduate, own my own home and car, volunteer with the USO on the side, and work for the government." I'm lost as how this is intimidating as guys say they are looking for girls that are educated and have a successful job, but honestly do you really want that or someone that is not as educated as you and doesn't have their own house/car??

Since those two dates, I have not gone out with those 2 guys again even though they asked me out again as why would I want to date someone that is insecure with themselves that they would tell a girl that they intimidate them.

You would think that a guy would want a girl that can at least knows what is going on in the world that can hold a conversation with you and has a job so I wouldn't have to be a gold digger and mooch off you. Is it more the fact that I own my own townhouse that scared them off and they rent??? At least I am not homeless.

Guys, can you give me some insight into this as why you say you want a girl that is educated, has a job and is successful, then turn around and act another way when you find a girl that has all the qualities you want?
I can only speak for myself. However, IMHO, a guy who doesn't want this in a woman is insecure in his own self. If that is the case, is he really the person you should be interested in. I want and need someone who has the same life experience that I do, who can discuss the same things I am interested in - or at least has had enough exposure to them to know that maybe they aren't interested in them - but can still articulate them. I want a strong secure woman who is confident in who she is, and what she wants, and is capable.

Probably most of all - I do not want a clinging vine. I want that independent woman to freely give herself to me and I give myself to her. That results in a truly marvelous relationship that both parties really want to be together. I had such a relationship with my late wife of 44 + years and have met a woman of similar education and experience 3 weeks ago and look forward to another such relationship.

Believe me, I am overwhelmed and very thankful that I would find two such outstanding relationships in a single lifetime.

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I am sure that a graduate education and professional success are good things in a partner. However, many professionals in their 30s in the areas like DC have a bad rep for dedicating ALL of their energy to success at all means at the expense of friends and family, for never having a long-term relationship, and for having an emotional development of a teenager.

So, as other posters suggested, those guys are either insecure, or might have made a wrong assumption about OP's priorities.

I believe a confident guy will be glad to continue dating a highly educated successful woman as long he feels she has enough energy and emotional development for other important things in life. And this is not a sexist comment since no woman would want a self-absorbed career-obsessed stressed guy.
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A woman who is either successful or is actively working towards her goals is a must for me. I believe that two motivated people drive each other to succeed. That being said, there is an opposite extreme. There are some woman who are so hung up on their position in life, that they can't just let their guard down and just be a girl out on a date.
 
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Strong woman in the western world means boss. And I'm sorry, but I am a man, and no woman rules me, no matter how many sitcoms say she should. She is not threatening, it is a matter of masculinity. I am built to be masculine, not submissive to gender confused emotionalism that is the new western woman. Eastern european women have not yet been ruined by ultra feminism, and still understand what true female power is. It is beauty and seduction, not masculine strength. With these powers she owns her man. It is a much more complementary relationship. Who on earth, after dealing with the competitive world, wants to compete when they come home? No one. The submissive man submits. Eventually, his wife wonders why she does not feel love anymore for this man. This explains the divorce epidemic. Traditional relationships work. Sorry if it's not what you wanted to hear. Sorry you have wrecked most of the men and women here in the States. We have more gender confusion than anywhere else. But really, the traditional relationship is what lasts.
 
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The short answer to your question, in my world, is ABSOLUTELY!!!! I may not be a "typcial guy", whatever that means, but honestly if I were to find a girl that made more money than me in the long run......I would be jacked. I consider myself a driven, motivated, intelligent, and successful individual. If I were to find a girl that had all of that and more I would be completely drawn to them. I do not want to be the only thing a girl has going for them in their lives. I want someone that I can help them grow in their personal and professional lives, just as much as they can help me. I cannot stand unintelligent women and look for those women that have that intellectual ability as well as goals, drive, and determination!
 
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