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The reality is instinctive; many men want to provide for their women. This process enables a man's masculinity, giving him one of his primary functions in life. A feminine woman knows this, willingly cedes this function to her man, understands she will be fulfilled through different functions. None of this has anything to do with women being successful and educated (which I think all men prefer) nor men feeling intimidated by it (which is silly). This is a discussion about what men are attracted to, and what they are less attracted to, and such things have not changed for thousands of years. A traditional, feminine woman may be educated and successful and yet still very attractive to the widest variety of men. She has tremendous power, of a different kind, and knows it. She doesn't try to sculpt her man, using various emasculating western devices, into something that, in the end, she will actually not find attractive (the typical sitcom, whining, weak but funny male example we see on TV).
- July 6th, 2009, 10:24 am
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There are a number of personality characteristics that oftentimes go with being ambitious and successful in the competitive business world that to me aren't conducive to an intimate relationship. While being successful (professionally) doesn't mean a lot to me, one way or the other, if a woman can't turn off the 'business personality' I would probably find it a turnoff.
- July 8th, 2009, 07:12 pm
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i am successful, educated and even witty, but still no man wants me. ha ha
- July 8th, 2009, 07:19 pm
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i am successful, educated and even witty, but still no man wants me. ha ha
How do you define success?

How do you define educated?
- July 8th, 2009, 07:34 pm
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A successful, intelligent, and self reliant women that can be feminine outside of work is very attractive. An arrogant, emasculating woman with a chip on her shoulder towards men is not.
I like feminine traits in a partner when I'm with her.

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- July 8th, 2009, 08:11 pm
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Well, all I can add is that my fiance tells me that he appreciates having someone that can discuss a variety of things with him on his level. He'd not had that in his first marriage, and is enjoying it now.
- July 8th, 2009, 08:50 pm
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For men at large? No, they don't want a successful or Educated woman. No, it has nothing to do with intimidation at all. Men find beauty and charisma intimidating, there is no aspect of education of success that threatens a man as the vast majority of them feel they have as much of both as they need. Men just have no use for those qualities in a partner. Successful women are stereotypically emotionally draining and physically unavailable. They tend to use their career as a barrier to avoid commitment or confrontation. They're needs are very refined and they don't have time to take care of their partners needs. Educated women are stereotypically very sensitive about their accomplisments and intellect. Despite being very educated about fact and theory they suck at instinct and empathy, they are argumentative, short-temperred, self-rightous. Weather you follow the stereotypes of either promoting yourself as Successful or Educated doesn't bring up any kind of positive experience for a man. Men do want a partner who will share their load financially and they do want someone that challenges their intellect but they've been tot he mountains of Sucessful and Educated women and they're not lining up to go back.
- July 9th, 2009, 01:08 am
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For men at large? No, they don't want a successful or Educated woman. No, it has nothing to do with intimidation at all. Men find beauty and charisma intimidating, there is no aspect of education of success that threatens a man as the vast majority of them feel they have as much of both as they need. Men just have no use for those qualities in a partner. Successful women are stereotypically emotionally draining and physically unavailable. They tend to use their career as a barrier to avoid commitment or confrontation. They're needs are very refined and they don't have time to take care of their partners needs. Educated women are stereotypically very sensitive about their accomplisments and intellect. Despite being very educated about fact and theory they suck at instinct and empathy, they are argumentative, short-temperred, self-rightous. Weather you follow the stereotypes of either promoting yourself as Successful or Educated doesn't bring up any kind of positive experience for a man. Men do want a partner who will share their load financially and they do want someone that challenges their intellect but they've been tot he mountains of Sucessful and Educated women and they're not lining up to go back.
Welcome to eHA and the 21st Century, where Successful and Educated Men and Women can actually ENJOY each other's company without being subservient to one another...

And if you read the thread, the Educated part of Successful and Educated brings a great deal of positive experience to a lot of men around here, because it kinda implies that not every thread in the land of eHA is about shopping for shoes and make up, or discussing the latest and greatest news from Hollywood.

And welcome aboard. We hope you enjoy a Successfully Educating ride!
- July 9th, 2009, 03:02 am
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For men at large? No, stereotypicallythey don't want a successful or Educated woman. No, it has nothing to do with intimidation at all. stereotypicallyMen find beauty and charisma intimidating, there is no aspect of education of success that threatens a man as the vast majority of them feel they have as much of both as they need. stereotypicallyMen just have no use for those qualities in a partner. Successful women are stereotypically emotionally draining and physically unavailable. They tend to use their career as a barrier to avoid commitment or confrontation. They're needs are very refined and they don't have time to take care of their partners needs. Educated women are stereotypically very sensitive about their accomplisments and intellect. Despite being very educated about fact and theory they suck at instinct and empathy, they are argumentative, short-temperred, self-rightous. Weather you follow the stereotypes of either promoting yourself as Successful or Educated doesn't bring up any kind of positive experience for a man. Men do want a partner who will share their load financially and they do want someone that challenges their intellect but they've been tot he mountains of Sucessful and Educated women and they're not lining up to go back.
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The problem with this and far too many threads (ok IMHO one is too many) in here is mass generalizations and assumptions based on the generalizations. SOME are that way. SOME not ALL. Go though life with expectations / looking for bad and that is what you will find. To paraphrase Zig Ziggler "be a good finder... look for good and you will be amazed at how much of it you will find"
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My experience has been that the more successful the man, the more he cares about my looks and the less he cares about my education and success. Why? Because he's so full of himself that he only wants a hot chick.

I had one executive who "worshipped" me for my brains, beauty, eclectic interests, and free-spirit -- only to later hook up with a dumb, boring, and high-maintenance but cute flight attendant while high-flying.

Men are liars. Watch out for their sweet talk.

On the other hand, I have also dated some very educated but less successful men - namely curious and adventurous scholars with no money - and this group really likes brainiacs.
- July 9th, 2009, 03:10 pm
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