Do Men Really Want a Successful & Educated Woman?

You are a woman who has a lot to offer a guy. You need not worry about the men who are so insecure that your qualities would scare them off. I only have a high school education but have many talents in other areas. Dont loose heart you will eventually find a guy that will appreciate you for all of who you are.

You are not alone girl I have the same trouble. All I can figure out is men are intimidated by women like us. sigh....Stay positive!

I'd like to throw out a comment. Some people have been saying that it's not the fact that a woman is successful and educated that makes it hard for her in dating, but that it must be something about her personality. But I'd wager that successful women both think and act differently, necessarily, from women who are not.

I'll give an example. Most people, especially men, like to feel admired. It generally will take more to impress a successful, educated woman. I'm 29, make a 6 figure salary, went to top schools, and find that I am not automatically impressed by lawyers, doctors, other professionals. But many of these men expect to drop the "I'm a _____" bomb and to see your eyes light up. I'm not salivating over a meal ticket. And I don't act like it. And I don't want to pretend that something impresses me when it doesn't.

However, I do admire many men in the military (esp. Marines) and men who have their own successful businesses, even if they are blue collar.

Haven't you all seen the Sex and the City episode where Miranda has no luck when she tells the guys she's a lawyer? But she gets laid after she tells the guys she's a flight attendant?

All in all, my sense is that many men do not prefer a truly successful educated independent woman because they may feel it's more work to impress them and/or keep them.

I dont know about everyone else, but I would LOVE to be with a woman who was crass, ignorant and not even remotely successful.

I think the stereotype that men are intimidated by successful women comes from successful women who are approached by the 5% of men who figure if they approach 20 women in a night, one will sleep with them. When he figures out that a particular woman is educated and respectes herself, he moves on and since this interaction is rapid, it stands out in her mind.

No need to worry about men who are bothered by your degree and townhouse, they are losers that will bore you stiff in nanseconds. The really relevant question is why do you have such microscopic expectations that you would even look at someone without these entry level credentials ? You are far better off associating with successful friends than decending to the level of any availible underachieving male.

No need to worry about men who are bothered by your degree and townhouse, they are losers that will bore you stiff in nanseconds. The really relevant question is why do you have such microscopic expectations that you would even look at someone without these entry level credentials ? You are far better off associating with successful friends than decending to the level of any availible underachieving male.