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Just as there are many insecure women there are many insecure men. You highlighted a couple of them. I personally know a few of these types. In addition to being insecure they are emotionally immature. Let me add that they are typically male chauvinists too.

Me? I'd love to date someone more intelligent than me AND who makes more income than I do. Unfortunately, I have only dated one woman in my years who was more intelligent. I don't consider myself the sharpest crayon in the box either which why I am disappointed that I haven't crossed paths with a lot more woman with more intelligence. I say bring 'em on!
- June 26th, 2009, 01:52 pm
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As someone who has been back in the dating world for the past few months, my question is for the guys. Do you really want to date someone who is sucessful and educated as you claim, or in reality is that something that intimidates you?

I wondering this as the past 2 guys that I have gone out with has mentioned to me during our 1st date that they were unsure of going out with me at first as I intimidated them..... what???

I asked them for further clarification and they said that they were intimated by the fact that, in their words, " I'm attractive, I am a college graduate, own my own home and car, volunteer with the USO on the side, and work for the government." I'm lost as how this is intimidating as guys say they are looking for girls that are educated and have a successful job, but honestly do you really want that or someone that is not as educated as you and doesn't have their own house/car??

Since those two dates, I have not gone out with those 2 guys again even though they asked me out again as why would I want to date someone that is insecure with themselves that they would tell a girl that they intimidate them.

You would think that a guy would want a girl that can at least knows what is going on in the world that can hold a conversation with you and has a job so I wouldn't have to be a gold digger and mooch off you. Is it more the fact that I own my own townhouse that scared them off and they rent??? At least I am not homeless.

Guys, can you give me some insight into this as why you say you want a girl that is educated, has a job and is successful, then turn around and act another way when you find a girl that has all the qualities you want?
Actually, any secure man would prefer that you are independant.

I think you should take a step back and look at the type of men you attract and end up dating because it will say alot about you.

If you're attracting insecure men, perhaps that means you are coming on as too dominant, thereby repelling the type of men you want.

Most dominant men prefer submissive women because the roles are set and there's no confustion as to who makes the decisions and takes charge.

There's no such thing as a 50%-50% relationship.

One person always has the upper hand and you need to determine where you fit within that context.

If you are more of a dominant type woman, you're not going to attract dominant men because there's too much of a clash.

Remember that.
- June 26th, 2009, 02:35 pm
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Maybe if you measure things with more precision than is useful to the purpose.

I can get close enough to 50 / 50 to serve my intent and values. What’s been a lot harder is finding partners who share that intent.
- June 26th, 2009, 03:15 pm
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I don't know about the loser's who are asking you out, but I would like to date an educated successful women. Unfortunately I live in an area of the world where success is measured by how quickly you get married and have children after high school. If there are more like you, please tell me where you are at so I can move there, perhaps finds someone and move on with my life.
- June 26th, 2009, 08:51 pm
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I think it depends on how successful and how educated the women are. Or at least what their profession is. Nobody's 100% the same. But good men, are usually open minded.
- June 26th, 2009, 09:03 pm
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I feel you should find a guy with some self-esteem; if smart is a problem the problem is the guy; move along on your path to the right guy; a guy good within himself and excellent for you.
- June 26th, 2009, 09:23 pm
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Sure men like successful & educated women but she has to take care of her body as well as her mind. You see attractive women with fat but successful men but for the most part, the reverse doesn't hold true. Most men like & want to spend time, money & effort on an attractive woman & if she's educated too, all the better!
- June 26th, 2009, 10:06 pm
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ronail wrote :
I don't know about the loser's who are asking you out, but I would like to date an educated successful women. Unfortunately I live in an area of the world where success is measured by how quickly you get married and have children after high school. If there are more like you, please tell me where you are at so I can move there, perhaps finds someone and move on with my life.
Amen brother!
- June 26th, 2009, 10:08 pm
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I absolutely love a woman who is independent, successful, and educated. It means that they are their own person and have their own values and goals in life and aren't going to become dependent on me for their happiness. I would suggest expanding your criteria of who you date, because any man who is intimidated by that has control issues.
- June 26th, 2009, 10:12 pm
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AustinShaguar wrote :
Me? I'd love to date someone more intelligent than me AND who makes more income than I do. Unfortunately, I have only dated one woman in my years who was more intelligent. I don't consider myself the sharpest crayon in the box either which why I am disappointed that I haven't crossed paths with a lot more woman with more intelligence. I say bring 'em on!
May I ask what leads you to believe that an intelligent woman would want to date someone, who doesn't believe himself to be the sharpest crayon in the box?

From my observation, most successful couplings occur between intellectual equals (this does not mean the same though). So, I'll just reiterate what I stated here before - if you want to be with an intelligent woman, you need to be an intelligent man. And I'll add that you also need to believe in yourself and project the attitude of confidence (not arrogance or inferiority).

Good luck!
- June 26th, 2009, 10:15 pm
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