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I met someone for the first time yesterday after talking and texting for a week and the moment I saw him, I got that flutter. He was everything that I expected and then some. We spent a few hours walking around, talking, laughing, getting to know each other even more, and before we knew it, I had to go. I didn't want to leave and I know he felt the same way. We ended the date with a hug, even though I think a kiss was on both our minds. We've already got plans for today and tomorrow!

I've never had this strong of a click before with anyone and I don't know how to handle it. It usually takes me a few months to really warm up to someone. Is it possible to know after such a short time that this person is the one for you?

I want to know if anyone else has ever had this happen to them.
 
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I've never had this strong of a click before with anyone and I don't know how to handle it. It usually takes me a few months to really warm up to someone. Is it possible to know after such a short time that this person is the one for you?

I want to know if anyone else has ever had this happen to them.[/quote]


Yes, it is possible, it happened to me. I met someone on the internet a little over 2 years ago. We e-mailed for 6 weeks before it was possible for us to meet (he live in the U.S. and I live in the UK). I met him at the airport and as soon as I looked into his eyes I instantly knew that this was "it".

Good luck with it, I wish you all the best for you both!
 
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Congratulations! You are one of the lucky few to feel some chemistry on meeting a match. I have only felt this dating someone I met before IRL.

It is NOT possible to know after such a short time if this person is the one for you....that is what dating is all about! It takes time. Just have a good time getting to know each other and you will eventually see whether you are truly compatible.

Good luck!
 
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There are many on these boards that if they did not have an instant spark will not go out again with that person.

Me, I have never felt an instant spark.
 
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derrr is offline derrr Post #5  June 20,2009, 8:59pm
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I haven't felt the instantaneous "spark" either, but I have enough romanticism in me still to believe it can happen...

I totally wish you good luck too!
 
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Oh wow. Lucky! Congrats!
 
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Not really, but it sure feels good
I've only experienced it once and it was phenomenal and mind-blowing, since it happened on our first meeting in real life, and I wasn't online dating him at all.

It led to the best reationship of my life, but it didn't work out in the end, which was largely my own fault, although there were some extenuating circumstances.

What I'm trying to convey is that while that instantaneous "click" or "spark" is a very good sign, it does not make the relationship work. You still need to go through all the stages, and put in all the necessary effort, from both parties, in order to build a successful relationship out of it.

So, enjoy the spark, but don't get carried away with it, thinking that it's a done deal.

Best of luck and hope it all works out for you!
 
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chrlesmd is offline chrlesmd Post #8  June 20,2009, 9:20pm
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I've gotten that feeling a few times from meeting someone from eharmony. Not to say any of them worked out, but it is pretty cool to have that sort of feeling. Good luck!
 
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musmusculus is offline musmusculus Post #9  June 20,2009, 10:19pm
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When I first met my GF, I felt an instant click. On our fourth date, she told me that she had also felt it.

For me, it was based on our shared sense of humor and the unbelievable ease with which we could talk to each other. Physical chemistry didn't fully develop until our third date.

From what I've experienced and heard, this kind of first date click is not typical. That's why I'd always wait at least two or three dates before deciding that there was no chemistry. But I feel blessed to have found it and so should you. Go with it, have fun, and best of luck!
 
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MelinCali wrote :
Congratulations! You are one of the lucky few to feel some chemistry on meeting a match. I have only felt this dating someone I met before IRL.

It is NOT possible to know after such a short time if this person is the one for you....that is what dating is all about! It takes time. Just have a good time getting to know each other and you will eventually see whether you are truly compatible.

Good luck!
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It's great that you felt an instant spark -- enjoy every moment of getting to know him!

I've felt that click with several partners in the past -- it usually led to a long-term relationship, but ultimately we ended up breaking up due to compatibility, circumstances, etc.

My only advice -- enjoy getting to know him, don't get too far ahead of yourself and don't let your instant connection blind you to any red flags. Have fun!
 
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