A Mars Venus Guide: Dating Do's and Don'ts for Women

A Mars Venus Guide: Dating Do's and Don'ts for Women

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IcecreamMoon is offline IcecreamMoon Post #11  July 16,2009, 6:29am
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fakecubed wrote :
Sometimes you don't really want to communicate better, because then you find out you hate your spouse
But the sooner you find out, the sooner you can move on with your life, heal that wound, and then find someone whom you'll hopefully love, rather than hate, and who will make it all feel much, much better
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
But the sooner you find out, the sooner you can move on with your life, heal that wound, and then find someone whom you'll hopefully love, rather than hate, and who will make it all feel much, much better
Ignorance is bliss, too


I'm not really serious though, just having a bit of fun with your post. It does amuse me how often dating "experts" have terrible luck in their own relationships. What John Gray says rings true, however.
 
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fakecubed wrote :
Ignorance is bliss, too


I'm not really serious though, just having a bit of fun with your post. It does amuse me how often dating "experts" have terrible luck in their own relationships. What John Gray says rings true, however.
Perhaps it's failure that causes people to think and analyze and search for answers. When things are right or come easy we generally do not sit around and think about why that is so.
 
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I believe a man wants, and needs to feel comfortable with the woman he is with and the same can be said for a woman in a relationship. True, all relationships do take work but, a man doesn't want to feel he has to work all the time when in a good relationship, the relationship if natural, and comfortable, needs to care for both the man and the woman as if the relationship is being driven by a natraul current, like a current in a river bed, sure, there are a few rocks and stones along the way but because the current runs so smoothly it has learnt over time how to bend and turn were these rocks and stones pop up along its journey, just as we do in a comfortable relationship.  
 
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I think the book is a very good general guide for starting out on the right foot. At the same time I have met alot of men that like a woman to be a little challenging and feisty, and that makes them more like men rather than being with a women who doesn't express herself and just goes along without giving her opinion....it just depends.
Everybody is different.

But I think both people have to be a little more careful the first few meetings because that's where it all starts and/or ends
I was happy to learn that it's better to let the man do things for you and that it makes him happy to do so....I was brought up to do everything myself and not to rely on anyone because I didn't have a dad around to do things...so it's helpful.

Many women I know think it's wrong to make it seem as if it's the woman who has to change to accommodate the man and that the book makes it seem there is something wrong with women. I don't see it that way, I think as a species we need to reestablish the balance between masuline & feminine ways of interacting. Our whole society is masculine oriented - war, economy, winning, goals, etc..
It's good that we allow them to take care of us and make sure they take time to be more respectful of women and to take intimacy more seriously. It's better for them as well.

Since I read the book I now use it to observe my interactions with men and their reactions, even men who are friends and even my brother. Yes, men are sensitive to rejection, and that can come in many forms but if a woman becomes more "discerning" (word from Gray) then she will be wise to what kind of a guy he is. Maybe he really is too insecure, or maybe he really is a big baby. But not all guys will be and she will have given both parties a chance to see eachother more clearly.

I met a guy recently, and we had a long 1 day date that was quite nice, but he was already acting in a presumptuous way, thinking I
am ready to jump in the bed with him and that we are already together. He's very sweet, but when i push him away I can see
that he gets upset...I think he really likes me and will not use me,
but if I don't want to go so fast and he doesn't understand....what
can I do?? That's the way he expresses himself....sex first. It's not
bad, but if you follow the book, then it seems to say that if a woman goes along, there will be problems later.

So I guess it depends on what kind of relationship you are ultimately looking for. If you're not necessarily thinking in terms of long term and/or marriage then you might not mind to just go with the flow and
have a nice relationship with someone. But if you want a soulmate it's different. So I like the book because it has made plain to me things of which I was only slight aware of.
 
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Offended? Why because he tells the truth? Compared to women men don't like to talk. Football games, YES men grunt at each other!

Our language is very succinct compared to women's language. I can say Jacobs and Brees and many men know what I am talking about. Most women will have no clue.

John Gray is using the brilliance and genius of Dale Carnegie. Women are by far better communicators than most men. He's only sold 15 million books. But he's not PC-he tells the truth.

How many men use the words curtains and mauve in the same sentence?
Who knows even if the season will start this year.

And what the heck is mauve.
 
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