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islandrain80 is offline islandrain80 Post #41  July 5,2009, 2:28pm
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I don't know why I am asking this and I think I probably already know the answer, but what is y'all's take on a guy putting a shirtless photo in his profile? For me, it's a turn-off. Not sure why guys feel the need to do that and usually it's an automatic "close" for me because I think it's a bit too much in a "look at me!" or "hey baby, you want some of this?"sort of way.

Well, I've reached OC with a match who has seemed pretty nice so far. He told me he was going to be putting up more pics soon because he had just come back from vacation (the location was not one where I'd expect any shirtless photos to be taken). So he has updated his profile and removed two of the original photos, replacing one with a pic of his sister and her family and the other is of him shirtless with one of those marathon/triathlon number tags pinned to his shorts. He is, of course, very fit and should be proud of that, but the pic is not really of him participating in the race. It's more of a close-up to show off how buff/ripped/whatever he is. It kind of bothered me and I'm not sure what to think now. I'm getting the feeling he's one of those guys who thinks he's really hot and wants the rest of the world to know it, too.

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For me it depends on a few things. What the background is. If it's a vacation spot, or some place where you'd normally go without a shirt, that's fine. If it's in a bedroom...not so fine.

If it's the only picture they have, I'll pass. If it's among other tasteful pictures, I won't.

If he's posing...i.e licking his lips, winking, etc...that's just cheesy.
 
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it's a turn off to me.
as much as I love a great body, I think posting shirtless photos shows narcissism, as well as tendency of being overly sexual. I think this kind of guys won't have the patience to wait till I get ready.
 
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I think that it is sexy, and you can see what is obviously going on with him and his features....however, it may also send a message of vanity,or maybe perhaps it might bring feelings to someone that they might not be good enough for them, because their body is not up to code with theirs. There is nothing that I find sexier tho than a man wearing a v-neck doing house work,playing with the kids, or a white tank top.I dunno though I am everywhere on this question. One heck of a good conversation starter though.
 
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My thoughts are if the one or two photos are of him at the beach shirtless that is one thing, but anything else is just plain tacky and are screaming "look at my body".

Seriously guys, what is up with the chessy shirtless poses or butt shots in front of the bathroom mirror that you take or the shirtless pictures of you flexing your muscles? Not sure who you are trying to impress by those shots and they are such a turn-off.

As much as I love a great body like the next person, if you want to impress a girl or seriously want to meet someone, keep the shirt on as shirtless chessy poses screams vain and insecurity.
 
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UGH I just had a match with 18 photos. 16 of those photos were of him cheesily posing shirtless. Could not say NEXT fast enough! Most of the time I will close a guy with shirtless photos. IMO, it's like he is saying all he has to offer me is his 6 pack and biceps. No thanks, I prefer a guy with some substance.

I don't mind if it's one or two photos where the guy is at a beach, pool or some other shirtless activity. But I close the guys who are obviously just posing that way.
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Not a fan of the shirtless pic. My self-esteem is in check. For me the deal is if I can't post topless, I don't really see why men should be allowed to. It seems society's way of telling women, once again, that their bodies are shameful, and I'm not buying that. My goal is to find someone who is classy and who would mesh with me. A man who posts a gratuitous shirtless pic is probably not going to be a good match for me.

My favorite part of the male body is the chest, so it's not that I don't ever want to see it. I just don't want my future partner's business to become public domain, if that makes sense. In context, as many people have mentioned (beach, pool, etc.), I don't have a problem with a candid shirtless pic. Just please, men, don't let this be the only picture on your profile
 
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PoliticalChick01 wrote :
My thoughts are if the one or two photos are of him at the beach shirtless that is one thing, but anything else is just plain tacky and are screaming "look at my body".
OK...maybe I need to take my camera to the beach...
 
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When I see a woman's profile with a pic of her in a bikini its a dating turnoff. To me it sends a message of 'what are they selling?' and possible emotional youth. I like a slender to athletic bod too, but sell me your personalitiy, interests, beliefs, etc first. If then I'm interested, we'll get to your body later.

I had briefly chatted with a match and she quickly sent me pics. Missing her left arm wasn't a dealbreaker but the bikini pic so soon showed desperation. I have seen many profiles of women around my age range with many revealing pics. The older their chronological age, the more it shows narcissism and high maintenance. If they are young, their emotional age matches and that's probably fine for younger fellas.

I don't check out guys' profiles (but do have an odd, simmering interest in the Frog's pics) though I would see shirtless fellas in the same light.
 
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I'd never post a shirtless pic, it would be guaranteed to send em running for the hills, or at least the pitchforks.
 
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[quote=Mainah64;693389]When I see a woman's profile with a pic of her in a bikini its a dating turnoff. To me it sends a message of 'what are they selling?' and possible emotional youth. I like a slender to athletic bod too, but sell me your personalitiy, interests, beliefs, etc first. If then I'm interested, we'll get to your body later.quote]

I'd say it depends on the context of the photo. If it's the whole family down at the beach then that's pretty innocent. If it is purely just to advertise the goods then ok, bit of a turn-off.

I'm not attracted to athletes anyway so the people i'm most likely to look at would probably never post a bikini pic in the first place.
 
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