What to wear on a first date


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NiceJewishJerseyGirl is offline NiceJewishJerseyGirl Post #1  June 18,2009, 9:13am
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I think I am probably showing too much boobie on my first dates and giving guys the wrong impression (i.e. that I just want sex, or that I’m easy), but I wonder what should I wear to early-on dates? I do want to show off some of my “assets” while I still have them, and now that the weather is getting warmer people are showing a lot more skin. Is there one pre-picked outfit that everyone wears on their first date? One article of clothing in your closet that always makes an appearance?

This probably seems like a girly question, and there seems to be a great gender divide when it comes to clothing/dressing and my peers (I’m in my late 20s), that the guys are just throwing on jeans and a crumpled t-shirt, even for a date. But I like a clean-cut guy and my profile (in the 10 can’t stands) says no slobs. Ideally (in my opinion) a guy should wear jeans or slacks and a collared shirt to a first date. Is that really too much to ask? Do I care too much about this?

Some men will never dress up even slightly, unless it is to go to someone’s funeral. (I had a past boyfriend that wouldn’t even dress up for his friend’s wedding.) But for me, putting a nice shirt on any guy increases their attractability by at least 30%. The fact that a guy is wearing a shirt that has to be ironed also shows that he put a little effort into his appearance, and I take this to be a good sign. Curious how others will weigh in however.
 
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The birthday suit is always an option. Just pose like Eve does and you'll be set.
 
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Hmmmmm...I would say that if I think a certain outfit is exposing too much, then it probably is. What makes you feel this way? Is it a reaction from your dates, or is it just something about what you are wearing?

For me, it usually comes down to what we're doing/where we're going. I tend towards conservative casual on the first date. There are ways to accentuate your assets without showing too much, if that's what you want to do. I don't really like to give the wrong idea of my expectations for how the first date is going to end, so nothing flashy for me.

In the summer if we're meeting somewhere air conditioned, I wear something to compensate for that--maybe capris with a tank and blouse over it. If we'll be outdoors, then maybe a sundress. Nothing overdone, nothing flashy, definitely comfortable. I don't, however, have one prepicked outfit that I always wear.

I agree that both parties should make the effort to be neat and clean when they meet for a date, if that is who they are. However, if they're doing this to make an impression, and in actuality they are sloppy, what a let down later on, right? I'd rather see the real person than someone who is trying to make a fake impression on me. I just have a hard time respecting someone who isn't true to who they are.

That's my 2 cents...take it for what it's worth.
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NiceJewishJerseyGirl wrote :
The fact that a guy is wearing a shirt that has to be ironed also shows that he put a little effort into his appearance, and I take this to be a good sign.
Unless his mother is doing the ironing.
 
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I have a good rule of thumb: Dress for the activity. If it's opening night at the opera, some formal wear is key. If it's lunch at a bodega, casual street wear is in order.

BTW, why the need to advertise the assets on the first date? You don't know if you want him hanging around yet, thus why give incentives? Believe me, men can see the boobies just fine under clothes, they took classes as teenagers.
 
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I can't speak for what women wear...few women I've met have dressed inappropriately for first dates.

I would agree that men should dress appropriately for dates, and that a guy who has obviously put little effort into his wardrobe makes a bad impression, and shouldn't be surprised if she doesn't want a second date.
 
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I would think that the problem lies more with the mentality of the guys that you chose to date rather than your outfit.
 
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MQRegan wrote :
The birthday suit is always an option. Just pose like Eve does and you'll be set.
Yes... and the birthday suit is an option every day...not just on your birthday.
 
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Since you are not in college as an undergrad the days of just throwing on any old thing are long past. I agree with the others that you have to consider what activity you will be attending then dress accordingly. Although I like looking at a woman's assets, I would rather a woman show less cleavage so as not to tempt me to look too much. I would much rather be caught looking at a pair of shapely if not long legs.
 
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The birthday suit is an awesome option...lol ( I am glad there are Men on these boards who are not afraid of sexuality)

My favorite for a girl to wear is a shirt.That way my mind goes to wht she would look wearing my shirt. But thats just me!
 
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