blrdancer is offline blrdancer Post #1  June 17,2009, 10:42am
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I know we've talked about frequency of calls/texts before -- but along those lines:

How often do you feel you need to be "in touch" -- whether that's an actual date, e-mail, phone call, etc. -- to sustain a relationship, particuarly in the beginning stages? I know this varies a lot based on schedules, personal preferences, etc -- just curious to hear others opinions on it.

In my past relationships, I've usually found that if the guy was really interested, he would want to see me pretty shortly after the first date - a few days max -- and the feeling was mutual. And after that, we'd keep in touch after that with maybe a couple of dates a week, at least a phone call or text 1-2 times a week (usually to set up a date), maybe e-mail once in a while.

Now I'm seeing a man who is much more distant than this...1 date a week only, really no phone calls/text/e-mail with the exception of setting up the date. I'm giving it a chance, but it just doesn't seem normal to me. (And yes, I understand that he's probably dating others ... I'm just speaking of my personal preference)

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I do not like texting as the main or even a major way of communicating and made that clear to the men I was dating. In the beginning weeks, phone calls and or emails two-three times a week was my norm. But with my current boyfriend-it was daily from the beginning-we had such a connection and now after two months it is a phone call in the morning and at night and we see each other 2-3 times a week.
 
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If we are just dating, than calling a couple of times a week is fine. If we are in a relationship I would like daily communication of some sort. I am the kind of guy that does send random text messages which apparently some women like.
 
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I like to meet weekly, but with other demands it isn’t always possible. I never meet in an evening when I have work the next day (though I’ve never had a partner within a few miles, either.)
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