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View Poll Results: How many dates does it take you to determine physical chemistry/attraction?
1-2 dates 104 73.24%
3-5 dates 33 23.24%
6-10 dates 3 2.11%
10+ dates 2 1.41%
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I just thought I would throw out a question more for fun than anything else. How long does it take you to determine whether or not there is physical attraction/chemistry with someone? Usually, I know within the first 1-2 dates.
Also, will you continue to date someone you are not initially attracted to in order to see if something develops? I think more women would do this than men, but I could be wrong.
- June 16th, 2009, 03:19 pm
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Appearance, meaning proportions, is instantaneous. Her sense of style / general grooming takes quite a bit longer (as some people slack off when they get a steady partner and others don’t.)

I have dated women without having attraction at the beginning, and it never developed. I consider this one of the bigger mistakes I’ve made, actually.
- June 16th, 2009, 03:28 pm
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I think on the first date I can decide whether or not there is chemistry or not. I mean one can feel a spark online and then meet and not have chemistry. The first date really determines if there is going to be a second or more.
- June 16th, 2009, 03:29 pm
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probably about 30 seconds. whether i remain attracted to someone takes longer.
- June 16th, 2009, 03:33 pm
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I'm with you two (D-Lion and SteveX) on that one...it takes me the first meeting usually. I have gone on second dates to see if anything develops, but that is it. After that, if there is no physical attraction, then there probably won't be. I end it right away because I hate the idea of leading people on.
- June 16th, 2009, 03:35 pm
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I think around 2 dates will give you a good idea. 2 weeks ago I had a date, which I didn't think went very well. I think the setting and time limit didn't help either (or add in the fact I was kinda hung up on a previous guy I dated).

I decided that date was enough for me. He called me this weekend and we went out again. The 2nd date was so much better. We got into some good conversation. There was more physical attraction (on my behalf) this time around.
- June 16th, 2009, 03:47 pm
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During the first date you should get the opportunity catch each other scent, as in fragrance or smell A hint of something imminent; a suggestion:that stimulates all of your senses. Hum'm Smells Good!

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- June 16th, 2009, 04:43 pm
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About 5-10 seconds.
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I say right away, 1st date.
I also have to add that I have gone out with men that their profile picture did nothing for me, but in the flesh they made me pur.
- June 16th, 2009, 08:42 pm
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I haven't 'dated' yet, I do believe I would need to see someone in different 'elements' to get a good idea if I could be attracted to someone. I hate cigarette smoke, and only dated one man who smoked, and darn if I didn't marry him! You just never know. I find it hard now, because I spent 37 years with my husband, and I watched him grow older, get thinning hair, a few wrinkles, add a few sizes up in his jeans, and I look at men his age now - and they seem to look so much older than he did. And I imagine I look alot older too! Hard to find initial attraction with this age (between 55-60).
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