How long do you take to determine if you have chemistry?


View Poll Results: How many dates does it take you to determine physical chemistry/attraction?
1-2 dates 106 73.10%
3-5 dates 34 23.45%
6-10 dates 3 2.07%
10+ dates 2 1.38%
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PinayBeauty is offline PinayBeauty Post #1  June 16,2009, 1:19pm
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I just thought I would throw out a question more for fun than anything else. How long does it take you to determine whether or not there is physical attraction/chemistry with someone? Usually, I know within the first 1-2 dates.
Also, will you continue to date someone you are not initially attracted to in order to see if something develops? I think more women would do this than men, but I could be wrong.
 
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D_Lion is offline D_Lion Post #2  June 16,2009, 1:28pm
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Appearance, meaning proportions, is instantaneous. Her sense of style / general grooming takes quite a bit longer (as some people slack off when they get a steady partner and others don’t.)
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I think on the first date I can decide whether or not there is chemistry or not. I mean one can feel a spark online and then meet and not have chemistry. The first date really determines if there is going to be a second or more.
 
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probably about 30 seconds. whether i remain attracted to someone takes longer.
 
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I'm with you two (D-Lion and SteveX) on that one...it takes me the first meeting usually. I have gone on second dates to see if anything develops, but that is it. After that, if there is no physical attraction, then there probably won't be. I end it right away because I hate the idea of leading people on.
 
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I think around 2 dates will give you a good idea. 2 weeks ago I had a date, which I didn't think went very well. I think the setting and time limit didn't help either (or add in the fact I was kinda hung up on a previous guy I dated).

I decided that date was enough for me. He called me this weekend and we went out again. The 2nd date was so much better. We got into some good conversation. There was more physical attraction (on my behalf) this time around.
 
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Harvey7 is offline Harvey7 Post #7  June 16,2009, 2:43pm

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During the first date you should get the opportunity catch each other scent, as in fragrance or smell A hint of something imminent; a suggestion:that stimulates all of your senses. Hum'm Smells Good!

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Mr_Right is offline Mr_Right Post #8  June 16,2009, 2:48pm
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About 5-10 seconds.
 
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JoJoBean is offline JoJoBean Post #9  June 16,2009, 6:42pm
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I say right away, 1st date.
I also have to add that I have gone out with men that their profile picture did nothing for me, but in the flesh they made me pur.
 
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I haven't 'dated' yet, I do believe I would need to see someone in different 'elements' to get a good idea if I could be attracted to someone. I hate cigarette smoke, and only dated one man who smoked, and darn if I didn't marry him! You just never know. I find it hard now, because I spent 37 years with my husband, and I watched him grow older, get thinning hair, a few wrinkles, add a few sizes up in his jeans, and I look at men his age now - and they seem to look so much older than he did. And I imagine I look alot older too! Hard to find initial attraction with this age (between 55-60).
 
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