How long do you take to determine if you have chemistry?


View Poll Results: How many dates does it take you to determine physical chemistry/attraction?
1-2 dates 106 73.10%
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6-10 dates 3 2.07%
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gothustartus is offline gothustartus Post #71  July 27,2009, 3:04am
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I define chemistry as an instant attraction and interest. Sure it can grow stronger as you get to know each other better but right at the start it's either there or it isn't.
 
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I really think I need 2 or 3 dates to really rule in or out any possible chemistry. That first date can be so nerve wracking that it is probable neither of is truly our real self. As a woman, I am more attracted to internal characteristics instead of instant physical attraction. That initial physical attraction is generally lust and a poor basis for a relationship long term.
 
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happyone222 wrote :
I really think I need 2 or 3 dates to really rule in or out any possible chemistry. That first date can be so nerve wracking that it is probable neither of is truly our real self. As a woman, I am more attracted to internal characteristics instead of instant physical attraction. That initial physical attraction is generally lust and a poor basis for a relationship long term.
Physical attraction isn't something i even think of in terms of chemistry, sure it's important to be physically attracted to a date but for me the chemistry is in the interactions, what we talk about, how we talk, how we make each other laugh or think or feel... Without that a date is just a nice looking person you had dinner with.
Lust doesn't really get a look in.
 
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I will say on the first date, for me I have to be physically attracted to the person and then be more attracted to the mind behind the body, but I don't know yet if it will work if it is reversed, ie mind and then body hmmm...

I have to think about that )
 
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Harvey7 wrote :
During the first date you should get the opportunity catch each other scent, as in fragrance or smell A hint of something imminent; a suggestion:that stimulates all of your senses. Hum'm Smells Good!

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Very true, Harvey7!
I feel we as humans forget how primal, we as a race ,USED to be. Someone can be physically attractive but their smell/scent{not cologne}can be a complete turn off.pay attention to your "neanderthaloid self"!
 
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solbe is offline solbe Post #76  July 30,2009, 4:46pm
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First two dates. If the spark isn't there, it won't ever be.
 
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Josiejones is offline Josiejones Post #77  July 31,2009, 8:47pm
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You definitely need 1-2 dates to be sure. Sometimes it is pure physical attraction. You need to use the five senses to make sure this is it. Seeing, smelling, hearing, tasting and touching. Can you picture this? I think only then can you determine if you have chemistry.
 
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Titha is offline Titha Post #78  August 4,2009, 10:39pm
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I've always just stayed in a state of "crush" on someone or another, but he's never really aware. I think it's all about being a girl.
 
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