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View Poll Results: How many dates does it take you to determine physical chemistry/attraction?
1-2 dates 104 73.24%
3-5 dates 33 23.24%
6-10 dates 3 2.11%
10+ dates 2 1.41%
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I just thought I would throw out a question more for fun than anything else. How long does it take you to determine whether or not there is physical attraction/chemistry with someone? Usually, I know within the first 1-2 dates.
Also, will you continue to date someone you are not initially attracted to in order to see if something develops? I think more women would do this than men, but I could be wrong.
For me, it is 1-2 date. I will NOT continue to date someone if I am not attracted within the 1st or 2nd date.
- June 17th, 2009, 12:28 pm
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For all you "instant" chemistry people how is this working out for you? Reading both the posts here and in any of the other threads on this subject it would seem that it hasn't / isn't as there is usually some reference to your divorce. Of course it could be that you and I define long term success differently.

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1st date. There was only one man that I went on a date with the second time to figure out if there was chemistry because he was very shy. And there was not chemistry.
- June 17th, 2009, 01:16 pm
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There needs to be an option for 2-3 hours.
- June 17th, 2009, 01:23 pm
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My most recent experience would say less than 1 hour - prior to that I usually gave it a date or two.
- June 17th, 2009, 01:49 pm
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Sexual chemistry, the first 30 seconds. I'd say 1-2 dates regarding a connection though.
- June 17th, 2009, 02:22 pm
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When you first set eyes on her, hear her voice in person and she wraps her arms around you for that first kiss. If you don't feel any chemistry then, you don't have any. AND, I don't mean tiggling in your pants chemistry, true chemistry is a whole inner melting experience when it's true (with many tiggles). Yes, I agree, this does happen on the first date and if you can't stop thinking about her, well...
- June 17th, 2009, 07:27 pm
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I must admit that I'm a little surprised at the overwhelmingly high percentage of those who make determinations on attraction and chemistry in 5 dates or less. Don't get me wrong these are similar numbers to what I expect happens in real life, but given some of the recent discussions it was suggested that there are a lot of people who take much longer and will even date someone for months if there is nothing there just to see what develops. I was really skeptical that there were that many that actually felt that way, but hey you never know.

It's also interesting because most who participate on these boards are women, and yet again these numbers are very high. It would seem to indicate that men and women feel more similar on this issue than what we might be led to believe. Of course I'm sure there are a varied amount of differences in terms of how each person comes to this determination and what are the main factors they consider, but the timetables seem relatively the same.
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I think on the first date I can decide whether or not there is chemistry or not. I mean one can feel a spark online and then meet and not have chemistry. The first date really determines if there is going to be a second or more.
I want to know why this is??
- June 18th, 2009, 10:40 pm
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