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Emme is offline Emme Post #1  June 15,2009, 6:08pm

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How to I couch the above description of myself into a way that makes me sound reasonably attractive to a man worth my time? While I am certainly all of the things listed, I am also (allegedly) funny, smart, kind, love kids and sports, highly educated and adventurous. I'm almost 48, never married (had offers, didn't see the point since I didn't want kids) and now would like to find a kind, smart, gentle man to spend time with outdoors kayaking or canoeing, lying in a hammock listening to a game, having a beer in a pub, maybe snuggling and all that comes with that. Is there anyone out there fitting this description who lives near new england? I should say I'm also financially secure, own myown home, etc. Not a gold digger and don't want one, either.
 
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Seems that you have a great deal to offer. However I don't live anywhere near New England, don't much like sports (except F1 racing) and don't drink beer.
 
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cp30 is offline cp30 Post #3  June 15,2009, 6:18pm

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welcome back emme

I think that is pretty much the perfect description! I've realized latley that so many of us try so hard to be postive in our descriptions we can come off sounding too good to be true, or unapproachable, or like any amount of imperfection would send the other person running (what I get when I read some profiles of people who are always "happy" and always want to be made "happy" man those people annoy me).

I realize that a lot of people probably do this without realizing it and are probably more approachable than they seem....but are probably turning off large amounts of people by rattling off about how awesome and adventerous and great thier life lived to the fullest is.

I like your description. And I think its needed in the dating world and you should be scooped up quick. Tell them about your car problems or something, they will be all over that! lol. (inside joke...)

I think i want to redo my profile and add some "negativity"....lol. I want someone that I can be comfortable with, and to draw someone that, who will respect and appreciate me...but also be able to be themself and let loose too.

Rainbows and sunshine are SO yesterday, in my opinion. I imagine most men would want to contact you just for being funny and not a huge cliche. It would also weed out the newbs who have not had a chance to get tired yet of "living life to the fullest" awesomeness.
 
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Good to see you, CP. I've missed the old gang. I'm not sure negativity is the way to go, but I'm quite aware of my bad as well as my good points and think it fair to express both. I mean, I am a whole package. I have been on SO many atrocious dates from another website I had to give this one a last chance before packing it in. I don't think my expectations are that high. Good conversation, common interests, physical attraction, sense of humor, intelligence, living within his financial means... that's about it. Income, education, kids, NASCAR negotiable, though hunting is not. This just seems so hard. I see chubbier crankier women than I in stores all the time screeching at ther husbands and I wonder how they have a guy and I don't. Maybe I should go back to my theory that I just need a lot more cats. :-)
 
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I think all that you are writing here is striking a nice balance... I like it....balanced and funny! Yeah, negative was a poor word choice. But it is obvoius that you are genuine, probably are harder on yourself than need be, (self depreciating but confident) humility will draw people to you I think. But it is hard to be humble and confident at the same time, but you do it well! I'd like to capture that myself and put that in my profile with the same witty balance.

witty...see I hate that word. It's like the people that describe themselves as dry, witty and sarcastic. Okay...sure....well that makes them sound like a jerk. Sometimes things are better shown than described. Your humor and intelligence comes through without saying "hi, I'm funny and smart"

I'd say its a good night for profile writing!
 
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #6  June 15,2009, 6:33pm
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Hi....I think a challenge is to convey what you mean....rather than what someone else might erroneously think of when reading your profile. For example, 'cranky' can mean quite a range of things. This could indicate someone who is willing to admit and it open about having a range of moods (such as being 'cranky')....or, for example, it could mean someone who is generally unpleasant and of a foul temper. As cp30 wrote putting things that show your humaness can be good....just try to convey clearly what you mean by these.
 
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I am going to differ with. JayJay! If this is your last hurrah into the dating world - I say go full borg and completely be yourself.

Yeah, probably lead into the cranky, imperfect chubby old gal comment. But I have heard (read is more accurate) you are really funny so I am sure you will have no problem getting the you you want to get across. And if you look at as who cares, just go for it - it probably will be pretty easy to accomplish I would imagine or at least, easier then it ever has been....maybe?
 
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LizziePooh wrote :
I am going to differ with. JayJay! If this is your last hurrah into the dating world - I say go full borg and completely be yourself.

Yeah, probably lead into the cranky, imperfect chubby old gal comment. But I have heard (read is more accurate) you are really funny so I am sure you will have no problem getting the you you want to get across. And if you look at as who cares, just go for it - it probably will be pretty easy to accomplish I would imagine or at least, easier then it ever has been....maybe?
I can buy that. I don't know exactly what type of man Emme is looking for....but I'd agree that if she'd be interested in a man who similarly wrote "Cranky, imperfect, chubby old dude"....then further clarification might not be necessary.
 
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I love it, Emme!
One of the things that my fiance and I are really enjoying about this relationship is the lack of pretense at our ages - we got very comfortable with our "warts and all" selves very fast; and we were both good and tired of online dating site cliches. (He told me he was skipping all profiles that said the lady enjoyed "walks on the beach" and "living life to the fullest", for example). He's probably not the only one. I suspect there will be men who will very much appreciate your new approach as a breath of fresh air!
 
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It's good to see you back, Emme!

Personally, I love the tagline. It's attention grabbing - if a guy wrote something similar, I'd be inclined to take a closer look. We all have great qualities but being able to recognise and have humour about our less than positive ones, is attractive.
 
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