This article is rather insulting to men. Especially honest, GOOD MEN, who really are looking for The One.
Hey, how about THIS reason for the guy going "poof":
"If you misrepresent yourself in your online photo, he may stay quiet about it and be nice just to get through the date, but chances are he's a little upset that you look 10 years older and/or 50 pounds heavier - in all the wrong places - than your photo. He'll go POOF because he realizes that not only is there no physical attraction, but that YOU cannot be trusted".
Honesty is NOT a one-way street.
It seems contradictory to me to have to make myself "poof proof" while trying to make a friendship that will lead to an emotional and physical connection. I can't open myself up to someone and protect my feelings at the same time.
The article is stereo typping, which is something I find offensive. I, for one, would never even consider vanishing, unless I had to. But I know that some men just do, and that's it's often by choice for some reason, that only they know. However, I've never been such a man.
After seven dates a face to face explanation? I just had a guy dump me after dating him for five months. Never even actual told me he was dumping me. Just let me figure it out on my own. So who is going to inforce that. And they wonder why women get crazy...
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I used to do this in my youth.
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