Anyone read "Act like a lady....Think like a man" If so what's your opinion?


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Levigirl is offline Levigirl Post #1  June 13,2009, 9:33am
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I just finished Steve Harvey's "Act like a lady.... Think like a man" I thought it was a great book (one of the better relationship books I have read). A lot of my thoughts and perceptions were nailed right on the head. I don't think that all men think a like but I think the average is pretty high. I wondered as I was reading it if "Act like a man.....Think like a lady" was in the works lol. But, then again based on Harvey's perception of men. What man would read it

My thought of women (being one) is that you have a range from high maintenance to low maintenance . I think we pretty much all want to be loved in the same way I just think the degree very's. In my opinion ,I think that's why some women are harder to please and why men say they have such a hard time figuring us out.
 
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Good afternoon Levigirl,

Using the "search" function at the top right of your screen, you can search (and will find) a few recent threads which have discussed this book.

I personally have not read the book, but I did read those threads. I think the subject of greatest interest was that women should not sleep with a man they're dating for at least 90 days. The general consensus was that most people should wait longer to have sex, but don't necessarily need to wait for 90 days.

As for your statement, "I think we [women] pretty much all want to be loved in the same way I just think the degree varies," I believe that women sometimes believe men are just supposed to "know" what they want [sometimes without discussing it], but often forget that every woman is different. Communication is everything.
 
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I have not read it yet but am looking forward to reading it if it ever gets on the shelf of my library.

I have watched the Oprah shows relating to this book and have read the online chapters.
 
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Good afternoon Levigirl,

Using the "search" function at the top right of your screen, you can search (and will find) a few recent threads which have discussed this book.

I personally have not read the book, but I did read those threads. I think the subject of greatest interest was that women should not sleep with a man they're dating for at least 90 days. The general consensus was that most people should wait longer to have sex, but don't necessarily need to wait for 90 days.

As for your statement, "I think we [women] pretty much all want to be loved in the same way I just think the degree varies," I believe that women sometimes believe men are just supposed to "know" what they want [sometimes without discussing it], but often forget that every woman is different. Communication is everything.
When you start a new job you are usually on a probationary status for 90 days. Why would you be anymore interested in pushing a true relationship into fast forward?
 
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Yes, I have read his book. I found it a pretty fast read- but there are parts that I'll want to reread from time to time I think. Some of it was familiar, common sense stuff like how some women can be like sports fish and others are keepers. One idea I liked was the chapter on three things every man needs: "Support, Loyalty, and The Cookie" That was right after the one where he said a man's love is all there if he's doing three things- profess, provide and protect. I don't know if these things have been discussed here already, but he made some interesting points.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
When you start a new job you are usually on a probationary status for 90 days. Why would you be anymore interested in pushing a true relationship into fast forward?
I can wait 90 days to get full benefits. I may not be as willing to wait 90 to have sex while dating.
 
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I think the 90 days is not meant to be literal. But what Steve Harvey was trying to say IMHHO was that couples should wait longer before having sex in most cases. I agree with that idea. I think his 90 days is a rule of thumb to give women (and men) an idea of how much time to give a relationship to develop in other intellectual, emotional and behavioral areas. Here, at EHA we have seen that quite a few people have written in to ask why their love interest with whom they were sexually active has dumped them in less than 90 days. So here they are, having taken the health risks before knowing if the new honey is right for them. I feel that for me, having sex is an exchange of a deeper emotional expression, just as saying "I love you." How soon will that happen?
 
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Arh, but Steve Harvey's been married 3 times and I'm pretty sure he has no kids ... I kinda think he don't pactice what he preaches
 
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Sometimes the people with the best advice are the ones that have learned the hard way and tried something different and succeeded.
 
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Monica1 wrote :
Sometimes the people with the best advice are the ones that have learned the hard way and tried something different and succeeded.
I agree Monical. It's just like when I am trying to teach my teenage children something and I tell them that "yeah, maybe I didn't do such and such the right way but after making the same mistake a few times I learned." We all make mistakes and the lesson is that we should learn to do better the next time that situation comes up. Takes some of us longer than others.

While I don't agree 100% with what Steve says I think the book has some great information and gave me more insight into how men think.
 
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