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IcecreamMoon wrote :
I'm going to have to disagree with you here.
Your online dating profile is not your autobiography, nor does it define who you are as a person. Let's bring a litte realism in to this. Your profile is actually and advertisement your create for yourself. When you think of creating an ad, you always have to consider your target audience. No matter how much you tell people of your love for travel or karaoke, if it falls on deaf ears, it's rather useless.

I'm by no means saying that you need to use false advertisement. All lies are eventually discovered and rarely result in anything positive. What I'm saying is that you need to select the most appealing qualities and promote them.

If you are really passionate about travel, then by all means talk about it. But don't just tell me 'I love to travel' - it can mean many things and nothing at the same time. tell me why, tell me where you've been that affected you the most.

I'm by no means saying that I know it all, but I know it works I'm actually not on EH, I'm on Match, where people can freely browse all profiles. Remember I said that I don't directly mention my love for travel? Well, I don't. But if someone does not get it from my profile, then I probably do not want to meet them at all

I actually have a short paragaph in my profile, describing my ideal day. Im my dream I'm revisiting some of my favourite destinations in the world and telling them why those destinations are so special and what I'd like to do there. It's a little tongue-in-cheek, but this is the part that gets the most positive responses, both from my target audience, as well as others. I even had a couple of women contact me to compliment me and offer to introduce me to their brothers, sons, etc Most people say that they want to travel with me and experience what I've described. All that from 3 sentences.

So yes, please talk about travel if it's one of your passions, but explain your reasons for liking it so much.

Thank you for your thoughts, IcecreamMoon
Now it is me who is going to have to disagree with you here

"Your online dating profile is not your autobiography, nor does it define who you are as a person. "

Really? I do not think so. To my mind, interests that people state in their profile can say much about their inner life.

"So yes, please talk about travel if it's one of your passions, but explain your reasons for liking it so much"

Agree in the whole, but just a little comment.

When you indicate cooking, music, movie etc as your interests in your profile, you also explain your reasons for liking it so much or you prefer to give detailes during communication?
If the latter, then why travelling is an exception?

As for target audience, I believe that my target audience does not consider travelling as an interst I have to make excuse for or give a lot of explanations, details, reasons etc in my profile!
- June 13th, 2009, 11:58 pm
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Briolette wrote :
My thoughts exactly!


Thank you for your sharing!
I love to travel first class, and that means not only comfortable hotels, and good village cheese and bread in the market, but it also means meeting locals on my way who love to share the best of their remarkable town. That's why I travel alone, to meet people, to explore the cultural treasures which are missed if you have to slow up for a partner- unless they are someone like you, Briolette, or someone as enthusiastic as I am, about art, and archeology, and culture- my partner to be! And as far as the first class thing-I'm paying.
- June 14th, 2009, 12:15 am
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sabete2002 wrote :
.......It's not just about international travel either. Road trips to destinations within the US are just as interesting to me. In short, I don't want someone who is content to just stay in his own little world. And I don't want or need someone to pay for me. Just someone to share the adventure.
Bingo! I have just started a relationship and love to travel. BUT, I work for an airline so time is way more of a factor than money. Air fare is little to absolute zero. And just to share in these ventures with me, I put him as my free pass companion so that he can come with and we don't pay air fare even on spontaneous weekends. I just wanted him to come share with me and not a "sugar daddy".

Jeez, a girl can't even mention travel anymore without the assumption of being a golddigger.
- June 14th, 2009, 12:30 am
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Well.....

Ladies and some of gentlemen,

Thank you for your support and positive thoughts!

Sincerely yours,

Briolette
- June 14th, 2009, 12:50 am
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Bandmate,
1. Travel is not always cheap, nor is it always expensive. It's a very relative term. Buying a house is not cheap, but most of us have a need for housing (primary need). Theater tickets are not cheap, but most of us have intellectual and cultural needs (secondary, but no less important when looking at a human being, rather than an animal), both men and women. Most of us work very hard to earn money, and if we can't spend some of that money on what we really enjoy doing, then what's the point of living? Just to ensure survival of the species?

2. Travel can be time consuming, but we have weekends and holiday leave. Why can we not dedicate some of that time to doing what we enjoy?

I never said that listing travel was a way to find out about the financial condition of a potential mate ALL THE TIME...i have only suggested that it can be a possibility.I remember a thread once by a woman who was of the opinion that putting any reference to sex in one's must haves was a sign of trouble,now since EH offers that as an option i suppose the motive for including it can be both good and bad...and that is all i have suggested,that it can be positively or negatively motivated.
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neardc wrote :
Of course, people have said over and over again on these boards that there are many ways to make travel affordable for nearly everyone, but it's also a matter of balancing financial priorities, including whatever you spend on hobbies, recreation, "vices," etc.

So, what is your price point before you consider a vacation or weekend trip to be unaffordable for you? $50? $100? $500? $1,000? What defines "cheap" and what defines "too much" for you?

Of course it takes time to go somewhere. It takes time to stay home, too. Most people who work have weekends off and earn some annual leave. Not all people do (e.g., if you are self-employed you don't earn leave, and if you are in an hourly job you may not) so they have to build that time off into their budget. That is within reach for most people who want to make travel a priority.

(Oh; and Sabete - great post!)

How many threads have there been with women judging what men put in their profiles ? remember the shoe thread where women said you could judge a man by his shoes?
- June 14th, 2009, 05:02 am
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Currently my profile is blank, because I have turned off matching to focus on things other than dating, however, I often list travel as one of the things I enjoy. I grew up with a father who was a pilot and traveled extensively when I was younger. So for me travel has a sense of nostalgia for me. Also I have an insatiable desire to explore and learn new things. I don't generally get specific when I put "travel" in my profile. There are also many other things I do not define. My feeling is that a profile is an introduction and if someone wants to know more about me then they should make the effort to do so. If they do not, that is not my problem. I don't understand why people in general are too lazy to take the time to ask questions, get to know someone. I am an extremely busy person and could easily still run out of time if my days were 30-40 hours long. But if I'm putting myself out there to meet someone I'm going to put in the time and energy to do it. For those who can't be bothered to delve a little deeper, I have to ask... why are you even trying to date?
- June 15th, 2009, 11:16 am
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You mean I could have had a billionaire for a picture of me in a bikini?
- June 15th, 2009, 11:32 am
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sabete2002 wrote :
In fairness, there isn't a whole lot of space to go into much detail about anything on a profile whether on eh or anywhere else. Why not get to OC and ask them to elaborate on how they define travel? As with so many things, we can interpret what a match lists in their profile in so many different ways. By asking the question directly you can find out what they mean for sure.
I get a fair number of matches who take the time/effort to be very descriptive in their profiles (though it's sadly a minority). Why waste my time going through guided communication and OC with the ones who don't? Are you suggesting that I just initiate communication with every woman who vaguely mentions that she "loves to travel" in the hope that our travel interests are the same?

Sorry, but that whole concept suggests selfishness on the other's part. I have more important things to do than guess the interests of women who choose to post vague profiles.
- June 18th, 2009, 06:51 am
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Mayne wrote :
When I see women discuss how much they "love to travel" in their profile, the immediate thought that comes to mind is they're looking for a sugar daddy to bankroll their sightseeing tours across the globe... especially when the profile photos consist of her in bikinis at various exotic locations with the ex photo-shopped out of the picture...

any other guys feel that way?
Well, Mayne, you certainly got a response. You asked for guys feeling that way, and got a few guys to weigh in...but us gals got in it too--as tends to happen here. Problem with open forums is you get open responses!

Just my two cents, twice:
  • I love to travel. Been doing it all my life. Military kid who didn't stop when she grew past the family moves. I still travel, and usually alone. I like it that way. So no sugar daddy involved, k?
  • If a guy says on his profile "Love to travel", shall I assume he is seeking a sugarmama?
Hope you feel as though you got your answer on your thread responses, somewhere. I've found I usually do. Good luck to you in your search.
- June 18th, 2009, 07:42 am
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