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Briolette is offline Briolette Post #11  June 13,2009, 5:11am
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The problem I have with "love to travel" in women's profiles is that it's a ridiculously vague term.

If your idea of travel is clothes shopping in the great cities of Europe, we aren't going to be compatible.

If your idea of travel is that you never want to spend a weekend at home, we aren't going to be compatible. If your idea of travel are cruises and fancy guided tours, we probably aren't going to be compatible. I love to go see history and the wonders of nature, get off the beaten path and see what the tourists don't see, eat where the tourists don't eat. I travel to do things, not just for the sake of travel, and if we don't like to do the same things, "travel" is not going to be any fun.

It's just like the women who "love the beach/ocean". Once again, incredibly vague. If you just want to go sit on a beach and read a book. Boring! If there are things you like to do at the beach, list them.

When I see one liners with "travel" or "beach" in a woman's profile, I just skip them over like the other vague profiles on dating sites. Women with stuff like this either don't know what they like/enjoy in life or were too lazy to think about what to say in their profile.

I usually assume the profiles with photos in bikinis at various exotic locations are scammers anyhow.


Probably you should ask questions before coming to conclusion?
Are not you afraid to miss anything special?

For a lot of women "love to travel" does not mean: shopping in the great cities of Europe, "never want to spend a weekend at home", etc.

A world is so huge, and there are a lot of women in the world (do not kill me, ladies, for revealing our secrets) who just hate shopping , but like travelling!
There are also a lot of women who spend their money and their vacation for travelling.

But you will never be aware of this and many other interesting things will pass over you, if you will take the world, women, and events only in "black and white".
 
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As for myself, I am interested in a travel/life companion/equal partner who is open and goes w/ the flow and celebrates the differences and who accepts that we each have preferences... but they are just that...preferences. I'm interested in someone who lives in the yes, who is flexible and adapts.

I prefer to get to know someone through communicating and revealing ourselves to one another; to mutually discover and explore who another is, and to be discovered by another. I have no interest in "listing" or in filling out a life resume for many others to disect; I would qualify this as "lazily" "selling" myself to the masses; I am interested in KNOWING who another really is; I'm most willing to invest myself, my time, my energy, my presence and attention in ONE person, and I want the same from another. This to me is a far more emotionally healthy and exciting worthwhile approach. It's also respectful of myself and a potential partner.

As a healthy adult, I need to play and to pursue my passions. Two happen to be travel and poker. I win my entries and travel expenses for two to these tournaments; not easy, yet I embrace and enjoy the challenge, as I need and want to be challenged. I also want a partner who is emotionally supportive and who is independent and free-spirited and who understands that there will be days when I am sitting at a poker table for 10-16 hours a day. It's a whole body experience and requires much presence. I'm not out partying; I eat healthy, exercise, meditate, get enough sleep, practice yoga. Sometimes, I have gone w/ a partner a week early or the week after, for us to mutually explore and discover together...and he needs to pay his own way for that week. I'm responsible for my half; and I'm not just talking finances. I mean I am responsibe for what I bring to a relationship, my half, the only half I can maturely support; I expect the same.

I am also interested and accepting of what he wants to do, his interests, what he enjoys...even as it will be different from me. I don't want boring sameness.

To me, men who use the word sugar daddy, aren't one; they are simply making another assumption w/o any proof.

Unfortunately, a few days before this tourney, my partner at the time, his 14 year old daughter was arrested, hence a photo of my idiot friends of 18 and 23 years to my left, and a fellow poker player to my right. My friends, who live miles apart from me, came through for me.

If my matches assume that the man in my photo is my ex or former SO, I gladly let them. I prefer to ask questions and LISTEN. I want to be intrigued by who another is.

To me, assumptions are false. I prefer to give another the freedom to tell me where he is coming from, what he means, than to assume that somehow I already know who he is. I don't, nor do I assume to, nor would I want to.

I'm glad to discover that b/c I'm wearing a bikini in an exotic location that means I'm a scammer.
 
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Excuse me a second, I have to guide the generalization bus in here to pick everyone up!

People who don't travel are closed minded? I would call that closed minded. I like to travel, but don't get to often. I don't know all the ways to travel cheaply and have never been out of the country. My mom never wanted to leave it as a kid, and in my teenage years I made a lot of mistakes, some of which I am still fixing, that have kept me from having the time and money. I don't see how that makes me closed minded. I read a lot of history and other reference material on my own time. I know about other cultures even if I haven't gotten to experience them. And what about people who are afraid of flying? are they closed minded too because they don't travel? Total bull...

I was on the side of people traveling but now I am starting to think traveling makes one pretentious. But that would be a generalization so I'll get on my own bus.

This thread was horridly presumptuous when it started and it just became more of a string of insulting comments against everyone. Travel and the desire to do it or lack thereof, no matter if you are male or female, does not make one a gold-digger or a closed minded automaton. Maybe the reason so many of us need advice boards is because we jump to conclusions about people, make assumptions about people's and group's character, and/or are sometimes just extremely rude (like me here.)
 
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Czidvar wrote :
Excuse me a second, I have to guide the generalization bus in here to pick everyone up!

People who don't travel are closed minded? I would call that closed minded. I like to travel, but don't get to often. I don't know all the ways to travel cheaply and have never been out of the country. My mom never wanted to leave it as a kid, and in my teenage years I made a lot of mistakes, some of which I am still fixing, that have kept me from having the time and money. I don't see how that makes me closed minded. I read a lot of history and other reference material on my own time. I know about other cultures even if I haven't gotten to experience them. And what about people who are afraid of flying? are they closed minded too because they don't travel? Total bull...

I was on the side of people traveling but now I am starting to think traveling makes one pretentious. But that would be a generalization so I'll get on my own bus.

This thread was horridly presumptuous when it started and it just became more of a string of insulting comments against everyone. Travel and the desire to do it or lack thereof, no matter if you are male or female, does not make one a gold-digger or a closed minded automaton. Maybe the reason so many of us need advice boards is because we jump to conclusions about people, make assumptions about people's and group's character, and/or are sometimes just extremely rude (like me here.)
Czidvar,

I understand where you're coming from. But I will say this, from my personal experience: You can read the books and watch the videos, but I don't think one can fully understand and appreciate another culture unless one travels to that culture. My travels have taught me that much of what I've learned (in school, through the media, etc.) is untrue...about the culture, about the people, and sometimes how they feel about Americans.

If one would like to experience other cultures and just has not had the opportunity to do so, that's one thing. But when someone refuses to experience other cultures because of xenophobia (I'm not saying this is you), that is close-minded.

I believe this also includes travel within the U.S. The Northeast culture is different from the Southeast, which is different from the Midwest, the Southwest, the Northwest, etc. Traveling this country helps Americans understand each other, and I think that's a good start. Hopefully you'll eventually have more opportunities to travel...you'll be glad you did!
 
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Briolette wrote :
Why you did not stated it directly in your profile?!
What are you afraid of? To be yourself?

To my mind you have nothing to be ashamed of!
If I were you, I would be proud of such kind of world"s perception. You were so frank in this post!

I am not entitled to advise you, but , to my mind, if you really wish to meet the right person for yourself, you should be Honest from the beginning to the end and be yourself!
Because it has no relevance to my choice of partners. I don't put a lot of things on my dating profile for that same reason. They are not definitive of me as a person. This is what getting to know people in real life is about. And if you read the posts above, saying you that you love to travel does not actually say anything, it only seems to confuse men about our travel habits or reasons for listing it
 
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IcecreamMoon wrote :
Because it has no relevance to my choice of partners. I don't put a lot of things on my dating profile for that same reason. They are not definitive of me as a person. This is what getting to know people in real life is about. And if you read the posts above, saying you that you love to travel does not actually say anything, it only seems to confuse men about our travel habits or reasons for listing it
LOL!

I always try to avoid men who are easy confused and scared.

Maybe they have some problems with selfesteem?
 
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I don't love to travel. I need to. And my profile clearly indicates that. And my profile does not explain that I can afford to do it on my own. If a man closes me because he thinks I'm trying to have a man pays for my travel just because I love to travel, then I am thankful that such a negative person is out of my dating pool.

Yet so far I have received more requests to communicate that I can handle.

So ladies, my personal advice is to be yourself, because there are more than enough men out there who will not close you simply because you love to travel and be honest about it in your profile.
 
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there was a thread on typical lines in a profile.

"Likes to travel" is one of them. Along with "Likes long walks" "loves to snuggle" blah blah.

I just think the person wants to sound personable and not a shut-in.
 
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Briolette wrote :
Probably you should ask questions before coming to conclusion?
Are not you afraid to miss anything special?

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But you will never be aware of this and many other interesting things will pass over you, if you will take the world, women, and events only in "black and white".
What's your point? "Travel" is incredibly vague. I've met women online with "travel" in their profile who'd never been out of my state! Sorry, I don't find that "special". I don't have the time to waste communicating with every woman who just puts "loves to travel" in her profile because it would be nearly all of them.

So, yes, I suppose it is like "black and white". If you choose to only put the vaguest of terms in your profile, people will always choose to go for other people's profiles that are more descriptive.
 
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Czidvar wrote :
Excuse me a second, I have to guide the generalization bus in here to pick everyone up!

People who don't travel are closed minded? I would call that closed minded. I like to travel, but don't get to often. I don't know all the ways to travel cheaply and have never been out of the country. My mom never wanted to leave it as a kid, and in my teenage years I made a lot of mistakes, some of which I am still fixing, that have kept me from having the time and money. I don't see how that makes me closed minded. I read a lot of history and other reference material on my own time. I know about other cultures even if I haven't gotten to experience them. And what about people who are afraid of flying? are they closed minded too because they don't travel? Total bull...

I was on the side of people traveling but now I am starting to think traveling makes one pretentious. But that would be a generalization so I'll get on my own bus.

This thread was horridly presumptuous when it started and it just became more of a string of insulting comments against everyone. Travel and the desire to do it or lack thereof, no matter if you are male or female, does not make one a gold-digger or a closed minded automaton. Maybe the reason so many of us need advice boards is because we jump to conclusions about people, make assumptions about people's and group's character, and/or are sometimes just extremely rude (like me here.)

Let me please explain my point of view on the subject.

Please, note, this is my personal point of view and quite probably it does not coincide with other ones.

I am afraid there is some misunderstanding here.
To my mind people who does not travel on one or other reason can not be considered as closed minded.
But I think that persons who consider people which like travelling and are not afraid of indicating this in their profiles, as ones who are looking for financial support or sugar-daddy etc, can be considered that way. And again , this is my personal perception.

Who say that "travelling " in profile means to travel much?
Probably a person who mentioned about travelling can afford it twice a year, may be once? But s/he likes and enjoy it. What is wrong if they indicate it as an interest?
How mush should anyone to go abroad during a year to be entitled to indicate travelling as an interest and not to be considered as gold-digger?

You "like to travel, but do not get it too often". Why you say that you are "on the side of people traveling "?
You are people who is travellingand it does not matter how often you do it.
Even if I could not afford to travel, for me it would not mean that someting is wrong with me. That would mean the only thing: now I have no opportunity to travel, but since I like it I will do my best to make money to realize my desires.
 
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