Mybella is offline Mybella Post #1  June 12,2009, 5:22pm
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What were the cicumstances? And how did it end?

I'm meeting someone for the first time tomorrow for lunch at 2pm in my town after 3 weeks of emails and 1 week of phone calls..he is coming over an hour away to meet me.

Not sure how i feel about this, other than
i'm getting nervous now!
 
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Where do I start? Yes, quite a few.

The trick that works well for me is to stop thinking about him as a "date" (at least to some degree), and start thinking of him as just another person, who is probably also a little nervous.

Also, if you are communicating/dating more than one person now, I would recommend to go back over his profile and your communications prior to the meeting, and look for common interests or questions you can ask. This helps avoid awkward silences during the first date, until you've built the rapport.

Other than that, try to relax, enjoy and have fun!
 
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It's only awkward if you make it so. Go with an open mind and have fun with it and don't think of it as "I'm about to meet the one." Instead look at it as "I'm about to meet a fun and interesting person."
 
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Most of us have had an awkward meeting or three. I've found that one way to minimize this is to take some of the focus off "you and me" by engaging in an activity of some sort, rather than just sitting opposite one another in a coffee shop or similar venue (slightly akin to an interview). A walk through a park or botanical garden, playing mini golf, going to a wine tasting, or playing a sport together are some ideas to try.
 
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Ron wrote :
Most of us have had an awkward meeting or three. I've found that one way to minimize this is to take some of the focus off "you and me" by engaging in an activity of some sort, rather than just sitting opposite one another in a coffee shop or similar venue (slightly akin to an interview). A walk through a park or botanical garden, playing mini golf, going to a wine tasting, or playing a sport together are some ideas to try.
The zoo is awesome.
 
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DancingFool wrote :
It's only awkward if you make it so. Go with an open mind and have fun with it and don't think of it as "I'm about to meet the one." Instead look at it as "I'm about to meet a fun and interesting person."
Yes!
 
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