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christianlife is offline christianlife Post #1  June 12,2009, 10:06am
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When I first bought a house a few years ago, I sought every bit of advice, books, etc. I could get, so I could make an informed decision. The #1 thing I learned:

location, location, location!

Why? Because you can always change the house, the yard, the driveway, etc. but you can't change the location.

That said, I hear they're getting better at reversing vasectomies these days.

If it matters, the #2 best piece of home buying advice I got was that it's better to buy a house that's not the best looking one in the neighborhood, over the best looking one in another neighborhood. But, I'm not sure if that has any practical use in dating.

I shouldn't ask, and no answer is necessary, but, the guy has 4-3 of his own and the fourth is his ex-wife's? Where'd the other 3 come from? Thin air?
 
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Yes vasectomies are reversable. It is not pleasant from what I hear but it is reversable. A friend of mine who had two children in his first marriage had a vasectomy after the 2nd one was born. He divorced and is now remarried. His new wife did not have children so he had it reversed and they are now the proud parents of a baby girl.

This is kind of a weird thing to me to be discussing before you've met (asking if he would consider reversal) so you'll have to decide if its worth it to you to pursue this knowing in the end he may say he has no intention of reversing his vasectomy. Good luck.
 
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trailviews wrote :
When I first bought a house a few years ago, I sought every bit of advice, books, etc. I could get, so I could make an informed decision. The #1 thing I learned:

location, location, location!

Why? Because you can always change the house, the yard, the driveway, etc. but you can't change the location.

That said, I hear they're getting better at reversing vasectomies these days.

If it matters, the #2 best piece of home buying advice I got was that it's better to buy a house that's not the best looking one in the neighborhood, over the best looking one in another neighborhood. But, I'm not sure if that has any practical use in dating.

I shouldn't ask, and no answer is necessary, but, the guy has 4-3 of his own and the fourth is his ex-wife's? Where'd the other 3 come from? Thin air?
Three of his children are his with his exwife and the fourth was his exwife's child from a previous relationship.The child was five when they married(She's now grown) and he loves her very much.
 
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christianlife wrote :
Three of his children are his with his exwife and the fourth was his exwife's child from a previous relationship.The child was five when they married(She's now grown) and he loves her very much.
That makes more sense. Thanks.
 
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I just wanted to give everybody an update on Mr V.(Mr Vasectomy) He asked me out on the same day I write this post.Anyways,he called and asked if I would like to get a drink, after he got back from tennis(about 9:30 or so)I hesitated a little about that because I would be sitting down talking and I thought that would be really hard for me but I said I would.Anyways,we met at 9:30,I was a little nervous but not for long.Even before I started drinking,I felt pretty comfortable with him.It was nice.We talked about various things.We danced which was really fun.I haven't danced in a long time so it felt good to dance.I love dancing!He said he wasn't much of a dancer but he was a good sport and danced with me and seemed to have fun.We talked and danced from about 9:30-12:15 a.m.He said he was getting tired and would need to call it a night.I told him I would need to stay a little bit so my alcohol would wear off.He said he would stay a little longer with me.At 12:30,he said he needed to call it a night.I said I was going to stay alittle longer because my alcohol hadn't wore off and he asked if I was going to be o.k. I said I
would be fine and then he told me good bye.After he left,some guy came up to me and asked me what happened to the guy I was with.I told him that he was tired and he went home.He asked me if I wanted to dance.He didn't seem creepy so I accepted.I needed to stay anyway so why not enjoy myself, until I was ready to go home.Anyways,I danced several fast songs with the guy and had alot of fun.He held onto my hand at one point and spun me around a few times but when I swung back, I could feel how sweaty he was, so it was kind of gross and I let go of his hand but we danced for a bit more.After awhile, he said he needed to get some water and I sat back at my table and watched everybody.He danced with some other girls.I watched everybody for awhile and then I went home.The next morning,Mr.V e-mailed me and said that he had a nice time the night before but he had felt uncomfortable leaving me at the bar.He said that he was having alot of legal issues with his children(He had talked a little about this the night before) and wasn't in a position to have more children and because of that and the fact that I was a night owl,he didn't know if we were really compatible.He said alot of really sad things about stuff that was going on, that I don't really want to talk about.We exchanged a few e-mails after that and I ended up telling him that I was here, if he ever wanted to talk or go hiking.He told me thank you.Well, I guess I don't need to worry about the vasectomy thing, since this guy didn't work out.I seem to be getting better about my nervousness,though.Hopefully,this date wasn't a fluke and I'll be more comfortable with the next guy.
 
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I am sorry to hear that things did not work out. FYI for next time. Vasectomies are reversible, but it is considered major surgery as the person has to be under plus they are doing microsurgery. Good Luck
 
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Are you really sure you want to have another child at your age? There are a lot of risks and complications. (I'm not making a wisecrack here, I am being serious).
 
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trailviews wrote :
When I first bought a house a few years ago, I sought every bit of advice, books, etc. I could get, so I could make an informed decision. The #1 thing I learned:

location, location, location!

Why? Because you can always change the house, the yard, the driveway, etc. but you can't change the location.

That said, I hear they're getting better at reversing vasectomies these days.

If it matters, the #2 best piece of home buying advice I got was that it's better to buy a house that's not the best looking one in the neighborhood, over the best looking one in another neighborhood. But, I'm not sure if that has any practical use in dating.

I shouldn't ask, and no answer is necessary, but, the guy has 4-3 of his own and the fourth is his ex-wife's? Where'd the other 3 come from? Thin air?
Before the vasectomy.
 
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