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I met a girl a couple about a month and a half ago. We went on a couple of dates and things were great. She works crazy hours in a high stress work environment. From time to time, I would send little motivational texts to lift her spirts. About a two weeks ago, we went to a baseball game. My favorite team was visiting and she knew how bad I wanted to go and somehow she came across tickets so she invited me. We had drinks before the game and shared a pretty good kiss after.

The problems started after that night. I'm not sure what it was but our communication almost came to a stand still. She said she was really stressed at work and I've tried to communicate to her that I'm willing to be there for her in whatever way she needs. I feel almost like she's lost interest. We dont talk on the phone anymore and I'm confused. I understand her job is stressful but it takes no time to shoot a text. I believe she doesnt like to open up and is closing the door on me. As you can see, I feel like we have potential for more but I'm not accustomed to being in this situation. Help me out.
- June 11th, 2009, 07:45 am
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Hey, the same thing happened to me.She likes you But, there is someone else in her life.Work is an excuse to keep you lingering untill she makes a change.That could be a life time...Sorry
- June 11th, 2009, 08:03 am
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From my point of view (a girl's), it sounds like you hit the nail on the head, sounds like she has lost interest. I'm sorry. :-( Maybe just give her a quick call or text and say you know she has been busy but when she does get some time freed up to holler at you. That leaves the door open.
- June 11th, 2009, 08:28 am
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She's just not that into you.

Dude, you're only 25. There'll be plenty more where she came from. Don't worry. Just keep on keepin' on.
- June 11th, 2009, 08:53 am
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Sounds like for whatever reason she lost interest in you. I'm busy, but I'll keep in touch with someone I really like, especially when he is making the effort as well. Work is pretty much always an excuse.
- June 11th, 2009, 09:08 am
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Another possibility is that she really does like you, and fears that if she falls for you it would affect her work. Instead of admitting all of that to you, she acts as if she isn't interested. I'm not dispelling the other theory -- it's a solid one -- but it's not the only possibility.
- June 11th, 2009, 09:49 am
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tweet37 wrote :
She's just not that into you.

Dude, you're only 25. There'll be plenty more where she came from. Don't worry. Just keep on keepin' on.
I agree!

The start of a relationship or dating should not be this difficult, if it is move on.
- June 11th, 2009, 11:19 am
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I remember from years and years ago my sister-in-law - who generally but not always has good insight into such matters - saying that if a woman is UNSURE about you, the [first] kiss will make her decide. Maybe that's what happened.
- June 11th, 2009, 11:44 am
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Dear Whiz-not,
Don't be surprised if you wind up with a lump of coal in your X-Mas stocking! What does your lady want? It is called "Savoir Fair". The ability to say or do the right or graceful thing.

She went to considerable trouble to acquire tickets for the baseball game so the both of you could see your favorite team play. " We had drinks before the game and shared a pretty good kiss after." (is something missing?)

What did you do for her to show your appreciation and how you feel about her? Did you send her flowers and a box of chocolates with a nice thank you note? Did you take her out for a nice dinner after the game? You sent her: " I would send little motivational texts to lift her spirts." The problem is that your behaving like a high school kid and not a man that wants to sweep her off her feet. I don't think texting really cuts for her. She went to bat for you and you dropped the ball.

You could try texting her an invitation to join you for a nice dinner and see what kind of reply that you get from her? Don't apologize for anything because you did nothing to apologize for with the exception of a lack of some creative thinking as a date. Take her dancing after dinner and have fun. If she turns you down then you know where you stand and that she needs a mature playmate.

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- June 11th, 2009, 12:53 pm
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Thanks for all the advice. I know I'm only 25 and in no way am I pushing the envelope on anything so thanks again.
- June 12th, 2009, 08:15 am
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