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I would go further and state that I do not value intelligence (intelligence in and of itself). Intelligence means nothing about the kind of person you are...and that is what is important to me...the kind of person you are.
Last edited by LizziePooh; October 15th, 2009 at 06:14 pm. Reason: What does "in and of itself" really mean?? Is that even right?? lol!
- October 15th, 2009, 06:10 pm
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shoopthedoop wrote :
Here's how it could work.

Say 80% smart with education. 60% without. How's that for increasing your chances.

Self-deceptive? How so?
Self-deceptive because you're setting up a filter that appears logical and looks good in theory but is pretty much useless in practice.

What determines whether someone gets a degree or not (exceptions made for degrees earned as independent adults) is sometimes more along the lines of fulfilling familial expectations or using more readily available resources. The kid who learns carpentry isn't less intelligent, he's choosing to make a living doing what makes him happy or being supportive of a family that needs his income.

I always wonder how many men have passed on me after seeing I don't have at least a 4 year degree. But then I realize that I'm not the one missing out on an intelligent and caring woman, they are.
- October 15th, 2009, 06:14 pm
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chawks64 wrote :
I always wonder how many men have passed on me after seeing I don't have at least a 4 year degree. But then I realize that I'm not the one missing out on an intelligent and caring woman, they are.
People use a lot of filters for dating. Height and weight being two of the largest, which have been discussed ad nauseum in other threads.

I wouldn't close just based on education, but will consider it as part of the package of going forward with matches.

If someone comes across as interesting and bright on their profile I will definitely pursue them. If I enjoy interacting with them and find out they don't have a university degree I wouldn't care.

I have education as one notch above 'somewhat important' on my eH backgrounds and beliefs. That's probably an accurate description of my feelings on the issue.
- October 15th, 2009, 06:36 pm
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shoopthedoop wrote :
People use a lot of filters for dating. Height and weight being two of the largest, which have been discussed ad nauseum in other threads.

I wouldn't close just based on education, but will consider it as part of the package of going forward with matches.

If someone comes across as interesting and bright on their profile I will definitely pursue them. If I enjoy interacting with them and find out they don't have a university degree I wouldn't care.

I have education as one notch above 'somewhat important' on my eH backgrounds and beliefs. That's probably an accurate description of my feelings on the issue.
Let me guess interesting means, Hottie with big ta-tas!
- October 15th, 2009, 06:42 pm
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Let me guess interesting means, Hottie with big ta-tas!
Carp. I lose on that one, too.
- October 15th, 2009, 06:57 pm
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bigfincat wrote :
Probabilities are meant for sorting through large amounts of data that cannot be sorted through individually or even physically. I don't see that as being the case with dating.

Do you really have that many prospects where you need to use such methods to manage them? (especially a method that proves to be inaccurate at times).

When sorting through the women that I meet IRL & on the 2 dating sites that I use, my filter for location, physical & personality traits make for a very managable number.
That's just what I was thinking.
- October 15th, 2009, 07:12 pm
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chawks64 wrote :
Carp. I lose on that one, too.
Nah.. in my book Chawks.. A sense of humor trumps that anyday!
- October 15th, 2009, 07:28 pm
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Nah.. in my book Chawks.. A sense of humor trumps that anyday!
- October 15th, 2009, 07:32 pm
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How do I get a giant smilie blowing some heart kisses at me?
- October 15th, 2009, 07:47 pm
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I agree with D_Lion. I could careless about a guy's income or what he owns. As long as he has motivation to do something (anything that's not against the law), I don't care the kind of job. He can be a millionaire or blue collar minimum wage.

However, education is high on the list. I used to didn't feel like that, but I'm beginning to find that I can communicate better and have more in common with men who have a good education.
You said it. I never cared before but looking back I need someone that has some education. I met a friend on here who decided that they would only date women with grad degree and once he did that found a great person. He said he just realized that that was the kind of person he liked.

I would have never thought in a million years I would think this way but I believe he is on to something. It just makes life easier if you are kinda on the same wavelength that was.
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