Does be want to date me or just be friends? Guys, what do you think?


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CY is offline CY Post #1  June 10,2009, 11:20am
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I have been on 6 dates with a guy and all he has done is sat close to me on the couch and massaged my leg for a long time in a non-friendship way for long time and a couple of not so long kisses but long close hugs goodnight. I am really confused. I am told I have a very good figure and I am pretty but I am 2 years older than he is. So my BIG question is ---does he just want to be friends? What do you guys think? And to my fellow females, has this ever happened to you and how did it turn out??
 
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I'd think that usually you can tell. Look him in the eyes, if he looks away to avoid eye contact then he may not be interested.

I think usually you can tell. Make a move and see where it gets you. Just something simple like get close and see his reaction.
 
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CY wrote :
I have been on 6 dates with a guy and all he has done is sat close to me on the couch and massaged my leg for a long time in a non-friendship way for long time and a couple of not so long kisses but long close hugs goodnight. I am really confused. I am told I have a very good figure and I am pretty but I am 2 years older than he is. So my BIG question is ---does he just want to be friends? What do you guys think? And to my fellow females, has this ever happened to you and how did it turn out??
See items in bold. Those things are not "just friends" activities.

He's interested, but for some reason, taking his time. Maybe he's not sure how you feel after 6 dates. Have you told him that you like him, and that you would like to keep seeing him?

My advice is to kiss him the way you want to be kissed, and see how he reacts. You also need to have an honest discussion with him. It is perfectly okay for you to ask him if he likes you, and wants to keep seeing you. In fact, it's kind of important that you know.

Best of luck to you!

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He wants to make a move. Guys pattern their behavior from their experiences. It's not an easy thing to do when you're expected to be the initiator. When it comes to physical intimacy, initiating is at times a crapshoot. I don't fault the guy for not having made another move yet, but long kisses and a long leg massage? If a woman I'm actually dating allows me to give her a long leg massage (shoulder massages can arguably be considered neutral territory, but legs?), I'm going to assume she would be open to a little more than that.

If you really like him and are ready for more, give him an obvious sign...caress his face, big smile, move in a little closer, etc. Hopefully he'll get the hint. But I think he's definitely interested.
 
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When I make a move on someone I tend to calibrate her response. If I kiss/massage/gaze and someone seems uncomfortable, frigid or passive; I'll take that as a red light for the moment.

How are you responding towards his advances? Are you being receptive or coy and aloof?
 
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Look at it this way...
If I could not stand a person I was with or if I wanted someone to remain as a friend; I would not massage someone's leg or kiss them longer for 1/2 second. I wouldn't want the person to take those signs out of context. Hugs, pecks on the cheek and terms like buddy would indicate friend-like behaviors.
 
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He may be too polite to "go for it."

Like others have said. Try to give a green light, and see what he does. If he's too dense to get the green light try getting more aggressive with him (depending on how far you want to go of course).

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I can definitely say that in my younger days you could have been waiting along time for me to make a move considering how shy I was. If he is masssaging your leg and you like him move his hand a little higher. As suggested kiss him like you want to be kissed. I know first hand if a girl gave me a really good kiss I took that as a go ahead and in some cases she had to break off the kiss to come up for air. Good luck
 
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angelofmerci wrote :
I can definitely say that in my younger days you could have been waiting along time for me to make a move considering how shy I was. If he is masssaging your leg and you like him move his hand a little higher. As suggested kiss him like you want to be kissed. I know first hand if a girl gave me a really good kiss I took that as a go ahead and in some cases she had to break off the kiss to come up for air. Good luck
Coming from your fellow female, I was going to say something very similar. I only dated a younger guy only once (5 years difference), and I found that he was a little intimidated, and needed a little more encouragement than older guys. He is definitely showing interest in you though. So yeah, next time he starts massaging your leg, adjust the position of your leg accordingly and kiss him passionately at the same time
 
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