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neardc is offline neardc Post #31  July 14,2010, 1:38am
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Johnny - That was a heck of a lot of effort to put into a response to a post that's over a year old...lol! That OP is long gone from this site.

As a general tip, it's always a good idea to look at the posting date of the first post and to read the last few posts before posting. Unfortunately, it's not that unusual here for threads to be brought back after having long ago been buried (how someone even managed to find this one, I can't imagine...).
 
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neardc wrote :
Johnny - That was a heck of a lot of effort to put into a response to a post that's over a year old...lol! That OP is long gone from this site.

As a general tip, it's always a good idea to look at the posting date of the first post and to read the last few posts before posting. Unfortunately, it's not that unusual here for threads to be brought back after having long ago been buried (how someone even managed to find this one, I can't imagine...).
Not that much effort- just a few mins while drinking a cup of coffee, i can skim read and type fast when something annoys me! Just hope no man thinks this is a good way to behave with women.
 
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FebruaryStars is offline FebruaryStars Post #33  July 14,2010, 4:53am
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simp - "a guy who acts all tough like he doesn't care about his girlfriend around his friends but acts all whipped in front of his girlfriend"
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I have never heard of a simp...lol.
 
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annother is offline annother Post #34  July 14,2010, 7:16am
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I know this is an old thread and that the OP is probably no longer reading the posts, but it is still an interesting topic--especially to someone who is or has been in that kind of situation.

Many of us think that financial reciprocity is an expectation of a good relationship, but we may make the mistake of applying that principle to relationships that are not well established.

When I was married, there were times when my husband provided income and I didn't and there were times when I provided income and he didn't. Neither of us felt as though we were being sk a mmed. It was a longterm commited relationship and it didn't matter where the income came from so long as there was mutual trust and support.

I made the mistake of thinking that when one falls in love, this is how one behaves. It was a costly error. I contributed financially to a new relationship and it took me a long while to realize there was no reciprocity to be expected.

So, yes, the OP made an error in judgement, but I don't think that makes him a sap, or a wimp, or a "simp." I also don't think he was bartering money for sex, although sex was a part of the relationship he was hoping for. I think that he thought people in love give each other what they can, and he gave money, a truck, and a lot of affection. That makes him one of the good guys, even if his understanding of the relationship was "off."
 
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sooo many men make this mistake- they make up for their lack of "game" with their wallets.

it's the same as men boinking women they have no intention of calling again when they know that's why she's boinking him.

men that lead with their wallets attract golddiggers/users. period. they should know better.
 
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